How would you react?

Always&4ever · Jun 8th, 2009, 13:26 PM

If your midwife was also a friend? would you be comfortable or not? thoghts please!

Cariad_bach · Jun 8th, 2009, 13:29 PM

Ooh depends on how good a friend TBH .. if she was a really good friend then id love it,
But if she was a casual friend or something i might feel embarrassed lol

babystar · Jun 8th, 2009, 13:31 PM

I have never really thought about that.

I guess it would be good to be able to get hold of her if you needed to or what not but then the benefit of having someone you don't know.... you might not feel comfy talking to your friend about something... and so the midwife you don't know would be a better option?? Does that make sense?

Always&4ever · Jun 8th, 2009, 13:43 PM

Thats what I was thinking, like would you be comfortable having a friend deliver your baby?

Kittee · Jun 8th, 2009, 13:54 PM

If my friend was qualified, I'd love it!

Paxton · Jun 8th, 2009, 15:11 PM

Definately no. I like the anonymonity of it all... here's a complete stranger to deliver your child and then you don't have to see them everyday, or anytime ever again, cause I'd never be able to face them... It'd be all, "Youve seen me down there!" *avoid-avoid*

Always&4ever · Jun 8th, 2009, 16:03 PM

Haha thats what I was thinking, as I'm training to be one, I thought i'd see how people react

Kitten · Jun 8th, 2009, 16:10 PM

I wouldn't be comfortable with it, I mean if my assigned midwife was a friend. I know a good number of the community midwives through work and I hate it when they fill in for my usual one as it feels really awkward because they don't always recognise me and I don't know whether to say something or not, lol.

alice&bump · Jun 8th, 2009, 16:14 PM

i'd like it, but unless they were a really good friend then i would be embarassed at them seeing my fanjita! but saying that tho, i dont think you care when it comes down to it!! my mum's friend almost delivered me. well, had she not had to move a week before i was born she would have done! but ithik with it being forces, you tend to know the people that deliver your baby anyway, specially seeing as my mum's a nurse!

nfm3 · Jun 8th, 2009, 18:28 PM

I once had an OB who was a family friend. Saw him in church on Sundays. Went over to his house for dinner. I really liked him as an OB but in social situations it was little weird. To think he's seen me unclothed and examined me and he's friends with my husband (though much older). Every once in a while when we'd be hanging out with him the thought would cross my mind. Not sure if I'd feel as awkward with a woman midwife that was a friend. I think the whole issue was the fact that he was a man.

I felt silly though--there was always a female nurse present and he was completely professional.

Jun 8th, 2009, 13:26 PM	#1
Always&4ever Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Stoke-on-Trent Posts: 9,507	How would you react? If your midwife was also a friend? would you be comfortable or not? thoghts please!

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Jun 8th, 2009, 13:29 PM	#2
Cariad_bach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: North Wales Posts: 5,652	Ooh depends on how good a friend TBH .. if she was a really good friend then id love it, But if she was a casual friend or something i might feel embarrassed lol

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Jun 8th, 2009, 13:31 PM	#3
babystar Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 4,737	I have never really thought about that. I guess it would be good to be able to get hold of her if you needed to or what not but then the benefit of having someone you don't know.... you might not feel comfy talking to your friend about something... and so the midwife you don't know would be a better option?? Does that make sense?

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Jun 8th, 2009, 13:43 PM	#4
Always&4ever Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Stoke-on-Trent Posts: 9,507	Thats what I was thinking, like would you be comfortable having a friend deliver your baby?

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Kittee Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: North Carolina Posts: 1,795	If my friend was qualified, I'd love it!

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Jun 8th, 2009, 15:11 PM	#6
Paxton Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Nova Scotia, Canada Posts: 786	Definately no. I like the anonymonity of it all... here's a complete stranger to deliver your child and then you don't have to see them everyday, or anytime ever again, cause I'd never be able to face them... It'd be all, "Youve seen me down there!" avoid-avoid

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Jun 8th, 2009, 16:03 PM	#7
Always&4ever Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Stoke-on-Trent Posts: 9,507	Haha thats what I was thinking, as I'm training to be one, I thought i'd see how people react

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Jun 8th, 2009, 16:10 PM	#8
Kitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Crawley, England Posts: 6,343	I wouldn't be comfortable with it, I mean if my assigned midwife was a friend. I know a good number of the community midwives through work and I hate it when they fill in for my usual one as it feels really awkward because they don't always recognise me and I don't know whether to say something or not, lol.

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Jun 8th, 2009, 16:14 PM	#9
alice&bump Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Manchester Posts: 8,702	i'd like it, but unless they were a really good friend then i would be embarassed at them seeing my fanjita! but saying that tho, i dont think you care when it comes down to it!! my mum's friend almost delivered me. well, had she not had to move a week before i was born she would have done! but ithik with it being forces, you tend to know the people that deliver your baby anyway, specially seeing as my mum's a nurse!

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Jun 8th, 2009, 18:28 PM	#10
nfm3 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 388	I once had an OB who was a family friend. Saw him in church on Sundays. Went over to his house for dinner. I really liked him as an OB but in social situations it was little weird. To think he's seen me unclothed and examined me and he's friends with my husband (though much older). Every once in a while when we'd be hanging out with him the thought would cross my mind. Not sure if I'd feel as awkward with a woman midwife that was a friend. I think the whole issue was the fact that he was a man. I felt silly though--there was always a female nurse present and he was completely professional.

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