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Old 19-02-2008, 09:09 AM   #1
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theres no telling some people!!!!


i went to night school last night and a girl on my course came up to me rubbed my belly and started talking to the none bump.... only 11 weeks
i myself wouldnt just go up to someone and rub their stomache so anyway i said to her
"what the frig are you doing, you dont just go up to someone and touch them like that"
and she looked all shocked at me and said
"well your pregnant its what happens"
and then tried to touch my belly again i was absolutely fumin then i shouted at her
"is there something wrong with you ve just told you not to touch me !!! did i turn into a freak show for you to poke and prod when i became pregnant??? i'm not even showing or anything and i definately dont want anyone randomly touching me not now or ever"
she acted like i had just committed a heinous crime and said
"well ive never had anyone say that to me before"
nobodies said it to her before probably because they're in absolute shock shes had the gall to do it.
WHY THE FUCK WOULD ANYONE THINK THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO TOUCH JUST COS IM PREGNANT
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Old 19-02-2008, 09:31 AM   #2
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I'm completely with you on this! I have been having the same issues recently with people just touching my belly without asking. Personally I feel like it's a bit creepy & I can't stand people doing it to me.

The only people I don't mind doing it without asking is my OH (obviously), my sister and my closest friends. I even hate my mum doing it but like most people on here know, I don't get on with her that well.

She was saying to me yesterday when I was at the hospital how she wouldn't dream of touching my stomach unless I said it was ok because she knows it makes me uncomfortable - then she went and did it twice!! The 2nd time he wasn't even kicking and she had her hand on my stomach for ages even though I was saying "what are you doing, he isn't even moving!!".

She was also staring at my bump the whole time she was there. I hate it when people do that too, like they've never seen a pregnant woman before! For some reason people were especially doing it at the airport!
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Old 19-02-2008, 09:35 AM   #3
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it annoys me im only 11 weeks as my oh says theres no point touchin cos theres not a bump its just bloating
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Old 19-02-2008, 11:13 AM   #4
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my boss does it all the time.

I dont mind really. It's just a little rub. A bit of love towards baby.

It is what people do......i find it a little harsh to shout at them.
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Old 19-02-2008, 12:07 PM   #5
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i disagree tinytoes its ok if you personally want them to but i dont its my belly not theirs. and to be honest i think its rude of people to just touch me without atleast askin if its okay. ive never done it to anyone who was pregnant and i dont expect other people to do it to me. and its not like i know this girl shes just on my course, i might let a close friend or a relative if they asked but not a virtual stranger.
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Old 19-02-2008, 12:17 PM   #6
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i do know what you mean. hoenstly i do. My boss isnt exactly the person I'd like to rub my belly. but she does it. lots of people do.
While it might not be right, i wouldnt shout at them for it - they're just getting exited. thats all. it's not meant to be invasive. Even if it feels weird.
And remember our hormones can make us react in extreme ways.
I found soemone had put away my bowls in the wrong place the other day..for a split second I was ready to kill!
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I dont mind - only person that does it really is my mum sometimes and a lady at work .
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I would mind people that aren't family or close friends touching my stomach. I like my personal space and get very uncomfortable when it's invaded.
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I totally understand you Vickilouise! The only person I feel comfortable touching my bump is OH, even my family and close friends I don't really feel comfortable. I hate when people try to get too close and invade my ''bubble'' !
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Old 19-02-2008, 13:28 PM   #10
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why is it suddenly ok for people i hardly have more than a couple of conversations a week with to start touching me.
could be classed as assault really,
it creeps me out sayin that the girl in question is a weirdo. always asks really personal questions and noses into peoples lives she acts like a child aswell if someone gets a better mark in an assignment than her. sad really shes suposed to be 24 not 4
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