duejan19th

i think if a man is feeling uncomfortable and in pain with a foreskin then he should have it cut as it would be unfair to suffer for no reason when it can be cured, but i have a 6 year old son and have never thought about having him circumsized before as i feel that when he grows up he can make that decision on his own and i will support him in whatever he decides i just dont feel its mine or his dads place to decide what happens to his "BITS"...lol, he never complains of any pain or discomfort so i see no need to put him through it for no reason, although my OH has had a few problems with his skin, once we made love and i was not lubed up enough...sorry TMI and as he went in his skin pulled back a bit too far and ripped slightly but there was alot of blood involved, i felt so bad and everytime after that we had sex he had to wear a condom to stop the friction it was very sore for him and it took a good few months for it to heal completly, i told him we shouldnt make love until it heals but nothing keeps my OH from sex i can tell u...lol, i spoke to him about having it cut but he refused point blank, i dont find it unattractive that he has skin i think im just used to it but i must say a cut man does look more appealing and sexy.

yumumleelou

glad you agreed on the first part, that was what i said! it should be the childs decision. but... your other half should have bit his lip and gone for the chop!
if he is in pain the hospital asured us that the length of pain should be from a week to three, but no sex for up to three weeks and the stitches disolve so no added trips to the hospital wa hay x x x x x
sorry if i have upset anyone! x x x

Jenny

LOL this topic has been swung around the loops the last few months. Nobody has gotten nasty though, thats why I love this forum

We didn't get my son circumcised mostly because we didn't want to see him in pain (hadn't done any research on it before hand). My hubby had no objection to it and he is circumcised, in his point of view its all to do with looks in North America, I completely agree. I'm pretty sure if being uncircumcised was the norm here that it would be more widely accepted instead of boys being made fun of while growing up. I don't agree with getting a boy circumcised just because the dad is, it doesn't seem right to me. Seems like it should be something that they should decide to do as an adult. Granted, it would hurt and all but its their penis and not ours.Now, theres the hygienic point of view of getting it done, if you teach your son to wash it it right then theres no problem. So why do it? I know its also done for religious reasons and I can understand that but also don't agree with that reasoning if I'm honest.

I've also heard that men that have the foreskin intact experience more pleasure during sex than men without, and its more sensitive. I've heard women also agree that sex is more enjoyable for them with a man thats uncircumcised.

In summary, its unnecessary in my opinion. Don't do it because it looks better, or because you don't want your child being made fun of etc like I said in a previous post, you're feeding into the whole needing to look perfect thing in a society obsessed with it.

PS. To those that think it doesn't hurt the baby all that much, I suggest you watch a video of a boy being circumcised, I did the last time this topic was brought up and it brought me to tears. I don't know how you can think it doesn't.

Rachel

I have boy already and am expecting another but I haven't/won't be getting it done.

I just see it as unnecessary and would only do it for medical reaons. I'd rather leave it upto them and if they want it done when they are older then it's their decision.

I don't think it's that common to have it done anyway though in the UK.

lifeguard

We definitely will not. My DH is not & it has never been an issue in any way - either with pain for him or cleanliness. I have also heard that men who are uncircumcised get more enjoyment from sex because they are more sensitive (because the foreskin covers things most of the time when it is all exposed it is supersensitive).

I definitely feel it is unnecessary & find the cleanliness thing a weak argument (sorry - don't mean to offend) but if a little girl can her genitals clean a little boy can handle pulling a little skin back to clean.

I also find a circumcised one just looks so vulnerable & raw. I just could not cause unnecessary pain to my child. I know for some it later becomes a problem - but that is the minority not the norm.

kookie

hey my boy is 3months old now and we want him done both my other boys were done im from aust to but in victoria i have to get a referral from my dr at 4 months to see the surgeon he'll be done at 6 months under anasthetic takes approx 20 mins i never had any problems when my other 2 were done at the same age dont know if it'd be the same there but i do know only a few surgeons still do the procedure and wont do it till there 6 months so its safe for anesthetic i went through public hospital only had to pay for first visit before op the rest was covered by medicare.

tinkerbelll

i would just like to say i have 3 sons and each one of them was done at 6 weeks, they were awake during the op but were given pain relief, not one of them cried while having it done or any time after. all the boys in my family have been done too and nobody as ever had a problem, i think the younger they are when they get it done the better

Sarah88

Hey kookie- Is it the same in QLD that you know? I would really like my boy (if I have one) to be cut, and if it's done under anaesthetic then it's good. Did your other boys feel any pain? how much did it cost you?

zdk786

hi all

we had our son circumcised when he was 3 months old and i have to say if i have another boy i will definantly get it done again, my son had his done due to his religion but even if he wasnt muslim i would still have got this done as it is so much cleaner health wise,

it only took 5 mins and he didnt even cry!!! yes i was shocked too but he did cry the first time he urinated though, other than that it was all cleared up within 5 days

hope this helps

xx

Samantha675

I would never circumcise my son. My DH is not cut, and since I don't have a penis, it is not my call.