How did you tell everyone this time round? - Page 2

Wants2bmummy · Mar 7th, 2010, 17:39 PM

Me and hubby decided just to tell my mum, dad and sister and his mum, dad and nanna. We've found out that as soon as we told his mum and nan (this afternoon) they phoned his aunty who has already told his cousin!!! They know that I miscarried in Dec and how hard is was for me cos everyone knew and now this! I've spent the whole night crying. His cousin has mutual friends with us so if she says anything, then thats it, everyone will know. It makes its worse because its his family and I feel that I can't really be rude to his mum or nan, but I just don't even want to look at them. I don't know what to do.

Bingo · Mar 8th, 2010, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Wants2bmummy

Me and hubby decided just to tell my mum, dad and sister and his mum, dad and nanna. We've found out that as soon as we told his mum and nan (this afternoon) they phoned his aunty who has already told his cousin!!! They know that I miscarried in Dec and how hard is was for me cos everyone knew and now this! I've spent the whole night crying. His cousin has mutual friends with us so if she says anything, then thats it, everyone will know. It makes its worse because its his family and I feel that I can't really be rude to his mum or nan, but I just don't even want to look at them. I don't know what to do.

I'm sorry that family have betrayed your trust. This is exactly why we've decided to wait until the 12 week scan this time around. My mother anounced it to people last time around after I had told her not to tell anyone because it was so early. It wasn't too bad for me because she is overseas and has no contact with my friends. If someone told me they were pregnant and to keep the news to myself I would have done even before having had a pregnancy and miscarriage myself. Big

to you.

banana1975 · Mar 8th, 2010, 11:24 AM

I never told anyone until after the first trimester with my first two, so this time will be no different. After losing my son though to a birth defect at 7 weeks old, I am trying my darndest to hide this until after the 20 week u/s to make sure that the baby is healty. The innocence and excitement is lost on my until then...I just take good care of myself and carry on like normal....

Mrs Doddy · Mar 8th, 2010, 14:39 PM

huge hugs to everyone xx

anie · Mar 8th, 2010, 19:13 PM

At the moment only myself and OH know.

We both only have our mums (my OHs father passed away a few years ago, and mine left when I was 4), and we're both very protective of them, even though they often drive us nuts. So we will tell them when we saw our baby's heart, and then tell other friends and family as we see fit and when we feel comfortable.

Last time I told a close friend of mine, and she was rubbish when I lost it, basically ignoring me and the whole thing, so I am not keen on sharing the news with anyone again so early.

sazza · Mar 11th, 2010, 15:04 PM

This is a good thread. So far, only OH and the girl I work with knows that I am pg. I don't think we will be telling people after the twelve week scan, I think I may be around 5 months before I will be comfortable telling people. Saying that, they may well have guessed by then anyway?!! x x

littledemonme · Mar 12th, 2010, 07:23 AM

Firast time we were 'lucky' in that we had only told our parents, Mum is very supersticious and had said not to say anything till 2nd Tri - lost little one at 12 weeks.
This time I told my mum straight away as I was a wreck and needed her support, OH decided to tell parents after 8 weeks as stats seemed good to him. We didn't tell anyone else till after Nuchal at 13+4.
Mrs Doddy - please feel excited about it and about telling people - they'll be thrilled for you. The statistics of going full term if you have a heartbeat at 12 weeks are fantastic. I have spent this whole pregnancy in denial - I'm now the size of a small house and baby less than 5 weeks till EDD and I still only have some presents and a moses basket (left in packaging in case it has to go back) in the house. I really regret being so detatched from this pregnancy.

Mar 7th, 2010, 17:39 PM	#11
Wants2bmummy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Manchester Posts: 407	Me and hubby decided just to tell my mum, dad and sister and his mum, dad and nanna. We've found out that as soon as we told his mum and nan (this afternoon) they phoned his aunty who has already told his cousin!!! They know that I miscarried in Dec and how hard is was for me cos everyone knew and now this! I've spent the whole night crying. His cousin has mutual friends with us so if she says anything, then thats it, everyone will know. It makes its worse because its his family and I feel that I can't really be rude to his mum or nan, but I just don't even want to look at them. I don't know what to do.

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banana1975 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 73	I never told anyone until after the first trimester with my first two, so this time will be no different. After losing my son though to a birth defect at 7 weeks old, I am trying my darndest to hide this until after the 20 week u/s to make sure that the baby is healty. The innocence and excitement is lost on my until then...I just take good care of myself and carry on like normal....

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Mrs Doddy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 10,048	huge hugs to everyone xx

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anie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Leicestershire Posts: 177	At the moment only myself and OH know. We both only have our mums (my OHs father passed away a few years ago, and mine left when I was 4), and we're both very protective of them, even though they often drive us nuts. So we will tell them when we saw our baby's heart, and then tell other friends and family as we see fit and when we feel comfortable. Last time I told a close friend of mine, and she was rubbish when I lost it, basically ignoring me and the whole thing, so I am not keen on sharing the news with anyone again so early.

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Mar 11th, 2010, 15:04 PM	#16
sazza Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Scotland :) Posts: 3,817	This is a good thread. So far, only OH and the girl I work with knows that I am pg. I don't think we will be telling people after the twelve week scan, I think I may be around 5 months before I will be comfortable telling people. Saying that, they may well have guessed by then anyway?!! x x

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Mar 12th, 2010, 07:23 AM	#17
littledemonme Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 568	Firast time we were 'lucky' in that we had only told our parents, Mum is very supersticious and had said not to say anything till 2nd Tri - lost little one at 12 weeks. This time I told my mum straight away as I was a wreck and needed her support, OH decided to tell parents after 8 weeks as stats seemed good to him. We didn't tell anyone else till after Nuchal at 13+4. Mrs Doddy - please feel excited about it and about telling people - they'll be thrilled for you. The statistics of going full term if you have a heartbeat at 12 weeks are fantastic. I have spent this whole pregnancy in denial - I'm now the size of a small house and baby less than 5 weeks till EDD and I still only have some presents and a moses basket (left in packaging in case it has to go back) in the house. I really regret being so detatched from this pregnancy.

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