How did you tell everyone this time round ?

Mrs Doddy · Feb 28th, 2010, 09:53 AM

When I was pregant last year (which resulted in a mmc) I told everyone I could in person at 9 weeks - arranged nights out, family meals ect I was soooo excited and didn't want to tell people over the phone- seemed impersonal.

This time everything feels different, like I can't be too excited because of my previous loss, I have only told a handful of people this time most of them being work and will not tell anyone else till after my 12 week scan/when I feel ready

Did you do things differently second time round ???

Las78 · Feb 28th, 2010, 12:11 PM

I did too, only told 3 people till I got to 14 weeks. I started to show then so mentioned it to a few others, most people esp at work heard through those few that did know. I didn't talk about it at all until I was over 20 weeks and if people asked when I was due I just said "May" and nothing else, almost like saying anything might jinx me!

lauraperrysan · Feb 28th, 2010, 12:16 PM

i think it is very different after loss in terms for when to tell and being excited.
we told quite a few friends before we lost our first, after that we didn't tell anyone, there are only 3 people who know we've lost 5 babies, me oh and my best friend....oh 4 and oh's mum.
so this time we told people at 12 weeks everyone was really excited but we wern't, we want to be it's just hard to allow yourself to get too excited xxx

Mrs Doddy · Feb 28th, 2010, 13:05 PM

Not sure when I'm going to feel excited about it this time, 12 weeks doesn't feel like a major milestone, the 20 week scan feels safer- i obviously will announce it before then but I don't want to make a big deal out of it like I did before. I'm really sad about this, maybe I will feel differently about things after my 12 week scan and things seem to be ok then.

Hoolie · Feb 28th, 2010, 14:24 PM

I did do things differently but not consciously.

With my MMC pregnancy, I as just so excited and thrilled, everyone knew early on. This time around I have told people but not in the same excited way, in a more low key kinda way. That has meant that people have naturally not told others as it seems when you are excited, everyone gets excited with you and the news spreads quickly. This time, I'm now nearly 23 weeks pregnant and at work I am still surprised to find quite a number of people haven't heard until I mention it.

Friends that I see or have contact with regularly know becasue I've told them but for those who I'd have to contact specifically to tell them, I haven't told them.

Alex

Lazy Leo · Feb 28th, 2010, 15:30 PM

I was almost completely the opposite. We hadn't told anyone I was pregnant and when I miscarried it was awful then telling my mum when she didn't know in the first place. When I fell pregnant again, I told her at about 6 weeks and a couple of really close friends at 8-9 weeks knowing how much I would need support if history repeated. Thankfully it didn't, and I'm sure everything will work out just fine for you this time too. Unfortunately after m/c our innocence is taken from us and its never quite the same again

Bingo · Mar 1st, 2010, 10:06 AM

Everything is different this time around, the excitement and innocence is lost. We've decided not to tell anyone until after the 12 week scan.

I've just been for a wee and there was a little bright red blood on the tissue so I am feeling a bit worried. I haven't had any bleeding this time around, just a couple of tiny shows of brown blood and now this, just as I was starting to feel really quite positive about this pregnancy.

If we get the ok at the 12 week scan which I will hopefully have around the 17th of March (I'm seeing my GP tomorrow and will hopefully make that appointment) then I'm not sure I'll want to tell people because I know how many people have lost their pregnancies so much later.

We only told immediate family and one friend each last time when we found out but this time I go through phases of wanting to tell people and not wanting to say anything at all until it's obvious i.e. when I have a noticable bump.

Sorry, I have just thread crapped.

chachadada · Mar 3rd, 2010, 09:37 AM

it feels very different this time, me and oh agreed not to tell any1 till i had my nt scan, then i told my mum and he told his bro, my so called b mate guessed and i still don't want to tell any1 until i am 20weeks if i can hide it that long, just feels better this way

JASMAK · Mar 3rd, 2010, 13:15 PM

I have lost three, and yes I did do it differently. I told immediate family and my best friend. Then no one until I had my u/s. After that, I announced to close friends and then posted a facebook message. I really couldn't keep it secret too long because I had (and still do have) bad morning sickness.

Sparklestar · Mar 6th, 2010, 06:56 AM

when i found out about my last pregnancy, my parents told everyone lol so it wasnt a secret ever. this time around, no-one has told anyone but as i'm no longeer smoking and being sick all the time, even in tesco's (ewww). people have guessed

xxx

Feb 28th, 2010, 09:53 AM	#1
Mrs Doddy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 10,038	How did you tell everyone this time round ? When I was pregant last year (which resulted in a mmc) I told everyone I could in person at 9 weeks - arranged nights out, family meals ect I was soooo excited and didn't want to tell people over the phone- seemed impersonal. This time everything feels different, like I can't be too excited because of my previous loss, I have only told a handful of people this time most of them being work and will not tell anyone else till after my 12 week scan/when I feel ready Did you do things differently second time round ???

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Feb 28th, 2010, 12:11 PM	#2
Las78 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,141	I did too, only told 3 people till I got to 14 weeks. I started to show then so mentioned it to a few others, most people esp at work heard through those few that did know. I didn't talk about it at all until I was over 20 weeks and if people asked when I was due I just said "May" and nothing else, almost like saying anything might jinx me!

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Feb 28th, 2010, 12:16 PM	#3
lauraperrysan Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Dorset Posts: 1,882	i think it is very different after loss in terms for when to tell and being excited. we told quite a few friends before we lost our first, after that we didn't tell anyone, there are only 3 people who know we've lost 5 babies, me oh and my best friend....oh 4 and oh's mum. so this time we told people at 12 weeks everyone was really excited but we wern't, we want to be it's just hard to allow yourself to get too excited xxx

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Feb 28th, 2010, 13:05 PM	#4
Mrs Doddy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 10,038	Not sure when I'm going to feel excited about it this time, 12 weeks doesn't feel like a major milestone, the 20 week scan feels safer- i obviously will announce it before then but I don't want to make a big deal out of it like I did before. I'm really sad about this, maybe I will feel differently about things after my 12 week scan and things seem to be ok then.

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Feb 28th, 2010, 14:24 PM	#5
Hoolie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 625	I did do things differently but not consciously. With my MMC pregnancy, I as just so excited and thrilled, everyone knew early on. This time around I have told people but not in the same excited way, in a more low key kinda way. That has meant that people have naturally not told others as it seems when you are excited, everyone gets excited with you and the news spreads quickly. This time, I'm now nearly 23 weeks pregnant and at work I am still surprised to find quite a number of people haven't heard until I mention it. Friends that I see or have contact with regularly know becasue I've told them but for those who I'd have to contact specifically to tell them, I haven't told them. Alex

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Feb 28th, 2010, 15:30 PM	#6
Lazy Leo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: UK Posts: 4,275	I was almost completely the opposite. We hadn't told anyone I was pregnant and when I miscarried it was awful then telling my mum when she didn't know in the first place. When I fell pregnant again, I told her at about 6 weeks and a couple of really close friends at 8-9 weeks knowing how much I would need support if history repeated. Thankfully it didn't, and I'm sure everything will work out just fine for you this time too. Unfortunately after m/c our innocence is taken from us and its never quite the same again

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Mar 1st, 2010, 10:06 AM	#7
Bingo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,667	Everything is different this time around, the excitement and innocence is lost. We've decided not to tell anyone until after the 12 week scan. I've just been for a wee and there was a little bright red blood on the tissue so I am feeling a bit worried. I haven't had any bleeding this time around, just a couple of tiny shows of brown blood and now this, just as I was starting to feel really quite positive about this pregnancy. If we get the ok at the 12 week scan which I will hopefully have around the 17th of March (I'm seeing my GP tomorrow and will hopefully make that appointment) then I'm not sure I'll want to tell people because I know how many people have lost their pregnancies so much later. We only told immediate family and one friend each last time when we found out but this time I go through phases of wanting to tell people and not wanting to say anything at all until it's obvious i.e. when I have a noticable bump. Sorry, I have just thread crapped.

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 09:37 AM	#8
chachadada Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: london Posts: 375	it feels very different this time, me and oh agreed not to tell any1 till i had my nt scan, then i told my mum and he told his bro, my so called b mate guessed and i still don't want to tell any1 until i am 20weeks if i can hide it that long, just feels better this way

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 13:15 PM	#9
JASMAK Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: CANADA!!! Posts: 10,951	I have lost three, and yes I did do it differently. I told immediate family and my best friend. Then no one until I had my u/s. After that, I announced to close friends and then posted a facebook message. I really couldn't keep it secret too long because I had (and still do have) bad morning sickness.

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Mar 6th, 2010, 06:56 AM	#10
Sparklestar Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Kidderminster, West Midlands Posts: 541	when i found out about my last pregnancy, my parents told everyone lol so it wasnt a secret ever. this time around, no-one has told anyone but as i'm no longeer smoking and being sick all the time, even in tesco's (ewww). people have guessed xxx

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