OMG! I thought I was the only one who had the fear of their baby dead inside them! Any time I told someone, they would just give me this weird look,and then say that it was a terrible thought, but I can't help it. Every time I go for an ultrasound, I'm so afraid that I won't see him moving, and the doctors will get all serious or something.

So far everything has been going good. I think once I finally feel him moving around more often, that fear will start to go away.
Just try to think positive!

Im terrified of my first scan if they tell me there isn't a heartbeat or something. I'm actually desperate to go,purely to check everything is ok.

Im scared as well that Im going to be a bit of a rubbish mum... it's my first, and I don't even know how to hold a baby. And I know theres going to be a time when Im completely on my own and Im scared I wont be able to handle it.

And I was taken away from my mum when I was very young, so Im really scared that that might happen to me. Theres no reason for it to, but you know.

Apart from that Im trying to stay as happy and positive as I can!

Some of my biggest fears are:

1. That I would miscarry.
2. That the baby isn't alive anymore (the last 2 times we went to hear the heartbeat, none could be detected. Thankfully we had an emergency U/S and everything looked fine).
3. That the baby isn't healthy.
4. That I'll go into preterm labor again. My son came 6 weeks early and I never want to go through that again, especially seeing him in the NICU

Those are the biggies, I'm trying not to overthink things and trying to stay positive. Having you girls to talk to has been helping though

My fears are pretty much the same.

losing the baby, nothing being in there, it being dead in there, something being wrong with the baby.

Labor doesn't scare me, I can not wait to have this baby. I think it is the most amazing thing my body will ever do, and I am kinda excited about it. This may change as I get closer to the actual event.

nikkybaby - I know its so scary I cant help myself thinking like that its horrible ....................... When i went for my first scan thats all I wanted to hear was that heart beat. My next scan isnt until 6 weeks time I dont know how i am going to wait that long . Unless i start feeling baby move very soon im going to be panicking

Samantha675 - Not scared of labour you lucky women - I am terrified of labour I really cant take pain plus terrified of needles

Firsttimer - I guess I am not afraid because I have passed 3 kidney stones. The only pain I know that is compared to childbirth. The 2nd one was the most horrible pain of my life, I thought I was going to lose my mind it hurt so freaking badly. But I didn't know what was happening till after the fact, so it made it that much worse. This time, I know that I am going to have a painful experience, but I will know why I am in pain and what is going on in my body at the time. I will be surrounded by women who have already had children, who have been there, and done that, and I trust that they will get me through it. This is what my body was built to do. And I know that as soon as my baby is in my arms, it just won't matter. At the end of the day, that is all that matters, holding my baby in my arms. This amazing little mircle that I created. If I could do it today, I so would!

Aww that is true I cant wait to hold my lil baby as well must be best experience ever....................... something you made something thats been inside you for 9 months its crazy.

Well i just hope i have a nice labour

hi

I have many fears

in the first three month it was to have a preterm delivery

and now:
premature labor
and to get a disabled or sick baby

ur not the only one
anyway those fetal heart monitors u use at home are completely safe u can use them as often as u like even up until the time u deliver ---so so what if u get addicted to them----u get to hear the baby's heartbeat --- i personally dont use mine as often as i did in the begining cause now i just wait for a kick or discomfort that says ---mommy im still in here---im doing fine ---look mommy i'm doing tricks---lol