Well, for a start Im not mental and secondly, I did eventually go and see her, regardless of whether I wanted too or not, I did it to prove a point.
So my mother was a cow to all her kids, fair comment- she can no longer look after children and hopefully regrets what she did to us all, but why base family history on my capabilities to look after my son? Can dr's do this? I was told that it would be best for me to comply with their rules and requests, because if I dont, It would make it look as if I "didnt care"-
How would they work that out? would YOU not be offended if you had to go and see one of these people based souly on your mothers mistakes/problems?
So I was declared 'normal', as I knew I freakng would be, but for some reason I am STILL on the high risk list for PND- I dont understand ot, HOW COME?
I even have to have a nurse from the mother and baby unit come visit me at home a few times before and after baby is born. Im not seeing their reasoning behind it.
Is this a normal thing to happen to first time mothers or what?
Can I ask, if it was you in this situation, would you do as 'your told' by drs and attend these bizarre meetings? or out of principal, would you decline?
Has ANYONE been in this situation where you have been put in the same catagory as someone you're not simular too, in the slightest (ie: a family member)

i would have loved some extra support when rhys was born... i just thought my hv didnt care.

id go along with it hun

my hv came rouns twice when rhys was born. once to take notes etc and to weigh him and then another time to check on his eye infection.

she did not realise i had PND and ever since i told her shes treated me as if im a nut case... not good at all.

i really wished i had more professionals that wanted to help me instead of treat me like a loony, even after i was diagnosed with PND my hv never offerd to come to the house or anything.

Im sorry to hear that seems you had it a bit rough!
Im being treated like a loony too, so youre not on your own. I admit I have one or two issues, but none that would require 'monitoring'!
I just dont know who these people think they are, fair enough they're there to 'help', but I put that word very mildly because they can actually cause more harm then good, especially if they make a mother feel as though she is mental.

Do you know after I had Charlie I was NEVER asked how I was? Yes, all the Health Care Professionals asked about Charlie, but never me.

I dont know any history of your Mum, but some mental illnesses do run in the family. I guess it is quite judgemental, but try and see it in a positive light?

I agree with Hels. At least they will be able to monitor you and if all is well then you will just be discharged. It's harder to get the support if you did develop PND so at least you have got this ball rolling. Though I can understand your frustration but mental health issues can be genetic. I personally would go along with it, ignoring it will just make it worse. Why not ask the reasoning behind it, why you are still considered high risk.

Can I just add though that I am being monitored, and assessed and though I have PND I am still "normal"

ridiculas isnt it??

i would feel anioed and i dont know what your mother done but
if it ran in my family for example that parents beat their children and abused them,i would like to be assesed so if i became like that i would be treated before it started.

just go along with it

and i was the same hels i never got asked once how i felt.
i was fine after Dior but there were only a few weeks after Harley was born when i felt so low i wanted to die and hated my life so much. it passed thankfully the thought of staying inn th=at black hole is awful