So I've never really had a problem with my in-laws (technically, they're not since me and OH aren't married yet, but still). When my OH and I had our son, all was fine and blah blah blah. A few months later my MIL mentions to me about how she almost passed out when they (her and OH's dad) found out that Aiden had my last name and not my OH's. I've heard many, many times since then about how shocked they were and even how pissed (mostly FIL) they were about it. FIL has even told me that this baby better have my OH's last name.

Now, I have no problem giving my kids their dad's last name, but my OH and I decided together that for the time being it would be easier to give the kids my last name. Once we get married, we'll change their last names, as well as mine.

The in-laws, at this point, do not know that baby is going to have my last name. I'm absolutely terrified for them to find out again. I don't want to tell them, because I don't want to listen to them complain about it for the next two months. Is it rude of me to just let them find out on their own?

This isn't really a question, more of a rant. I just needed to get it out.

It is totally not their call but it should be up to your OH to tell them how it is. You shouldn't have to deal with them since you both agreed and they are his parents. Otherwise, it does make it seem like you have dominated "their poor son". Whereas if he tells them and gives them the reason they shouldn't get mad at you.

Its not really any of their business tbh and if you and your partner are happy, then that's the most important thing. xx

Tell them to mind their neb.

I wouldn't even mention it to them! It's a decision made by you and your OH. Hope they stop giving you a hard time about names. x x

I have to agree, and I'm generally quite a traditionalist, but if you and your partner are happy with the arrangement, whats in a bleedin name???
You could sarcastically send them a birth announcement card once LO is born, they would know then!!
I do think I understand their perspective though, as you arent married you call ALL the shots with baby, and this perhaps leaves them feeling a little disempowered.

I hate families when it comes to things like this and I have to say that it your desicion not theirs - just don't say anything to them about it and just deal with it if they bring it up

i agree that its not really their place to make a fuss as long as u and OH are happy with it and if OH is on birth certificate then a name is nothing
personally i would ignore them as i think my LO is having my surname until we get married (it saves loads of questions at doctors ect)

Totally agree with snugglebot on this one. Hope they mind there on biz for your sake!

Loving your style hunni!

I've kept my own name since marrying (took hubbys surname as a middle name so at least it's in there somewhere lol) MIL is seriously pissed that the bump is having hubbys name as middle name & my surname just like me :-)

Best thing is hubby is really happy about this...we live with my parents and he's really close to my dad...his dad walked out when he was a baby and my pops never had any sons (3 daughters poor *******!) so it's like my OH has gained a dad and my dad has gained a son. OH's mum never changed her name when she divorced so she purposefully would have the same surname (as if she couldnt have changed his name then?!?) as her son and grandkids etc. Oh how I pissed on her chips...even worse when hubby explained he'd really like to carry on my dads family name as it would die with him otherwise.

I reckon you just have to do whats right for you, your man and your bump if your both happy then the in laws opinions are null and void!

xxxxx