I think I have depression

sammie18 · Feb 12th, 2009, 14:27 PM

I think I might be having depression. I have been crying constantly and I have been thinking about stuff. I keep thinking me and hubs will never be the same, do what we used to do and be able to spend time together.

I love him so much and I dont want that to happen. I keep thinking about how I wished I would have waited to have a baby, and there are times where I think that I dont want her anymore and that I just want things to go back to the way things used to be.

I feel so bad for thinking that to! I cant stop crying and im crying now I just cant stop and thinking about everything. I feel so bad, I feel like im a bad person for thinking about allison that way.

its really tearing me apart.

xarlenex · Feb 12th, 2009, 14:31 PM

You've only recentely given birth, your hormones are bound to be everywere, more than likely lack of sleep too. Maybe after a couple weeks you'll possibly feel better, but until then talk to your midwife/health visitor

xx

carries · Feb 12th, 2009, 15:12 PM

Everyone thinks like this at some point hun. I still get a little blue sometimes and Oscar is 10 weeks old. Its a big life change! Give it a couple of weeks and if you still feel the same talk to your midwife/HV.

Also, I dont know if it helps but I really didnt feel that rush of love everyone talks about. It has taken time, we needed to get to know each other but we are getting there. Hope you feel better soon x

UKMummy · Feb 12th, 2009, 16:26 PM

At the begining it's overwhelming. Yes your life is never going to be the same and it's been changed by a baby that you don't even know!!! However, once you (and your OH) have grieved for the life that is no more and accept that life will be different but by no means worse ( it is better by miles) you yourself will feel better. Also, it takes weeks before you actually feel you know your baby because she is after all a complete stranger. It took me and my husband an age to accept life as we knew it had gone but now, three children later, we love our family life. Yes we miss the holidays, the late nights, the meals out, the sex (!) but we would never ever trade it in because our three children are absolutely the best ever, despite even now they make us tear our hair out!!!

However, keep talking to people and if, after a few months you don't feel like you're feeling better please do talk to someone as there are people out there who can help. You are not alone. Take care

princess_bump · Feb 12th, 2009, 16:32 PM

aww sweetie it does take a time to adjust, its a big old life changing decision, and such responsibility, see how you go over the next few weeks, it does get easier, eventually, tbh i think me and james have a better relationship now, maddi has cemented our bond

i think its just your hormones are all over the place what with just having your LO. hope you feel better soon

**polo_princess** · Feb 12th, 2009, 16:44 PM

I think we all have feelings like that for the first couple of weeks hun, give things time to settle down and see how you feel,those first few weeks are soooo emotionally hard. if those feelings dont go away speak to your health visitor or doctor.

Beltane · Feb 12th, 2009, 20:00 PM

Hang in there- it does get better!

lollylou1 · Feb 13th, 2009, 02:19 AM

oh hun its still very new, your probably very tired and adjusting really isnt that easy, i still have days now where i feel like oh god my life is never going to be the same, i panick a little then i think i couldnt be without her either.
im sure its all your hormones messing you about but like everyone else said give it a few weeks see how you feel and if the same speak to your doc or hv

big hugs

Lou
xxx

nessajane · Feb 13th, 2009, 08:23 AM

hun you could be experiencing the baby blues which is very common i had it and it was just awfull, it lasted about a week. if it doesnt go ina a week or two prehaps speak to your HV XX

shampain · Feb 13th, 2009, 09:02 AM

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Feb 12th, 2009, 14:27 PM	#1
sammie18 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Colorado Springs (USA) Posts: 2,732	I think I have depression I think I might be having depression. I have been crying constantly and I have been thinking about stuff. I keep thinking me and hubs will never be the same, do what we used to do and be able to spend time together. I love him so much and I dont want that to happen. I keep thinking about how I wished I would have waited to have a baby, and there are times where I think that I dont want her anymore and that I just want things to go back to the way things used to be. I feel so bad for thinking that to! I cant stop crying and im crying now I just cant stop and thinking about everything. I feel so bad, I feel like im a bad person for thinking about allison that way. its really tearing me apart.

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xarlenex Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Bonny Scotland :) Posts: 3,339	You've only recentely given birth, your hormones are bound to be everywere, more than likely lack of sleep too. Maybe after a couple weeks you'll possibly feel better, but until then talk to your midwife/health visitor xx

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Feb 12th, 2009, 15:12 PM	#3
carries Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,984	Everyone thinks like this at some point hun. I still get a little blue sometimes and Oscar is 10 weeks old. Its a big life change! Give it a couple of weeks and if you still feel the same talk to your midwife/HV. Also, I dont know if it helps but I really didnt feel that rush of love everyone talks about. It has taken time, we needed to get to know each other but we are getting there. Hope you feel better soon x

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Feb 12th, 2009, 16:26 PM	#4
UKMummy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Surrey UK Posts: 284	At the begining it's overwhelming. Yes your life is never going to be the same and it's been changed by a baby that you don't even know!!! However, once you (and your OH) have grieved for the life that is no more and accept that life will be different but by no means worse ( it is better by miles) you yourself will feel better. Also, it takes weeks before you actually feel you know your baby because she is after all a complete stranger. It took me and my husband an age to accept life as we knew it had gone but now, three children later, we love our family life. Yes we miss the holidays, the late nights, the meals out, the sex (!) but we would never ever trade it in because our three children are absolutely the best ever, despite even now they make us tear our hair out!!! However, keep talking to people and if, after a few months you don't feel like you're feeling better please do talk to someone as there are people out there who can help. You are not alone. Take care

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Feb 12th, 2009, 16:32 PM	#5
princess_bump Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: England Posts: 31,453	aww sweetie it does take a time to adjust, its a big old life changing decision, and such responsibility, see how you go over the next few weeks, it does get easier, eventually, tbh i think me and james have a better relationship now, maddi has cemented our bond i think its just your hormones are all over the place what with just having your LO. hope you feel better soon

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polo_princess Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,510	I think we all have feelings like that for the first couple of weeks hun, give things time to settle down and see how you feel,those first few weeks are soooo emotionally hard. if those feelings dont go away speak to your health visitor or doctor.

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Beltane Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 4,384	Hang in there- it does get better!

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lollylou1 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Telford Shropshire Posts: 4,906	oh hun its still very new, your probably very tired and adjusting really isnt that easy, i still have days now where i feel like oh god my life is never going to be the same, i panick a little then i think i couldnt be without her either. im sure its all your hormones messing you about but like everyone else said give it a few weeks see how you feel and if the same speak to your doc or hv big hugs Lou xxx
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nessajane Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 7,586	hun you could be experiencing the baby blues which is very common i had it and it was just awfull, it lasted about a week. if it doesnt go ina a week or two prehaps speak to your HV XX

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