How to prevent a Baby Shower Faux Pas

katrinka · Jul 19th, 2009, 23:57 PM

My cousin has a baby shower this coming Saturday and I already RSVP'ed yes. No one in either family know we are pregnant and M/S has hit this weekend, I'm horribly nauseous and vomit occasionally with out much warning.

The drive is about 4 hours round trip. I was planning on going to the shower while DH spent time with his family and I join him afterwards. I have a feeling I will not be able to do the car ride there & back without getting sick or getting close to. I also worry about eating something at the shower & throwing up later.

Should I email my cousins (the hostess is her younger sister) and be honest, saying I have horrible morning sickness & can't make the drive hoping my pg. cousin understands? And also ask for their secrecy or change my RSVP to no w/o a reason? I'm really worried b/c my family isn't very close with this family, there are some high tensions at time. Does that make sense? I don't want to come off as rude.

Sarahkka · Jul 20th, 2009, 00:38 AM

Can you not just say that you seem to have some sort of bug and that you don't want to take the chance of spreading it? If you aren't ready to tell your news yet, that's what I'd do.

Kiddo · Jul 20th, 2009, 05:56 AM

I'd just call and say you've been throwing up and you're not feeling up to it. That way you're not technically lying but you get to keep the news to yourselves a bit longer.

lucilou · Jul 21st, 2009, 12:40 PM

you could always say you think you're coming down with a cold and with all the panic about swine flu you don't want to spread your germs, especially to a pregnant lady!

I definitely wouldn't tell them you are pregnant unless you actually want them to know - don't tell them because you feel you have to, if you're not ready.

DizzyMoo · Jul 22nd, 2009, 17:07 PM

I agree don't tell them you are pregnant, Tell them you have flu or that you have gastro both of which can be passed around to other people & make them ill, Only tell people you are pregnant when you feel 100% ready too. Inevitably someone ends up spilling the beans & before you know it everyone knows!

Hope you are feeling better soon x

needausername · Jul 22nd, 2009, 17:19 PM

I would go with not telling them and faking a really bad dose of the flu. If you have the flu they won't want you around then incase it is swine flu. Maybe call after you just got sick so you sound like crap

Jul 19th, 2009, 23:57 PM	#1
katrinka Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Modesto, CA USA Posts: 338	How to prevent a Baby Shower Faux Pas My cousin has a baby shower this coming Saturday and I already RSVP'ed yes. No one in either family know we are pregnant and M/S has hit this weekend, I'm horribly nauseous and vomit occasionally with out much warning. The drive is about 4 hours round trip. I was planning on going to the shower while DH spent time with his family and I join him afterwards. I have a feeling I will not be able to do the car ride there & back without getting sick or getting close to. I also worry about eating something at the shower & throwing up later. Should I email my cousins (the hostess is her younger sister) and be honest, saying I have horrible morning sickness & can't make the drive hoping my pg. cousin understands? And also ask for their secrecy or change my RSVP to no w/o a reason? I'm really worried b/c my family isn't very close with this family, there are some high tensions at time. Does that make sense? I don't want to come off as rude.

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Jul 20th, 2009, 00:38 AM	#2
Sarahkka Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 8,750	Can you not just say that you seem to have some sort of bug and that you don't want to take the chance of spreading it? If you aren't ready to tell your news yet, that's what I'd do.

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Kiddo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 4,438	I'd just call and say you've been throwing up and you're not feeling up to it. That way you're not technically lying but you get to keep the news to yourselves a bit longer.

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lucilou Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 1,216	you could always say you think you're coming down with a cold and with all the panic about swine flu you don't want to spread your germs, especially to a pregnant lady! I definitely wouldn't tell them you are pregnant unless you actually want them to know - don't tell them because you feel you have to, if you're not ready.

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 17:07 PM	#5
DizzyMoo Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 5,902	I agree don't tell them you are pregnant, Tell them you have flu or that you have gastro both of which can be passed around to other people & make them ill, Only tell people you are pregnant when you feel 100% ready too. Inevitably someone ends up spilling the beans & before you know it everyone knows! Hope you are feeling better soon x

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Jul 22nd, 2009, 17:19 PM	#6
needausername Other BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ireland Posts: 4,664	I would go with not telling them and faking a really bad dose of the flu. If you have the flu they won't want you around then incase it is swine flu. Maybe call after you just got sick so you sound like crap

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