I desperately wanted to have a girl, annd I had got the idea into my head that i'd be having one :/ I thought of names and planned all the nice clothes she'd have.
At my 20week scan i was told i was having a boy. And like you i felt absouletly Gutted
I then felt really bad for even thinking That which made things even worse.
I've now got use to the idea and tbh i cant be any happier, as long as he's healthy it doesnt matter that hes not a girl lol.
at the end of the day i wouldnt feel bad, everybody has there preferences... And your going to love Him regardless

Expecting a Lil Boy 20/08/09

I was preg with my 1st i wanted a girl although i knew deep down i was carrying a boy, when i got to the sexing scan & i saw his bits i burst out laughing ya couldn't exactly miss them ..but when i got home i was shocked & quiet for a few days & cried . When i bumped into ppl i'd be all excited & squeel its a boy but then i'd realise & get upset again, But pretty soon once i actually started buying boy things & id already picked his name before the scan it just felt right & i wasnt upset i was excited, I never felt any bond with my bump at all, i never really paid much attention until i had to.But the moment he was born & they walked off to the heat table as he wasn't well i remember clearly " where are you going with MY son " from that moment i was like woooah where did that come from this sudden urge to protect him .Never felt that in my life til that moment & ive felt it ever since & im so glad ive a boy!

Saying that im preg with no2 & back where i started wanting a girl so much im worrying if they say boy, which im convinced again it is, that ill cry. So im trying not to pin any hopes up. totally understand how you feel though hun & its normal & all part of the lovely preggy hormones

We'd like to have a boy. Even my DD would like a baby brother hehe! I kinda feel that it may be a boy and I had a similar feeling of carrying a girl with DD so I'm hoping that I'm right! Even if I'm wrong, we just want the baby to be healthy and happy

poor logie.. give her a break people.. she is suffering too ! she is obviously having issues and pain deeper than just gender.. we should show compassion imo

logie ( hug )

I'm so confused about what I'm feeling right now. I did a very vague search on Google and came across this forum and I believe it has hit exactly what is going on with me. This is my first baby and I had been feeling like I'm having a girl. Honestly, I had and still don't have any plans for a boy. I had the ultrasound that discovers if there are any problems and I'm carrying a healthy baby. The tech told me that there is an 80% chance that it's a boy. She wouldn't really say that if she didn't know what she was talking about...would she? It wasn't until that very moment that I realized that I REALLY want a girl. Since the tech's prediction, my attitude has changed drastically. It worries me because my official ultrasound isn't until June 6th and I'm struggling with her prediction. I've been trying to talk myself off the ledge about the whole thing, but it scares me that my feelings haven't waivered...and this is from a prediction. I still have a month until I know for sure, but if it proves to actually be a boy I will be going through this whole heap of feelings again (possibly worse). That scares me.

Hi,
What exactly scares you about having a boy? I have 3 boys 20,17 and 11 and at 40 I got pregnant and it was a BIG surprise as we were done having kids, well 9 weeks ago i lost her at 18 weeks and my heart is pretty much broken, the little girl i never knew but got to hold and bury. I have been through a lot in my life, but nothing has compared to this. I would say i know how you feel if you already had one sex and was hoping for another, cause I will admit with 3 boys yes I did want a girl, but I don't understand the fear if it's your first? is it just that you can't see yourself with a boy maybe?
I am just a little confused I guess. But i do wish you all the best

What about a daddys girl?

Daddys girl/Mummys boy

Im expecting a girl.. i wanted a girl at first and have done for however long but OH and friends all kept making me think boy.. even my parents and grandparents were thinking of names and getting excited as we have loads of girls and barely any boys in our big family!! So i started to believe it was a boy aswell, i started calling my bump harry and nearly even bought some blue things!! Went for the gender scan and it was a girl!! 100% as we saw the 3 lines (plus we have had it confirmed twice now)

Im still a little upset that it isnt a boy because of how dedicated i was becoming, but i know my gorgeous rainbow daughter will be more than i could ever ask for x

Dearest Logie, you are so very brave to admit these feeling; it takes so much courage! I don't believe you are evil, vile, twisted, disgusting, or whatever other adjectives you are attributing to your yourself. What you are dealing with is very real and it doesn't have anything at all to do with you as a person, but instead this horrible depression is filling you with lies. I have been there. Nearly everybody has been places in our lives when something happens that makes us feel our lives may be over, but don't we end up overcoming it in the end? What you are dealing with sounds more complex, though, and you can't overcome it on your own. Please, please talk to someone who can truly listen and then help you.

With my first pregnancy we both desp wanted a boy and we were so happy when we found out we were having a boy, this time round id love a girl, I really want 1of each. But either way aslong as my baby is healthy I will be happy with whatever but pref a girl lol, although I think my DS would love a little brother, not all the girly things