awww louise I dont know what to say.......your poor brother.

I would embrace the extra care you may receive but I would also make my feelings known on the subject of your mothering ability,you knw and they know you will be fab hunny
bex

Abuse does not run in a family, if you have been through something like that you are even less likely to do it to your own children because you know what it feels like. It's your choice whether or not you accept the help they are offering, I think it's a load of rubbish but they're offering additional help which you may find useful for other reasons. Remember though, it's your choice.

my mum has mental health problems, and i wasnt put on high care, like alot have said tho, i wish i had have had a bit of extra care, my health visitor was fantastic with chloe+callum, but a bit clueless wen it came to me.

Yvanne, you got me all paranoid now lol.
I wonder why Im considered high risk pnd, when I have given no reason for them to believe I will suffer from it.
My mother use to burn me with cigarettes,
left my sister on her own in an empty flat
beat my brother almost to death
drank violently throughout pregnancy and caused another brother to have multiple disabilities, and in general she didnt have a care in the world.

If they're comparing me to THAT, then yes, Im offended.
Funny isnt it? those who dont want help, have no choice but to accept. Yet those who want it cant get it!!!! Its a funny world.

lousie hun, different procedures are done differently throughout the country, also procedures change so frequently, it had changed from having chloe and callum, and theres only 14 an a bit months between them

I've never heard of anything like this! No one asked how I felt either, except physically. Maybe you should just go along with it, but I can see where it could be humiliating. Things are so different here though. There are no nurses or aids to come around and check on things. You leave the hospital and that's it..unless there's a problem. I was given all of the numbers to the nursery though..in case I had questions or concerns, but we don't have any kind of mandatory programs or appts. Ohhhh, I do have one funny story though. When I was pregnant with Bailey, I was on blood pressure meds and it made me very dizzy. I burned myself several times cooking just before delivery. While I was in labor and OH was out of the room, the nurse said, "I've noticed the burns on your arms and by law I have to ask if you're a victim of domestic violence or in fear of for your safety." I almost fell over. I'm sure it's a great policy, but I said, "Hell no, he's scared of ME!"

my maternity notes state risk of PND due to the medical history of my family and my own medical history.

they have told me, if I feel low during pregnancy or whenever I want to I can have counselling!

but they left it up to me to decide! they did not force me to do anything 'bout it!

so far I feel fine and I did not go for counselling, but as soon as I get problems after giving birth (what I am really worried 'bout) I will go to see them immediately!

think it should be your own decision, whether to go there or not!

if your mother had mental problems it does not necessarily mean you have any or will get any along the way!

I can understand you feel offended by the way they treat you!!!

Although Ive never been there myself, I can understand why you're upset.

My mum got manic depression/bi polar or what ever its called, which was triggered by childbirth when she had me.

I felt I had to let my doctor know about it, because I was concerned it was a herreditory thing.

They havent pushed anything on me yet, but if they did I would be offended. No medical person can tell you if you're 'normal' or a good mum. What is normal anyway?

I think you're doing the right thing by going along with it, but you shouldn't have had to be put in that position in the first place.

I hope it all works out for you hun

xxx

I know this is a little bit old, but I went to see the counselor at my Dr office two days ago to talk about this. They were a bit concerned, because at 17 I was diagnosed with depression. Which really, for me, was just scared of change going on. I was graduating high school, me & DH broke up for a few months after graduation, and I was nervous about college, and felt isolated from my family. But I quickly realized that things would be ok, and moved on. The counselor told me that they would not consider me high risk, but average. She did not make me schedule any other appointments, just gave me her card and said if I needed to talk or anything, just to call her. It was nice that she left it up to me, instead of forcing it on me. I hope things have gone ok, I know you had your son in Sept, so I'm sure you have already made it passed that stuff. But I think Marley is right, when you have abuse or neglect in your life, you are less likely to do that to your children, because you want to always be better than the person who did it to you, and you know how it feels. I'm sure you are a GREAT mom!