[Open] 'Older Mums' buddies thread!

Hey ladies,
Not sure if this has been tried before or not! i had been a part of the ttc 30's/40's thread and it was great chatting to others of similar age (I'm currently 36) - although it's fab chatting to everyone of course, I have 'extra' issues about being the wrong side of 30 and especially with my first ...! Just wondering whether anyone was due around autumn time this year ?

Apologies if there's already any thread of this nature, I must have missed it

great stuff :-)

Hey I'm 35 and due Nov 3 with my second child after a gap of 16 years lol!

Originally Posted by Mynx

Hey I'm 35 and due Nov 3 with my second child after a gap of 16 years lol!

hey mynx congrats!!

Thanks hun, it was a bit of a shock I can tell you! But now that we've got our heads round it, we're getting really excited

Feel free to PM me if you ever wanna chat n stuff ok? xXx

Hi Ellie,
I'm 34 tomorrow and pregnant with my first. I had been very worried about TTC and thought it would have taken ages especially because I was on BCP for about 15 years, but it actually happened really quickly! So I feel a bit better about the 'over 30' thing now. Although I do wonder if probably tiredness etc. is worse than if we were younger.

HI there, I am due in August so don't really fit the bill but I am an older mum (40 this year) and would love to chat to other 'oldies' LOL

hi guys! it's nice to see there's a few of us!
to me it feels a bit strange to be pregnant 'at this age', when most of my friends have already had babies years ago. as this is our first it was also starting to feel like people were no longer expecting us to have babies if you know what i mean?
i am feeling tired and lazy but I usually do anyway!
golcarlilly we can pick your brains about being in 1st tri hahah! How do you feel at the moment? Do you think the symptoms / tiredness were worse this time?
It's very early for me I know but I am concerned about how I will cope with the sleepless nights and changes that a baby will bring ... although I'm really looking forward to it, me and OH have had a loooong time doing what we want when we want .... also both our jobs are very busy, especially his, and not sure how much he will adjust as he's building his career / reputation up really well at the moment. i worry that it might be a really hard adjustment for both of us and I'm not sure I've got much support around me apart from him. I know that doesn't apply to those of you who already have kids but what do you think about adjusting to the new routine?

Also who's trying to stay fit? (so many questions! there'll probably be more about tests, risks, all that sort of thing! I get annoyed when people quote that wonderful statistic that risks massively increase as soon as you have your magic 35th birthday but I'm not so sure it's so generalisable really...)

Oh and polaris happy birthday for tomorrow!

Hi Ellie,
I totally know what you mean about not knowing how we will cope with the changes that a baby will bring. To be honest I don't know if it's really hit home to me yet that we will have a baby by Christmas (all going well, fingers crossed). Myself and OH tend to be very spur-of-the-moment people and that is all going to change obviously and things will have to be planned around the baby. I am lucky that OH only works part-time so he is planning to take on quite a bit of responsibility for child-care, ideally I would also like to organize reduced working hours such as a 4 day week after maternity leave but I'm not sure whether that will be possible. At the moment I have quite a long commute to work so I don't know how I will cope with that. On the other hand I don't think I would like to stay at home full-time as I do enjoy work and have worked hard to build up my career. But we will just have to cross that bridge when we come to it - on the other hand we don't really have the same kind of 'party' lifestyle that we would have done in our 20s so maybe from that point of view it will be easier to adjust?

Keeping fit - yes. I am generally pretty active and I need to exercise as much to stay sane as for my physical health. I generally do a couple of hours yoga once or twice a week and also jogging about 3 times a week. I am still trying to keep up with both. The yoga is a little bit awkward because obviously I had to tell the instructor that I am pregnant as there are certain positions that are not recommended. That was fine but the problem is that a good friend of mine who I haven't told yet also attends the class. I really don't want to tell her yet as she is a self-confessed gossip and the world would know. But I'm sure she is beginning to get suspicious as to why I am not doing certain postures. The jogging is also a bit of an issue - my doctor said that she would not really recommend running as it is a high impact sport - I really don't want to give it up though so I have just reduced the intensity and am taking it pretty easy - I'm pretty sure this is OK because I would have been running regularly before I got pregnant. I did give it up completely for the first couple of weeks but was missing it too much!!

Sorry - long waffle!!

I would say I have felt a lot more tired this time round, I go to bed at nine most nights!! I like being pregnant a lot more though, I just find it so fascinating what my body is doing and I am totally obsessed with my growing bump - I think I was more concerned with how much weight I was gaining last time (when I was 23) than I am now!

It will be a massive change in lifestyle for us too, my DD is 15 and spends half the week at her Dad's so we have a lot of 'us' time whereas when LO arrives we won't get a minute!! I work full time atm too and I am going to take at least 9 months mat leave then go back part-time so that will be a bit change too (a very welcome one I might add cos I am soooo bored of my job LOL)