toriaaaaTRASH

When I was in hospital last week, they were actually trying to get this woman to have pain relief and she wouldn't. I thought she was a complete idiot to be honest. She was crying in pain..

Rachel

When I was in labour with Nathan I kept asking for pain relief, pethidine, epidural, anything! but the midwife didn't bother checking how dilated I was and by time she did I was 8cm so I had gas and air after that point but had the midwife checked me earlier like I had asked then I would have had all the pain relief I could have. I was in pain and I wanted it to stop and there was things available to help with the pain and I wanted them but never got to because of that stupid cow

I never wanted a c-section because I watched a programme on them when pregnant and it put me off but had Nathans life been in danger then I would have definately had one and wouldn't feel like I'd failed because I didn't give birth the natural way. I am glad I got to have a natural birth but had I needed a c-section then I wouldn't have felt like i'd failed or anything.

This time I want to give birth naturally and with only gas and air but if I need a section then im not going to feel bad about it and I will prob be begging for an epidural

At the end of the day I just want my baby in my arms safely at the end of it all and if thats by section, natural birth, with or without drugs I don't care aslong as my baby arrives safely

missjess

It's such a personal choice... I admire the women who go through it naturally without pain meds but I could never go through that. Medicine is really good now a days, personally I don't think it's worth going through so much pain !

Holldoll

On the Business of Being Born, one of the OBs points out that in the US the C-section rates increase at 4:00 pm and 10:00 pm. That's not because women can't have babies at that time, it's that the doctors want to go home. That is the problem with uninformed women listening to the doctors! Just because they want dinner is not a reason to have a C-section. I think what people forget is a c-section is MAJOR surgery! I had open heart surgery and I had surgery on my ovaries, the pain and the recovery were NO DIFFERENT!!

Liz

i totally agree with u lol!! u dnt get any brownie points either way so wots the difference?! if women want it natural no dugs no nothing then all the best to ya but i believe its not how its dun its the END result! which ever way u do it u all get the same result at the end which is the true magic of childbirth.

marley2580

Strangely enough, I didn't want pain relief - it never even crossed my mind. Why? Because it wasn't that sore, it wasn't like conventional pain, I could handle it.

Kina

Maybe she didn't want her baby to be affected by the drugs?

What some people are forgetting is that it's not just the mother that are affected by the drugs that are giving during childbirth, the baby is too. This can cause problems afterwards with breastfeeding etc as often the baby is too sleepy to feed.
I only know how my labours felt, but they weren't that bad except near the end. I can't imagine wanting to go through having a needle put in my spine to numb my body and I've heard that pethidine doesn't really do a lot apart from make you feel sick and your baby drowsy.
I don't think I'm a superiour mother because I didn't have the drugs, but I can see it from a different angle.

Layla

I had epidurals on all mine apart from Adam, i aways got to 5cm and knew if the pain got worse i wouldnt be able to handle it so i had it done.

but on Adam i didnt have anytime to get one and i remember thinking, my god im going to have to do this with no pain relaife! but it truely wasnt that bad, the pain didnt get worse like i thought it would, it stayed the same and i suprised myself by giving birth with nothing.

For my next one i will be having a home birth coz now i know that i dont need drugs

x

tinytoes

is baby not also affected by the stress and screaming? I dunno, just a thought. I wouldnt fancy being squeezed through a small hole and listening to screams and feeling stress for 32 hours...but i dont know, I'm no doctor (god, wouldnt it be easier if we were?!)Just being picked out of the belly c-section style seems somehow more rleaxed?! A bit of a shock maybe though.

..not that I'm saying I'll be doing a Tom Cruise and opting for a silent birth if I do push this baby out!! Crikey no - If I do give birth no doubt I'll be swearing with the best of them (close your ears baby!)

beanie

nope, unless you believe in scientology. The baby does experience a degree of stress but that is in relation to the actual birth and contractions. They do pick up on emotions but a woman can feel more fear when drugged up then when not (I felt a lot calmer and in control with my second birth) As for a c-section the baby is all off a sudden born - personally I would get a bit more of a shock if someone opened up the roof of my house and picked me up then if I left through the front door.

I agree with Kina in relation to the woman screaming her head off. I was begging to go to the hospital all the way through Cally's birth, I was crying, the lot but my friends and OH who were there were very strong and kept telling me I didn't need them and didn't want them and they were right and I am glad they stuck to my original plans.

I also found that in the hospital they are very quick to dish out the pain relief instead of suggesting alternatives to it such as keeping mobile etc. At home I had no choice so found other ways to deal with it such as focusing on my breathing, essential oils, homeopathy, warm bath etc whereas as soon as I got to the hospital they offered me pethadine straight away.