rwhite

Here's my situation. I've always really wanted a little girl, I can't really explain my reasoning, and in a way wonder why I should have to. Of course one of each gender would be lovely, and if I were to have three kids would prefer to have two boys and a girl (again, not sure why this is, it's just a feeling ).

My older sister has three children, all boys. I love them to pieces and they are absolute gems, but I can't help but worry that I may never have a daughter, just as she didn't.

A few weeks ago I found out that my OH and I were expecting a lovely healthy wee baby boy, and of course I was very pleased to know who exactly I have on board so to speak but at the same time I couldn't help but feel sick to my stomach with concern that I would never have a little girl.

It's ridiculous, but every time I see one of you lovely ladies make an announcement that you're on Team Pink it makes me feel a little jaded (don't get me wrong though, very happy to be on Team Blue! Just scared) because I feel as if I'm never destined to have a daughter.

Hope this makes sense to people, please don't be too harsh about it...I'm not meaning to sound selfish because I know at the end of the day all that matters is a healthy bubs, and I can't wait to meet our little guy. I just don't know how to shake this irrational feeling. I guess that at least this is our first child and if I'm wanting a daughter I can always test out the crazy gender selection schemes, right?

So...has anyone else been in this situation, or is feeling this way currently? Sorry for the essay

MUMOF5

I can kind of understand, when I found out I was pregnant again I knew from the outset that I depply wanted it to be a girl (although I already have three girls ), mainly because Evie will be so close in age to this one, I thought it would be nice for her to have a sister and secondly my youngest son has autism, and the chance of having another sibling with autism (especially if a boy) is a lot lot higher, theres a much lower risk of having a daughter with autism. Although I obviously love him to bits he does need an awful lot of attention and I was really worried about how Id deal with having another autistic child, as well as the effects it would have on my other children.

So what im trying to say is that we all (or a lot of us) have our reasons for wanting a preferred gender, and we cant help how we feel. xx

rwhite

Evie is so gorgeous, I'm pleased you got the little sister for her that you were hoping for

Thanks for reading and understanding Interesting that you should mention the autism factor with your little man, because my OH has mild Asperger's and his youngest sister has quite a severe case. So the risk is very much there that our wee guy will have Asperger's. I'm not too worried and it wouldn't affect anything, it may just be a little challenging, but I can see how having a daughter would eliminate that risk a bit.

Pippin

Hey hon. I too wanted a little girl if it's the only baby I have but like you I got a boy. Seriously once he was born all my feelings for a girl left and I wouldn't change him for the world. It's different when it's your own I promise. It also means I get to have another couple of goes

agreeksmom

im feeling the same i really want a boy i think its a boy and im kinda worried if its a girl that i wont love it as much. I reAlly want a boy..

rwhite

Thanks Pippin Your wee guy is so gorgeous. I love my little man so much already and I can't wait to meet him, I just can't shake the feeling...hehe. But you're very right about having another couple of goes x

Fingers crossed that you'll hear you're on Team Blue agreeksmom! Be sure to make a board when you know Love the names you've chosen, too xx I'm sure either way you'll love your baby whatever gender they are, because after all they're a part of you! But I do understand what you mean. Blue baby dust for you

codegirl

I was convinced I was having a girl. I didn't find out ahead of time what we were having so when DH leaned over and said "it's a boy" I was disappointed for a second or two, I even thought "where's my little girl" but once I held him, the feeling went away and I can't imagine having anyone but little Edward.

rwhite

It would be tricky waiting until the birth, I figured perhaps it was a good idea to find out early and nip it in the bud and indeed I have...
Edward is so gorgeous, I think I have seen you post elsewhere with pictures of the funny faces he makes, what a sweetheart! You're one lucky mummy

MiissMuffet

aww huni, everyone has different feelings about different things and i know heap of girls in your situation. Honestly hun you will bond with him as a wee boy so well and you won't wish it any different. I know this isn't what u were getting at but at the end of the day you are going to be soo happy with your wee boy xxx

Rozie_1985

I know exactly how you feel hunny, i was desperate for a boy. I can't explain how awful it felt to think i was having a girl. I think it was clear i would have gender dissapointment. I had to find out so i could deal with her being a girl if need be. Thankfully we found out on Friday its a little boy and the sonographer was 99.9% sure so we are over the moon. The way i felt about a boy was totally different to a girl, i wanted a boy first for so many more reasons. I am not a girly girl i love sports and designer clothes and boys things lol. I cried my eyes out when they told us he was a boy on Friday i was over the moon and felt so blessed. I always pictured us with a boy first then a girl. Its not easy to admit to gender dissapointment and i was lucky to avoid it this time, i know not everyone is as lucky. xxx