being scared is natural for young mother to be. i'm ten years older than you and i'm scared about my first pregnancy!

you are going to want to tell your parents. not telling them is a mistake. i'm sure they will be a little more than shocked, then maybe upset/mad. but in the end i'm sure they will accept it. you are going to need your parents help and support. even if things go south with your parents, you said your boyfriends parents are being supportive and you can use their help. anyway you look at it, you are going to need to tell your parents.

if you and your boyfriend come to the conclusion that you don't want the baby you two conceived, PLEASE consider adoption vs abortion. don't just end a baby's life because you don't think you can handle what you have done. it's not fair to the baby. please give the baby a chance for life with a couple that is wanting a baby.

i've know many girls while i was in high school that got pregnant. every now and then i see some of these girls with their children and they would not have changed a thing in their lives.

there is no reason you can't go to college when you have a child. there is no reason that you can't have a great career while you have a child. it IS going to take hard work on your part, but you can do it sweety. you arn't the first / nor the last teen that has gotten pregnant and can make something out of them selves.

there are programs out there where you can get help with going to school, daycare for your child, help with money, and help with food.

you just need to relax and take one step at a time. calm down and talk with your boyfriend. what does he want to do?

hi hun,
first of all I would like to say, my own personal experience I've had an abortion AND a miscarriage....comparing the two is like comparing night and day....the first time I got pregnant I was 17 and in my first semester of college, I was terrified and unfortunately I didnt have the support of anyone including my boyfriend, I was scared to death to tell my parents so being young and stupid I went through with an abortion, first of all, it's the most painful thing I've ever experienced in my whole life, second of all I regret it EVERY SINGLE DAY.....years later I got married to my wonderful husband and we started trying for kids, I had a miscarriage last year and I was devastated, I believed that I was somehow being punished by God for my previous abortion. Abortion is just plain wrong, I know I sound hypocritical but it's true, I hate myself all the time for what I have done, I regret it not once in awhile but EVERY SINGLE DAY, at 6 weeks pregnant your baby allready has a heartbeat, your his or her only defense against the world, and I know that it seems hard and you are scared, I was too at 17, but believe me if you have the baby you will be truly happy and you will be amazed at how much happiness the baby will bring to your life, but if you go through abortion you will live with the guilt every single day of your life, believe me because I do....Sorry I'm rambling now, good luck to you hun, in the end only you can decide but I hope you will be smarter then I was at that age

i've had an abortion at 18 in college as well and yes i do regret it every single day! but i'm not going to tell you not to do it. in your situation, however i do think you are smart enough and you have the support to have the child and raise it, which i didn't at all. and if you want to give it up for adoption, you could do that too. it is ultimately up to you. don't let anyone make you feel bad about your choices. do what's best for you hun!!! just keep in mind with abortion might come guilt and regret on your part and probably your boyfriend too. with raising the child will come great responsibility and hard work and with adoption you are possibly giving a precious gift to a very deserving woman or couple out there and at the same time will be able to experience the wonder of pregnancy and giving birth, but that could also leave a void in your heart that your child is out there being taken care of by someone else. that's my outlook on it. hope i helped and i hope you get some clarity soon. don't let ANYONE here make you feel bad about your choices!! not ANYONE.

So I understand that this response is going to make me unpopular with the other ladies who have posted and I usually don't chime in to these things but I think it's only fair for you to have an alternative perspective.

People have strong opinions on abortion. You will always get people on either side of the fence being staunch and persuasive. In the end, you have EVERY RIGHT to make the choice that makes the most sense in your OWN head & heart. Regardless of what you choose at this stage, as long as you do what feels like the right thing for YOU, I believe you will have made the best decision possible.

There are people who have abortions who will tell you that they have always regretted it and that abortion is wrong. I am not trying to invalidate their feelings or beliefs. But just because it was wrong for them doesn't mean that it is wrong for you. I had an abortion, and while it was a very difficult thing to do, a tough choice to make, and a painful experience to go through, I have never regretted that choice. I know people who have judged me and I know that more people will judge me for that, but I did what I did because I knew it was the wrong time in my life, I was not emotionally fit to handle a pregnancy and baby, and I still believe that the choice I made was the correct one for me. It allowed me to get to a place in my own life where I do feel capable of everything I could not do then. It allowed me to get to a place where I could revel in the joy of pregnancy and preparing for a child, with a heart whole and full and a life stable enough to raise a baby the way I want it to be raised. I do not think abortion in the early stages is inherently wrong. I do understand that it can be wrong for some people, especially if they are upholding certain religious beliefs or otherwise. But that is why it is important to emphasize that it is entirely up to YOU, and what feels right to YOU.

I am 21 weeks pregnant, and I have loved this baby from the beginning, and in large part that love was a choice. I chose to open my heart to the idea of motherhood, and to the concept of the child growing inside me. I cannot imagine losing my baby, and I am so grateful that I am getting a chance to be a mother. My boyfriend and I talked about the option of abortion when we found out that we were pregnant, but I simply knew in my heart that I couldn't go through with it. I listened to myself this time, just like I did last time. Neither choice that you make is wrong, unless something inside YOU tells you it is. Please don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

Good luck and I'm sorry you have to make such a tough choice.

i agree!!! not unpopular with me!

Don't mean to be a prude here, but there are forums rules & conduct

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I was just under 17 when I had my first. I will not lie it was hard, I struggled to support us and finish school. without the support of my mom there I doubt i could of done it.

you have choices, it is your baby and your body. personally i could never choose abortion, or adoption but sweetie only you know what you can and can not handle.

My suggestion is you take a deep breath and and deep look inside your heart and mind.

you should talk to your mom, because no matter what you decide to do she will be your greatest help.


I have known women that have had an abortion and regretted it forever, and were never able to concieve again. but I have also know ones that know they did the right thing for them, and have children now.

I have had losses, and i understand the ladies saying how this hurts them, they are speaking from thier hurt hearts. You need to understand that. so of course if we were able to choose for you abortion would be out of the question, but it is not our choice.

I do not want to sound too harsh but you have some very hard adult decisions ahead of you. but you are strong and whatever you choose to do please be sure it is a informed decision. and remember you do not have to do it alone.

Great post

When I was 17 I also had an abortion. In my situation there was no other option, I did not grow up in a good home and had no support. At that time in my life it was the decision I had to make and I have never regretted it. I knew the environment that it would be born into and could not bring a child into that. Like everyone has said, this is a personal decision and you have to do what is right for you. You are in my thoughts as I know this is a tough time.

I feel blessed with my current pregnancy but know I made the right decision at that time in my life.

I had my daughter when i was 17! was a single parent from when she was about 4months, it was hard work! now she is 18 and i dont think she could handle the responsibility, money, lack of sleep etc, i managed and enjoyed it... only u know whats best for you....Good Luck