I was really worried about my OH seeing all that goes on during child birth and to be honest I'm still a little concerned about him being at the business end. I really want him there though because I can't imagine going through something like that without his support. I've found my feelings on the issue have changed loads to what they were only 2 or 3 months ago.

It makes me laugh when you see people on TV "giving birth" - no wonder we get scared. All that screaming, crazy sweating and ugly face pulling, although I probably did a lot of the latter lol.

My boyfriend was amazing, I was living with my mum at the time and he was at work. I text him at 8am and said I thought this was it! and his mum drove him down to us straight away. It was so cute as I was having a very bad contraction as he walked in, so I could see the look of fear on his face and he was cuddling and telling me I could squeeze his hand if I needed (I didn't need to aww) but I made up for it later when I was biting his shoulders!

After that he took over, let me lean on him as I couldn't sit or lay down, let me bite him. He was really good for the emotional and physical support and at one point he went to the loo whilst I was in labour and I panicked and couldn't carry on almost until he got back - not easy when you're getting the urge to push! he gave me back massages, lots of nice encouragement. I had my mum in the room too, all girls need their mum I think as it really helped to know she had been through it before. I could see the concern in her eyes, she was excellent too!! all the support you can get, them being there is enough but anything else is great.

Sorry I waffled a bit, I get carried away!

Well I shat myself when I heard the woman next door to me - Whoever was next door to me probably wanted to run Nah I had a bit of a bad ish end though.

I don't remember much but from when things started to the end my OH was great just being there helped, holding my hand, urging me to push (I didnt know my contractions had stopped) - just knowing he was there really helped. They will go with the flow when it happens so don't worry! OH said it wasn't as bad as he thought.

lmao you just reminded me.. I was left in corridoor because they had no rooms for a few hours and I was panicking/crying as it was because I thought she was going to pop out in front of everyone, then they took me to the posh birthing bit and the first thing I heard was like "arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh" and I shat myself too lol (not literally).

my sister was a better birthing partner than darren, he was just kinda there... but she was the one encouraging me to push etc

The plan is to have my OH there when baby is born but I can't see it happening since he passed out when the doctor took blood from my hand last time.

So I think Im going to be on my own. Great.

xxx

linzi, do u not have a sister close friend who cud go in too

Mine just kept the hell outta my way! - That was the best thing he could have done - I have to be pretty much left to it when I'm in pain. Even the midwife was pissing me off, I wanted her to stop encouraging me because her breath stank....I was feeling that evil with the pain I kept thinking how close my foot was to her head! lol
-With Ky Paul just fetched me ice chips and water (and watched a blood football match on the TV) .....Then when Ky was being delivered I had him in a headlock so he couldn't see the business area.

With Frankie she was born that fast he nearly missed her arrival as he was in the hospital carpark looking for my notes and I was just being wheeled in a room out of the ambulance.....So on the whole he didn't have a particularly active role!

I'm hoping that DH will be alright, and supportive. He will probably be nervous, but when I was taken to L&D at 23 weeks, he was great. He held my hand through everything, and made me feel a lot better.

Even though he is very supportive, I'm having my mom and sister in the room with me, since besides DH, they are my best friends. I just hope I'll manage and not be too mean to my support team haha.

Infact those words may not go in one ear and out the other, reassurance is a great tool they can offer at a time when you are so wrapped up in what you are meant to be doing, but not really knowing what is going on.

My OH held my hand, he asked questions about things to the MW & Consultant, he demanded things if I was in no state to but had asked for it. He rubbed my back, he cuddled me when I was able to stand, he just comforted me all the way thru - that was until I had an epidural and he fell asleep

But seriously, when things then started to go wrong he was there and making sure nothing was going to happen without us knowing about it and him being there with me (as I was shit scared!). It is amazing how much them just being there and doing their best for you, is a comfort. He was great, infact he can be at the next one

I had Mum & sister with my 1st & my sister with me again for the second! x