If you could give a new mum one piece of advice - Page 9

WelshGirl · Jan 30th, 2009, 06:06 AM

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Originally Posted by wendino

Start reading baby books instead of pregnancy ones! I was a pregnancy expert but knew nothing about newborns!

A very good piece of advice - I had no baby books, and really wish I'd had one to read through in the last weeks of pregnancy.........plus, if you wait until your LO is here before you buy one, you have no time to read it!!!

cinnamum · Jan 30th, 2009, 22:17 PM

my advice is...
enjoy your baby and go out as much as possible but.. as soon as YOU feel ready.
fresh air and seeing familiar faces helps lots.
after the pregnancy where all the attention was on your bump and you, the baby now takes centre stage after the birth.
You will feel low as no one seems interested in you, so make time for you.
Get your mum/OH or the MIL to come over to look after baby while you go out or shower etc.
If you do go out try NOT to talk about the baby, i know its hard but it helps a lot!

alyc86 · Feb 7th, 2009, 22:16 PM

Mine would have to be enjoy your baby as much as you can dont worry about house work it can wait because babies grow so fast and the time fly's.
everyone told me "enjoy your baby because before you know it they will be ready to start school"
and i thought yeh yeh
and before i new it my son is 4 and starting school next year.
Another tip is get as much sleep as you can before the baby comes cause you wont get much when they are here.
Most importantly make sure you find time for you and your partner after babz arrives..

Emma.Gi · Feb 7th, 2009, 22:23 PM

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Originally Posted by alyc86

Mine would have to be enjoy your baby as much as you can dont worry about house work it can wait because babies grow so fast and the time fly's.
everyone told me "enjoy your baby because before you know it they will be ready to start school"
and i thought yeh yeh
and before i new it my son is 4 and starting school next year.
Another tip is get as much sleep as you can before the baby comes cause you wont get much when they are here.
Most importantly make sure you find time for you and your partner after babz arrives..

I wa going to say EXACTLY the same thing.

Freya · Feb 21st, 2009, 07:03 AM

Not to be negative, but just be aware thatwhen you get baby home for some mum's it is TOTALLY normal to have mixed feelings about being a mum and this change (even if you were planning and looking forward to it)..... there's a lot of hormones flying around, your body has been through a HUGE thing. Don't be hard on yourself, cry when you need to, talk to your OH or family and HV/midwife. If this happens to you, chances are it will be a flash in the pan!

OH yes... and dont compare you and your baby to others...... other people in the same situation LIE about how easy their baby is etc to keep up appearances!!

Those first few days and couple of weeks are wonderful but challenging, but it's a stage that you quickly move through.

A midwife said to me before I left, 'enjoy your baby', and that's the best piece of advice.

o0oCharlieo0o · Feb 24th, 2009, 09:59 AM

my advice may sound strange but im saying it anyway lol not everyone gets that 'amazing rush of love' that some people talk about straight after giving birth, for me it was more fear and worry lol i didnt know what i was doing with my first son and it was scary, and then on top of that i felt awful because i hadnt got that 'rush of love' that i expected to get so much, i wanted to protect him and look after him but it wasnt over whelming love, after a few days of caring for him tho i was so smitten in love it was unbeleivable and i love both my boys more than anything, just didnt get a rush of love instantly after birth

also the more obvious advices are sleep whenever you can and dont worry about housework xx

passengerrach · Mar 28th, 2009, 08:06 AM

mine would be dont have visitors for the first few days i could barely cope with being surrounded by people constantly when i just wanted to be cuddled up with my baby and oh not passing him from person 2 person if i have any more i will be saying no visitors for at least 2 days

alexaliff · Mar 28th, 2009, 17:34 PM

My one piece of advice would be to have a plan for each day to get you out of the house. Probably not for the first few weeks of course but it stops you from going crazy being stuck in the house. Even if it's just going out to the shops for some milk, or walking round the block, it really mkaes a difference to your day.

Mervs Mum · Mar 28th, 2009, 17:51 PM

It's OK to cry.

Believe in yourself.

Stick to your guns......

Thats 3 actually isnt it.......

caggimedicine · Mar 28th, 2009, 18:07 PM

I'd definitely agree with the advice on getting out of the house. When I first had Harry, just the thought of leaving the house with him seemed overwhelming, but once you've been out you feel so much more in control and able to cope.

Another tip would be... listen to YOUR mum! After all, she brought you up didn't she?! Trust your own instincts, but don't be afraid to ask for advice. Oh the other hand... you can get too much advice from some people!

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cinnamum Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Poole, Dorset Posts: 3,360	my advice is... enjoy your baby and go out as much as possible but.. as soon as YOU feel ready. fresh air and seeing familiar faces helps lots. after the pregnancy where all the attention was on your bump and you, the baby now takes centre stage after the birth. You will feel low as no one seems interested in you, so make time for you. Get your mum/OH or the MIL to come over to look after baby while you go out or shower etc. If you do go out try NOT to talk about the baby, i know its hard but it helps a lot!

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Feb 7th, 2009, 22:16 PM	#83
alyc86 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: australia Posts: 25	Mine would have to be enjoy your baby as much as you can dont worry about house work it can wait because babies grow so fast and the time fly's. everyone told me "enjoy your baby because before you know it they will be ready to start school" and i thought yeh yeh and before i new it my son is 4 and starting school next year. Another tip is get as much sleep as you can before the baby comes cause you wont get much when they are here. Most importantly make sure you find time for you and your partner after babz arrives..

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Feb 21st, 2009, 07:03 AM	#85
Freya Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 2,600	Not to be negative, but just be aware thatwhen you get baby home for some mum's it is TOTALLY normal to have mixed feelings about being a mum and this change (even if you were planning and looking forward to it)..... there's a lot of hormones flying around, your body has been through a HUGE thing. Don't be hard on yourself, cry when you need to, talk to your OH or family and HV/midwife. If this happens to you, chances are it will be a flash in the pan! OH yes... and dont compare you and your baby to others...... other people in the same situation LIE about how easy their baby is etc to keep up appearances!! Those first few days and couple of weeks are wonderful but challenging, but it's a stage that you quickly move through. A midwife said to me before I left, 'enjoy your baby', and that's the best piece of advice.

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Feb 24th, 2009, 09:59 AM	#86
o0oCharlieo0o Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Essex Posts: 2,873	my advice may sound strange but im saying it anyway lol not everyone gets that 'amazing rush of love' that some people talk about straight after giving birth, for me it was more fear and worry lol i didnt know what i was doing with my first son and it was scary, and then on top of that i felt awful because i hadnt got that 'rush of love' that i expected to get so much, i wanted to protect him and look after him but it wasnt over whelming love, after a few days of caring for him tho i was so smitten in love it was unbeleivable and i love both my boys more than anything, just didnt get a rush of love instantly after birth also the more obvious advices are sleep whenever you can and dont worry about housework xx

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Mar 28th, 2009, 08:06 AM	#87
passengerrach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: stevenage Posts: 2,939	mine would be dont have visitors for the first few days i could barely cope with being surrounded by people constantly when i just wanted to be cuddled up with my baby and oh not passing him from person 2 person if i have any more i will be saying no visitors for at least 2 days

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Mar 28th, 2009, 17:34 PM	#88
alexaliff Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Norfolk, East Anglia Posts: 12	My one piece of advice would be to have a plan for each day to get you out of the house. Probably not for the first few weeks of course but it stops you from going crazy being stuck in the house. Even if it's just going out to the shops for some milk, or walking round the block, it really mkaes a difference to your day.

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Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,347	It's OK to cry. Believe in yourself. Stick to your guns...... Thats 3 actually isnt it.......
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Mar 28th, 2009, 18:07 PM	#90
caggimedicine Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Trafford, Manchester, UK Posts: 1,654	I'd definitely agree with the advice on getting out of the house. When I first had Harry, just the thought of leaving the house with him seemed overwhelming, but once you've been out you feel so much more in control and able to cope. Another tip would be... listen to YOUR mum! After all, she brought you up didn't she?! Trust your own instincts, but don't be afraid to ask for advice. Oh the other hand... you can get too much advice from some people!

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