Gender Disappointment

logie68 · May 6th, 2009, 07:42 AM

i feel really bad for writing this. I found out last week i am having another boy and i am gutted to say the least. despite the fact that i have suffered 7 miscarriages after the birth of my son, i still feel really low that i am now successfully 21 weeks pregnant but with another boy. i am panicking about the future - will i reject him? i know i sound really evil and selfish. i just wanted a fairy princess.
has anyone else ever felt like this?

LoraLoo · May 6th, 2009, 07:50 AM

I think deep down everyone has a slight preference, even if they dont admit it, but the important thing is that the baby is healthy, regardless of the sex xxxxx

princess_vix · May 6th, 2009, 08:17 AM

I understand a little how u feel.

people kept telling me its was going to be a girl..and i got it in my head and had it all planned out.
then told it was a little man..thought i was going to cry so i just hurried with the rest of scan.

But i think alot of people don't admit how they feel.
It's not selfish you just take a while to get round the idea.

cos now i'm ecstatic about my little man and glad am not having a girl.

I'm sure it'll be fine hun

xx

taperjeangirl · May 6th, 2009, 08:20 AM

I think this happens to alot of people, you will be fine as soon as you see him!

PrincessSoph · May 6th, 2009, 08:26 AM

i would have prefered a boy and was a little bit disappointed when i found out it was a girl but as i started buying things for her and doing her nursery i got more and more excited. i love her more than i ever would've imagined already!

lepaskilf · May 6th, 2009, 08:43 AM

because my pg wasn't planned and although OH is happy, I would like a boy just because I feel he will bond with it more, and reslise that my decision to go ahead with the pg was a good thing!!!!! I don't know whether this is the right way to feel and I know if i try to chat to him about it he will always say I don't mind either way, but as you say deep down every one has a preference.

Does anyone else feel like this about OH?

MummyBurgo · May 6th, 2009, 09:39 AM

With my 1st I tought it was a girl and when I was told boy I cried,feel so silly now coz I love him so much. This time I thought a boy and was right although deep down wanted a girl,but I will love him just as much as a girl.

nfm3 · May 6th, 2009, 09:41 AM

I was hoping for a boy my last 2 times but I've been elated with my girls from the first moment i saw them. I dealt with my disappointment before they got here and I woudn't trade them for anything. It's good that you are being honest with yourself.

Kimboowee · May 6th, 2009, 09:55 AM

I always wanted a boy first...

My gran died when i was 8 weeks and i suddenly wanted a girl so i could name her after her.

Here i am at 38weeks with a boy and couldnt be happier!

Reedy · May 6th, 2009, 09:59 AM

I have 2 nieces who are my world so have always wanted a little girl & hated the thought of having a boy then I found out I was pregnant & I just have this feeling that we're having a boy ( a feeling & also bcus DH is one of 6 boys so to me inevitable that it will be a boy) & I'm so excited about it which I'm shocked about so now I really dont mind whether we have a girl or a boy as long as they are happy & healthy we dont care x

I totally understand everyones feelings of disappointment though I was just lucky that I had made peace with it now rather that being disappointed when he pops out in 6 months x

You'll love your baby no matter what huni so try not to worry x x x

May 6th, 2009, 07:42 AM	#1
logie68 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Carluke, Scotland Posts: 41	Gender Disappointment i feel really bad for writing this. I found out last week i am having another boy and i am gutted to say the least. despite the fact that i have suffered 7 miscarriages after the birth of my son, i still feel really low that i am now successfully 21 weeks pregnant but with another boy. i am panicking about the future - will i reject him? i know i sound really evil and selfish. i just wanted a fairy princess. has anyone else ever felt like this?

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May 6th, 2009, 07:50 AM	#2
LoraLoo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Cumbria Posts: 4,484	I think deep down everyone has a slight preference, even if they dont admit it, but the important thing is that the baby is healthy, regardless of the sex xxxxx

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May 6th, 2009, 08:17 AM	#3
princess_vix Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Bournemouth,UK Posts: 3,890	I understand a little how u feel. people kept telling me its was going to be a girl..and i got it in my head and had it all planned out. then told it was a little man..thought i was going to cry so i just hurried with the rest of scan. But i think alot of people don't admit how they feel. It's not selfish you just take a while to get round the idea. cos now i'm ecstatic about my little man and glad am not having a girl. I'm sure it'll be fine hun xx

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May 6th, 2009, 08:20 AM	#4
taperjeangirl Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 9,824	I think this happens to alot of people, you will be fine as soon as you see him!

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May 6th, 2009, 08:26 AM	#5
PrincessSoph Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: South Wales Posts: 4,070	i would have prefered a boy and was a little bit disappointed when i found out it was a girl but as i started buying things for her and doing her nursery i got more and more excited. i love her more than i ever would've imagined already!

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May 6th, 2009, 08:43 AM	#6
lepaskilf Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: I live in North Wales Posts: 2,610	because my pg wasn't planned and although OH is happy, I would like a boy just because I feel he will bond with it more, and reslise that my decision to go ahead with the pg was a good thing!!!!! I don't know whether this is the right way to feel and I know if i try to chat to him about it he will always say I don't mind either way, but as you say deep down every one has a preference. Does anyone else feel like this about OH?

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May 6th, 2009, 09:39 AM	#7
MummyBurgo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Leicestershire,Uk Posts: 1,903	With my 1st I tought it was a girl and when I was told boy I cried,feel so silly now coz I love him so much. This time I thought a boy and was right although deep down wanted a girl,but I will love him just as much as a girl.

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May 6th, 2009, 09:41 AM	#8
nfm3 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 388	I was hoping for a boy my last 2 times but I've been elated with my girls from the first moment i saw them. I dealt with my disappointment before they got here and I woudn't trade them for anything. It's good that you are being honest with yourself.

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May 6th, 2009, 09:55 AM	#9
Kimboowee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 9,443	I always wanted a boy first... My gran died when i was 8 weeks and i suddenly wanted a girl so i could name her after her. Here i am at 38weeks with a boy and couldnt be happier!

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May 6th, 2009, 09:59 AM	#10
Reedy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: UK Posts: 10,417	I have 2 nieces who are my world so have always wanted a little girl & hated the thought of having a boy then I found out I was pregnant & I just have this feeling that we're having a boy ( a feeling & also bcus DH is one of 6 boys so to me inevitable that it will be a boy) & I'm so excited about it which I'm shocked about so now I really dont mind whether we have a girl or a boy as long as they are happy & healthy we dont care x I totally understand everyones feelings of disappointment though I was just lucky that I had made peace with it now rather that being disappointed when he pops out in 6 months x You'll love your baby no matter what huni so try not to worry x x x

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