I KNOW this will happen to me. I have 2 girls and am hoping for a boy...but we r not finding out so I will have to wait till October.



I am sure when you have your little boy in your arms tho all you will feel is love

Don't believe men bond better with boys. I have 3 girls and 1 boy. They are all very different regardless of their sex.
Sure you will bond withyour baby. You have to have whats there! Be kind to yourself.

I think everyone builds up an image of what their child will be like when they first find out they are pregnant. For some people they focus on one sex, for others it can be hair colour or even what their character will be like when they grow up. (who knows a dad who is dissapointed that their little boy is not interested in football/hill walking/etc?)

At some point we all have to say goodbye to that image of our perfect child and welcome the child we get, be that child a boy, girl, disabled, holy terror, book worm....

My mum (who's EXTREMELY excited about my TTC) bought me a book called "The birth of a mother". What you just said is exactly what they phrase in one chapter of the book! How you "dreamt child" needs to fade at the end of your pregnancy to help you welcome your very real little one...

(Did you write that book? )

see i cant understand this, cos when ur ttc/fall preg uknow its always 50/50 this is my first, so this is maybe y, but if i went on to have another boy and i didnt really want one i wudnt get preg

sry thats my opinion, i know its prob nice to have 1 of each,but we know this is again only a 50/50 chance x

with my eldest i was adamant i wanted a boy and IF it was a girl my mum was bringing it up. with the lil man, we couldnt find out and i was like "whatever, would prefer a boy" but not fussed. it was a boy, i cried when they told us as OH really wanted a girl. with this 1 i was convinced it was a girl as everything has been different - the way i'm carrying, no cravings, sickness etc but no another boy. i was abit upset but i'm ok with it now, apart from the fact he ahs no name.

have you had any tests after the MC's? i have had 4, 3 after each other and they said that they were all girls and doubted that i could carry them for what ever reason.

I have one of those lol- monster he is, to say the least, good job we love him lol- but yes, i agree with everything you said xx

I am really afraid of feeling this way tbh! I've been thinking about it alot since becoming preg. See, OH has 2 kids already (one of each), and I have ALWAYS wanted a little girl.
I am pretty close with OH's DS, but not so much with DD (probably cuz she's her mommy's little girl). I am wishing to have a little girl so that I can have a little princess too, cuz I know Saira and I will never be close like that, but Scotty is my little buddy!
I told OH about my fear, and he didn't really understand how I felt, so mostly I just keep my horrible feelings to myself. I feel terrible thinking about not wanting a little boy, and I'm sure that I will be over the moon no matter what, but it's hard to handle when all u've wanted ur whole life is not gonna happen.
I am waiting till my 20 week scan to find out the gender, and up until then, I'm just envisioning my little girl. If it turns out to be a boy, then I will have time to deal before his birth. I could never live with myself if I had a son and he didn't feel like I loved him. But, honestly, I am hoping for a sweet little girl, as this will be my only child (OH is getting snipped!)

I can totally relate...and it doesn't make us terrible people...we just have a preference. As long as it doesn't interfere with us bonding with LO, then we can have our hopes...

I have trouble understanding this, not in a horrible way but I was TTC for a long time and to me and the many people long term ttc the miracle of actually finally getting pregnant outways anything else.

Nope, I just had a disabled child. One of the nest things that ever happened to me after DS2 was diagnosed was to read Welcome to Holland

http://www.our-kids.org/Archives/Holland.html


But it applies to every child really.

So while I am not overly sympathetic to those who are disappointed about getting the wrong sex, I can understand it. (unless like someone I know, they willing get pregnant knowing they would be devastated (to the point of clinical depression) to have another boy and expect sympathy that they are actually having another boy)