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lovedupgirl · May 15th, 2009, 09:01 AM

So I sat my OH down last night and basically said"You are being unsupportive and totally unreasonable you have not even looked at any information so how can you make an informed decision

"
Also explained to him that yes his opinion is important but that the most important thing is that I have a positive birth experience and a healthy baby at the end of it, told him how the hospital enviroment only adds to my anxiety and that stress causes more pain.
He has now looked at all the positive info about homebirth,said he will support me 100% and that he is sorry for being so selfish.
Men just need a little nudge in the right direction sometimes!

Rebaby · May 15th, 2009, 09:27 AM

Yay

it's great he finally listened, i am dead pleased for you!

redpoppy · May 15th, 2009, 09:35 AM

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Originally Posted by lovedupgirl

So I sat my OH down last night and basically said"You are being unsupportive and totally unreasonable you have not even looked at any information so how can you make an informed decision

"
Also explained to him that yes his opinion is important but that the most important thing is that I have a positive birth experience and a healthy baby at the end of it, told him how the hospital enviroment only adds to my anxiety and that stress causes more pain.
He has now looked at all the positive info about homebirth,said he will support me 100% and that he is sorry for being so selfish.
Men just need a little nudge in the right direction sometimes!

AW BLESS HIM!

well done missy. I'm glad he's come round. My husband has doubts but I think he realises I'm stubborn and I generally read up a lot about stuff so he knows i'm not going to just go into this on a whim.

lovedupgirl · May 15th, 2009, 09:40 AM

It doesnt help that me and OH are both as stubborn as each other!

lindypops · May 15th, 2009, 10:15 AM

That's great, lovedupgirl. I'm so pleased he's realised how important this is that you get to make the decision.

My DH has been reading more about the birth - he says the more he reads, the more he feels sorry for me, so the more likely I am to get to do what I need. Bascially, I'm going to sort out the birth plan then tell him what I want to happen - and he's going to help make it happen!

star-dust · May 15th, 2009, 10:28 AM

lovedupgirl thats great news, glad hes finally coming round slowly, like you say all it takes is a nudge (or sometimes a heavin great boot) for them to realise!!!

lovedupgirl · May 15th, 2009, 12:15 PM

Thanks girls!

Is your OH more comfortable with the idea yet stardust?

Cariad_bach · May 15th, 2009, 14:14 PM

Lovedupgirl im glad he's seen the light xxx

MrsSixx · May 16th, 2009, 14:25 PM

I read this thread with interest as I had never considered a homebirth before my first midwife appointment on Thursday. Pretty much the first thing she said to me when she came into the house was that she recommended I have a homebirth. The look of horror that came across my face probably said it all. Being ignorant about HB and having just renovated my house all I could think was shit, piss and blood all up the walls, on the carpet, EVERYWHERE. My son and dog traumatised. The mattress having to be taken outside and burned lol. In retrospect though maybe it's worth considering. This is my second, my first was born 12 years ago. No epidural, no assisted delivery and my labour lasted 2 days - if it takes that long this time I would much rather be at home. The hospital is 5 mins drive in an ambulance if anything went amiss. Plenty of room for a birthing pool and nice neighbours, one of whom is a midwife. Hmmm, decisions.

purple_socks · May 17th, 2009, 07:27 AM

Lovedupgirl...thats really great news! glad ur OH listened to u and is now supporting u. yay :-)

May 15th, 2009, 09:01 AM	#61
lovedupgirl Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: cumbria Posts: 618	So I sat my OH down last night and basically said"You are being unsupportive and totally unreasonable you have not even looked at any information so how can you make an informed decision " Also explained to him that yes his opinion is important but that the most important thing is that I have a positive birth experience and a healthy baby at the end of it, told him how the hospital enviroment only adds to my anxiety and that stress causes more pain. He has now looked at all the positive info about homebirth,said he will support me 100% and that he is sorry for being so selfish. Men just need a little nudge in the right direction sometimes!

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Rebaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 4,698	Yay it's great he finally listened, i am dead pleased for you!

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May 15th, 2009, 09:40 AM	#64
lovedupgirl Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: cumbria Posts: 618	It doesnt help that me and OH are both as stubborn as each other!

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May 15th, 2009, 10:15 AM	#65
lindypops Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: near Norwich Posts: 1,855	That's great, lovedupgirl. I'm so pleased he's realised how important this is that you get to make the decision. My DH has been reading more about the birth - he says the more he reads, the more he feels sorry for me, so the more likely I am to get to do what I need. Bascially, I'm going to sort out the birth plan then tell him what I want to happen - and he's going to help make it happen!

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May 15th, 2009, 10:28 AM	#66
star-dust Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: kernow Posts: 2,086	lovedupgirl thats great news, glad hes finally coming round slowly, like you say all it takes is a nudge (or sometimes a heavin great boot) for them to realise!!!

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lovedupgirl Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: cumbria Posts: 618	Thanks girls! Is your OH more comfortable with the idea yet stardust?

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Cariad_bach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: North Wales Posts: 5,652	Lovedupgirl im glad he's seen the light xxx

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May 16th, 2009, 14:25 PM	#69
MrsSixx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Cheltenham Posts: 308	I read this thread with interest as I had never considered a homebirth before my first midwife appointment on Thursday. Pretty much the first thing she said to me when she came into the house was that she recommended I have a homebirth. The look of horror that came across my face probably said it all. Being ignorant about HB and having just renovated my house all I could think was shit, piss and blood all up the walls, on the carpet, EVERYWHERE. My son and dog traumatised. The mattress having to be taken outside and burned lol. In retrospect though maybe it's worth considering. This is my second, my first was born 12 years ago. No epidural, no assisted delivery and my labour lasted 2 days - if it takes that long this time I would much rather be at home. The hospital is 5 mins drive in an ambulance if anything went amiss. Plenty of room for a birthing pool and nice neighbours, one of whom is a midwife. Hmmm, decisions.

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May 17th, 2009, 07:27 AM	#70
purple_socks Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,978	Lovedupgirl...thats really great news! glad ur OH listened to u and is now supporting u. yay :-)

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