Aww Soph im sorry your having a tough time of it at the minute, i cant say much that the other girls havent said already but i hope your feeling better soon

thanks so much ladies. i do need to try and establish a routine with him but at the moment hes not settling till about 4am. its so hard though and OH has stopped helping me through the night with him, he said last night "well u need to get used to it for when i go back to work". so he expects me to do everything all day n night and he can just sit on his arse n do nothing when he gets in?? dont think so. he only takes him off me when he wants a cuddle but as soon as he needs changin or feedin he'll hand him straight back.

I am worried about PND, but OH n his mother just think im being moody.
I cnt even stand to be around OH, hes horrible 2 me one minute then hes trying to kiss me etc... but everytime he comes near me i hate it and tell him to get off me.

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Men just don't have a clue unfortunately and living with his mother!! Nightmare. Don't get yourself down, being a mum is not as easy as people make out, its just you and Leo learning about each other and it is tough!! It is constant, 24 hrs for the next 50 years! of worry and doubt but also happiness, laughter and complete love.
Is there anywhere else you can go? Is your family near? Is Leo on the booby or the bottle? If he's booby fed then he may just want to nuzzle all night, mine have done this, then they start grunting because their all gassy lol. Or if he's on the bottle and he's a good size do you think he may need an extra ounce in his night feed. Giving him a bath before bed is also meant to help to settle baby, its like when we get in a nice deep warm bath for aches and pains. Hope things pick up soon for you both.

Thank you xx

Yeah hes bottle fed so I may give him an extra ounce before bed. But what time should I really be putting him to bed? Hes due a feed at 8pm so if I bath him just before then, then give him his feed and put him to bed? But He will most likely wake up around 12 (when hes due another feed) and probably wont settle till 4am again. But I'll see how tonight goes.

Well Im starting to apply for my own house this month and as OH is far too comfortable living at home with mummy Ive said I AM applying for houses and he can follow me or not, simple as.

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sorry your not having a good time of it hun

Why dont you try bringing his last feed before bed time back abit?

for example... we feed our LO about 10pm ish and by the time he has had bottle and a nappy change he's asleep by 10.45/11, then doesnt wake then till about 2.30ish has another feed/change then back to sleep till 6 then has another feed/change back to sleep till 9.30am. Sometimes LO doesnt settle straight away but i find that if i lay down with him on my chest for a while he seems to calm down and eventually falls asleep then i carry him back to his moses baket.

Some one told me the sound of your Heartbeat comforts the baby??
It works for me so its worth a shot!!

Hope this helps x x

Thanks Nessa. Yeah I do that sometimes with him on my chest, it does work. But with his feeding times, they never stay the same as he may want it an hour earlier or later etc... But Im trying to get his last feed of the day back to 10pm as he settled for longer that way.

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Hi hunni,

sorry you are having a terrile time but in NO WAY are you a failure, as Nessa says have you tried feeding him later so he sleeps later what strenght milk is he on?? could you give him a hungrier baby milk as my 2nd baby was unsettled and he was hungry milk was filling him but not sustaining him Aptamil Extra hungry is great for this i swear by it, if he is more comfortable falling asleep with you let him do so on your chest but then put him in his cot once he is asleep, has he got a comforter toy my last LO had the winnie the pooh lights and sound one that helps makes him feel he is not alone, or you could try a radio or cd player on low, what does he sleep in as my first baby was like this was always crying and i ended up putting her into a fleecy sleeping all in one bag and covered with a sheet cellular and fleece blanket worked a dream she was cold, anything is worth trying hunn if you ever need to talk or want any advice feel free to PM me im on pregnancy number 5 so got a bit of experience.... and all mine were different.
Rest when he does and dont bottle anything up, have you anyone you can trust to help as it seems oh and his mother are not in any way.
Hope some of this is of help hunn......

Thanks that was really helpful.

Im willing to try anything so we'll see how tonight goes then Im gonna have to try something different.

Hes on SMA gold btw.
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have you tried a dummy to try and settle him in the night hun?x

Yeah he has a dummy, but he accidently knocks it out or drops it out of his mouth A LOT so im up and down every 30 seconds to give it him back. It does settle him though and after about an hour of giving it back to him he will fall asleep.

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