HomeBirth...Anyone...wana chat??!

star-dust · May 7th, 2009, 08:04 AM

Is anyone having a home birth or considering one?

Would love to chat to others considering this!?

Im 20weeks on monday but knew from the start this babas coming out at home!

Hubby has a few concerns so have spoken to a independant m/w who does group chats about homebirths, but annoyingly the next one isnt convienant for us, so going to look into her comin out here to reassure hubby and answer any questions he or I may have, she will charge a small fee for petrol but not worried about that, it will be nice to hvae someone here who can spend time chatting to us over a coffee without being rushed, which may be the case at a antenatel clinic appointment

Alternativly anyone already had a home birth already and wana share experiances?

cinnamongirl · May 7th, 2009, 10:56 AM

I am dreaming of a water birth, and therefore it would have to be a home birth, as our hospitals don't have water birthing suites. My only problem now is the cost of renting the tub, and also...I have a cyst that is a problem for me, and mw and I are unsure if it can be a possibility for me. I think OH has a bit of a problem with a home birth, as we are renting, and he thinks it would be weird! ha!

My girlfriend had a home birth, and she had some pretty serious complications and had to be rushed to hospital. Baby was born at home, but within minutes, they were being rushed away. Pretty scary, but I'm sure that's not the norm!

I would love to hear of other's experiences.

SianMA · May 7th, 2009, 11:21 AM

I'm planning a home water birth all being well. Have been watching lots of homebirthing programmes on Sky and gettign DH to watch too. He was totally grossed out at first but the more I make him watch the less nervous he is about it.

I also found loads of videos about homebirth and waterbirth on YouTube. I guess just being more familiar with the process makes it less scary. I even heard of a guy in Wales whose wife had a very short labour and he found a video on YouTube about how to deliver a baby and he did it himself while waiting for the paramedics to arrive!

I think men just like to know whats going to happen, they are total control freaks by nature so if they feel like they have some answers and solutions they feel a lot better. Good luck!

Kitten · May 7th, 2009, 11:22 AM

I'm booked in for a home birth but not holding my breath for one as there are countless reasons why the NHS drag you in but if you have an independent midwife that's awesome. I wish we could afford one!

colsy · May 7th, 2009, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Kitten

I'm booked in for a home birth but not holding my breath for one as there are countless reasons why the NHS drag you in but if you have an independent midwife that's awesome. I wish we could afford one!

I know it feels like it sometimes, but actually "they" can't force you to do anything. You can have a thousand and one home births (in the UK, I'm talking here) if that's what you want and nobody can stop you doing otherwise. It's very easy to feel that it's not in your hands, but if you say "no" to something that a healthcare provider offers, they can try to persuade you otherwise but they can't force you. (Unless you're considered unable to consent, but that's pretty unlikely.)

Wombat · May 7th, 2009, 11:36 AM

I want a home birth and I had a previous c-section. My NHS midwife was very supportive, but because I am considered high-risk (c-section) it is not up to he rto book mein for the home birth.
I have my consultant appoinment at 28 weeks. Will have to talk about it then (I am prepared for a battle)

purple_socks · May 7th, 2009, 11:40 AM

I'm planning a homebirth. I bought an inflatable birthing pool the other day so all set when that arrives. I hate hospitals...i feel like i'd b bullied into medical interventions/methods i didn't want where as i feel much more in control at home and feeling relaxed and incontrol is the key! DH thought it was very weird at first but since we've researched it further he's really come round to the idea. We don't live far away from the hospital if we need to get there for some reason and at at least with a home birth u don't have to worry abt when to leave for the hospital...i know i'd b scared i'd miss judge it all (being my first time) and not get there in time or get there really early and get turned away! i've found reading the birth stories on homebirth.org really helpful...infact i've found that whole site really helpful.

lozzy21 · May 7th, 2009, 11:50 AM

Im not pregnant yet but am planning on a home birth. The most common reason for them saying you cant have a home birth is they are short staffed but if you write in to the head of your midwifery servaces and say you are not going into hospital to solve their staffing problem they will usualy provide support. There is some legisaltion that came/comes in this year saying that every woman can have a home birth as long as they are low risk. The percent of uterine rupture with out a c section is 0.3% and the percentage of ruptre in VCAC IS ONLY 0.5%!

Sorry for butting in but iv been researching into it allready.

lindypops · May 7th, 2009, 12:02 PM

Totally planning home water birth!

My friend was telling me yesterday that our local hospital has a closed door policy if things get too busy - technically, I could have to go as far as King's Lynn if this happens to me. No f***ing way!

I intend to use this as a strong argument as to why I am insisting on a homebirth, if it comes to that - not all hopsitals have this policy, but it's worth checking yours out, to add ammo if you need it.

(And if you need to go urgently, due to complications, apparently you get bumped so would be able to get in, even if doors are closed.)

star-dust · May 7th, 2009, 12:39 PM

hye girls thanks for the respsonce, Im glad im not the only one planin this, I will ahve a look at that website mentioned,

I dont have an independant m/w but I have access to one if I wish, were I live its a small community and and idependant m/ws work with the NHS ones if things are busy or anything

Im personally not into a water birth, but hoping to have a bath first, does anyone know if this is ok? How soon would I have to get out if I aint given birth in it?

Also my other hugggggggeeeeeeee question is

were do you give birth to at home?!!!

I said bed to hubby he said no you aint wreckin with blood and disgusting stuff

so many questions also hygiene tidy home etc is a worry before I dont want m/w turning up to a messy house!!

May 7th, 2009, 08:04 AM	#1
star-dust Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: kernow Posts: 2,086	HomeBirth...Anyone...wana chat??! Is anyone having a home birth or considering one? Would love to chat to others considering this!? Im 20weeks on monday but knew from the start this babas coming out at home! Hubby has a few concerns so have spoken to a independant m/w who does group chats about homebirths, but annoyingly the next one isnt convienant for us, so going to look into her comin out here to reassure hubby and answer any questions he or I may have, she will charge a small fee for petrol but not worried about that, it will be nice to hvae someone here who can spend time chatting to us over a coffee without being rushed, which may be the case at a antenatel clinic appointment Alternativly anyone already had a home birth already and wana share experiances?

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May 7th, 2009, 10:56 AM	#2
cinnamongirl Mum (Mom) Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Hamilton, ON, Canada Posts: 557	I am dreaming of a water birth, and therefore it would have to be a home birth, as our hospitals don't have water birthing suites. My only problem now is the cost of renting the tub, and also...I have a cyst that is a problem for me, and mw and I are unsure if it can be a possibility for me. I think OH has a bit of a problem with a home birth, as we are renting, and he thinks it would be weird! ha! My girlfriend had a home birth, and she had some pretty serious complications and had to be rushed to hospital. Baby was born at home, but within minutes, they were being rushed away. Pretty scary, but I'm sure that's not the norm! I would love to hear of other's experiences.

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May 7th, 2009, 11:21 AM	#3
SianMA Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: North Wales, UK Posts: 658	I'm planning a home water birth all being well. Have been watching lots of homebirthing programmes on Sky and gettign DH to watch too. He was totally grossed out at first but the more I make him watch the less nervous he is about it. I also found loads of videos about homebirth and waterbirth on YouTube. I guess just being more familiar with the process makes it less scary. I even heard of a guy in Wales whose wife had a very short labour and he found a video on YouTube about how to deliver a baby and he did it himself while waiting for the paramedics to arrive! I think men just like to know whats going to happen, they are total control freaks by nature so if they feel like they have some answers and solutions they feel a lot better. Good luck!

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May 7th, 2009, 11:22 AM	#4
Kitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Crawley, England Posts: 6,343	I'm booked in for a home birth but not holding my breath for one as there are countless reasons why the NHS drag you in but if you have an independent midwife that's awesome. I wish we could afford one!

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May 7th, 2009, 11:36 AM	#6
Wombat Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: UK Posts: 1,129	I want a home birth and I had a previous c-section. My NHS midwife was very supportive, but because I am considered high-risk (c-section) it is not up to he rto book mein for the home birth. I have my consultant appoinment at 28 weeks. Will have to talk about it then (I am prepared for a battle)

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May 7th, 2009, 11:40 AM	#7
purple_socks Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,978	I'm planning a homebirth. I bought an inflatable birthing pool the other day so all set when that arrives. I hate hospitals...i feel like i'd b bullied into medical interventions/methods i didn't want where as i feel much more in control at home and feeling relaxed and incontrol is the key! DH thought it was very weird at first but since we've researched it further he's really come round to the idea. We don't live far away from the hospital if we need to get there for some reason and at at least with a home birth u don't have to worry abt when to leave for the hospital...i know i'd b scared i'd miss judge it all (being my first time) and not get there in time or get there really early and get turned away! i've found reading the birth stories on homebirth.org really helpful...infact i've found that whole site really helpful.

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May 7th, 2009, 11:50 AM	#8
lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 19,432	Im not pregnant yet but am planning on a home birth. The most common reason for them saying you cant have a home birth is they are short staffed but if you write in to the head of your midwifery servaces and say you are not going into hospital to solve their staffing problem they will usualy provide support. There is some legisaltion that came/comes in this year saying that every woman can have a home birth as long as they are low risk. The percent of uterine rupture with out a c section is 0.3% and the percentage of ruptre in VCAC IS ONLY 0.5%! Sorry for butting in but iv been researching into it allready.

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May 7th, 2009, 12:02 PM	#9
lindypops Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: near Norwich Posts: 1,855	Totally planning home water birth! My friend was telling me yesterday that our local hospital has a closed door policy if things get too busy - technically, I could have to go as far as King's Lynn if this happens to me. No f***ing way! I intend to use this as a strong argument as to why I am insisting on a homebirth, if it comes to that - not all hopsitals have this policy, but it's worth checking yours out, to add ammo if you need it. (And if you need to go urgently, due to complications, apparently you get bumped so would be able to get in, even if doors are closed.)

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May 7th, 2009, 12:39 PM	#10
star-dust Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: kernow Posts: 2,086	hye girls thanks for the respsonce, Im glad im not the only one planin this, I will ahve a look at that website mentioned, I dont have an independant m/w but I have access to one if I wish, were I live its a small community and and idependant m/ws work with the NHS ones if things are busy or anything Im personally not into a water birth, but hoping to have a bath first, does anyone know if this is ok? How soon would I have to get out if I aint given birth in it? Also my other hugggggggeeeeeeee question is were do you give birth to at home?!!! I said bed to hubby he said no you aint wreckin with blood and disgusting stuff so many questions also hygiene tidy home etc is a worry before I dont want m/w turning up to a messy house!!

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