Mothers day sadness

Mrs Doddy · Mar 14th, 2010, 13:05 PM

Does anyone else feel sad today?? It should have been my first mothers day today, I know I'm pregnant again and I am greatful but have been choking back the tears because h will not recognise the day because this baby hasn't been born yet, all I keep thinking about is my angel

mummy3 · Mar 14th, 2010, 13:32 PM

Oh hun

analyticalema · Mar 14th, 2010, 14:10 PM

I felt like that then this morning my partner surprised me he found a card in Tesco "from the bump" not seen them before... I cried through joy for Tic Tac and sorrow as it wasn't from Jesse.
I think some people recognise pregnant ladies as mums...we do on here! Happy Mother's day honey! We went to the crem today and took flowers sobbed but felt good to recognise Jesse today.
Big Hugs and Lots of love! Xx

Mrs Doddy · Mar 14th, 2010, 14:20 PM

That's part of the reason I was upset h didn't get me anything and he said I wasn't a mummy yet

he doesn't mean it horribly he's just not soppy like I am. I bought him a card last year on fathers day from the baby and he doesn't even remeber that I did it.

Jellyt · Mar 14th, 2010, 14:23 PM

I feel sad today too. OH took me out for breakfast but he hasn't mentioned our angel babies and that makes me sad because I am their mummy and something from our angels would have been nice. People have said things like "It'll be you next year" and I think well it should be me this year. Most of the people who've made those comments know about the losses and you think they'd think first but people don't realise how hurtful it is do they. We are all mums so happy mother's day hun

Jox · Mar 14th, 2010, 18:37 PM

i am very sad today, should have a 10 week old baby with me but instead all i have is his grave to visit

xxx

kermit4 · Mar 16th, 2010, 10:00 AM

I nearly wept when my beautiful 4yo niece gave me a big hug and wished me "Happy Mother's Day". She was the only person who had, albeit unkowingly, aknowledged what I wanted my nearest and dearest to aknowledge... I am a mum already, my angel boy knows it, i love and miss him so much. My current tiny bean knows it too.

Sadly my miserable SIL didn't have the tact or sensitivity to leave it alone.
As ever, so quick to correct her kids when she see's them as being wrong or making a mistake she told my niece...
"You can't wish Auntie Happy Mother's Day. Auntie isn't a mummy. You can only be a Mummy if you have little ones."

All I needed on Sunday was that hug and those words my niece gave me. It made me so sad that the grown ups in the room couldn't see that.

Mar 14th, 2010, 13:05 PM	#1
Mrs Doddy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 10,037	Mothers day sadness Does anyone else feel sad today?? It should have been my first mothers day today, I know I'm pregnant again and I am greatful but have been choking back the tears because h will not recognise the day because this baby hasn't been born yet, all I keep thinking about is my angel

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Mar 14th, 2010, 13:32 PM	#2
mummy3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Az Posts: 6,621	Oh hun

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Mar 14th, 2010, 14:10 PM	#3
analyticalema Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 96	I felt like that then this morning my partner surprised me he found a card in Tesco "from the bump" not seen them before... I cried through joy for Tic Tac and sorrow as it wasn't from Jesse. I think some people recognise pregnant ladies as mums...we do on here! Happy Mother's day honey! We went to the crem today and took flowers sobbed but felt good to recognise Jesse today. Big Hugs and Lots of love! Xx

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Mar 14th, 2010, 14:20 PM	#4
Mrs Doddy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 10,037	That's part of the reason I was upset h didn't get me anything and he said I wasn't a mummy yet he doesn't mean it horribly he's just not soppy like I am. I bought him a card last year on fathers day from the baby and he doesn't even remeber that I did it.

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Mar 14th, 2010, 14:23 PM	#5
Jellyt Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Leicester, UK Posts: 1,473	I feel sad today too. OH took me out for breakfast but he hasn't mentioned our angel babies and that makes me sad because I am their mummy and something from our angels would have been nice. People have said things like "It'll be you next year" and I think well it should be me this year. Most of the people who've made those comments know about the losses and you think they'd think first but people don't realise how hurtful it is do they. We are all mums so happy mother's day hun

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Mar 14th, 2010, 18:37 PM	#6
Jox Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Mansfield, Notts Posts: 7,272	i am very sad today, should have a 10 week old baby with me but instead all i have is his grave to visit xxx

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Mar 16th, 2010, 10:00 AM	#7
kermit4 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: scotland Posts: 57	I nearly wept when my beautiful 4yo niece gave me a big hug and wished me "Happy Mother's Day". She was the only person who had, albeit unkowingly, aknowledged what I wanted my nearest and dearest to aknowledge... I am a mum already, my angel boy knows it, i love and miss him so much. My current tiny bean knows it too. Sadly my miserable SIL didn't have the tact or sensitivity to leave it alone. As ever, so quick to correct her kids when she see's them as being wrong or making a mistake she told my niece... "You can't wish Auntie Happy Mother's Day. Auntie isn't a mummy. You can only be a Mummy if you have little ones." All I needed on Sunday was that hug and those words my niece gave me. It made me so sad that the grown ups in the room couldn't see that.

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