If you could give a new mum one piece of advice - Page 5

Deise · Oct 2nd, 2008, 23:30 PM

Here's the most important piece of advice! DO YOUR KEGEL EXERCISES!!!!

TallulahM · Oct 3rd, 2008, 06:43 AM

For practical advice, buy some muslins, they are by far the most useful part of my kit! Pop a folded one under babie's head when she/he is sleeping, if she/he is sick or possets it won't mark the sheets and will save having to do so much washing, I also use them as bibs, I get through about 5 a day, and never leave the house without at least 2!

Sleep when baby sleeps...

Follow your own instincts...

Grin and bare the annoying comments from Grandma and other well meaning oldies who tell you it's a good idea to put brandy in babie's bottle or other such nonsense....

If you can afford it, get a cleaner for the first month, or at least someone to iron or do laundry, by far the best investment I swear!

ENJOY IT! The sleepless nights and constant screaming may seem hard, but the baby time passes so fast, enjoy LO while he/she is little, believe me, it's when they start moving and talking that the real trouble starts LOL

Tezzy · Oct 3rd, 2008, 09:56 AM

ok.. my advice

keep calm and think for times ahead... the colic/sleepless nights/poo stains and vomiting will not last forever.

let grandparents feel involved... even when you do not agree with them (for example my mum gave Ffion jam on her dummy.. but i didnt say anything)

communicate with your husband and let him be involved... just because you are the mum doesnt mean you are carrying the burdon of parenthood alone.

get out and about.. dont lock yourself indoors, get out of your jammies, put on some makeup and head out the door

and most importantly... EAT... even if its just a choccy biscuit with a nice cup of tea

hsollis · Oct 9th, 2008, 05:36 AM

Trust your instincts....even as a first time mum....

Tegans Mama · Oct 9th, 2008, 18:11 PM

Live for today, because you really don't know what tomorrow will bring. Sounds morbid, but tomorrow you could be hit by a bus. Make the most of every moment with your baby, because no matter what your baby does, how much they cry and spit up at you, how much they keep you awake all night, you love them, and they love you.

Make the most of your baby

Also, trust your instincts.. Tegan's still in the hospital, and we said before the doctors did that she was getting ill again. If the doctors say your wrong, get a second opinion.

mrsdcooper · Oct 15th, 2008, 17:06 PM

There is one night in the first week that is horrific and baby wont settle, be ready for it... its not you and there is nothing wrong with them its just part of the settling routine and getting used to not being in your tummy. no one warned me and it was the worst night of my life i became so distressed and upset - wish someone had told me it would happen. midwife said the next day it was completely normal

Sarah88 · Oct 15th, 2008, 21:09 PM

I agree with that, I ended up sleeping in the lounge room just so everyone could get some sleep.

LaDY · Oct 17th, 2008, 04:02 AM

Cherish every moment...they grow so fast that you don't even know where the time has gone...

also...

Being a mummy is not about being perfect its about doing your best...unconditionl love is the best thing you could ever provide your baby with xxx

Kracker · Oct 17th, 2008, 07:08 AM

Mine would be to keep an open mind and try not to plan too much. It only leaves you dissapointed if it doesn't work out. Have some ideas of what routines etc you would like but don't worry if this is not what happens. For example, I badly wanted to breastfeed but it didn't work out and I found this very hard to accept. I also have made plans to meet people, and panicked if I am running late. I don't worry about things so much now, I make 'it depends on baby' arrangements.
Also ask people to phone before they visit. Otherwise you could end up being over-run and very tired. We did this and it was great, my OH said no to people if I didn't feel I could and it is easier to say no over the phone than if they turn up unannounced.

XKatX · Oct 18th, 2008, 13:10 PM

Brilliant thread Toria.
I'm reading this as my due date looms and it has put my mind at rest a lot.
Thankyou x x
P.S. Do you think it is worth posting in the 3rd tri aswell? I only found it by accident.

Oct 2nd, 2008, 23:30 PM	#41
Deise Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: FLA Posts: 1,419	Here's the most important piece of advice! DO YOUR KEGEL EXERCISES!!!!

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Oct 3rd, 2008, 06:43 AM	#42
TallulahM Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: France Posts: 92	For practical advice, buy some muslins, they are by far the most useful part of my kit! Pop a folded one under babie's head when she/he is sleeping, if she/he is sick or possets it won't mark the sheets and will save having to do so much washing, I also use them as bibs, I get through about 5 a day, and never leave the house without at least 2! Sleep when baby sleeps... Follow your own instincts... Grin and bare the annoying comments from Grandma and other well meaning oldies who tell you it's a good idea to put brandy in babie's bottle or other such nonsense.... If you can afford it, get a cleaner for the first month, or at least someone to iron or do laundry, by far the best investment I swear! ENJOY IT! The sleepless nights and constant screaming may seem hard, but the baby time passes so fast, enjoy LO while he/she is little, believe me, it's when they start moving and talking that the real trouble starts LOL

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Oct 3rd, 2008, 09:56 AM	#43
Tezzy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: North Wales Posts: 11,131	ok.. my advice keep calm and think for times ahead... the colic/sleepless nights/poo stains and vomiting will not last forever. let grandparents feel involved... even when you do not agree with them (for example my mum gave Ffion jam on her dummy.. but i didnt say anything) communicate with your husband and let him be involved... just because you are the mum doesnt mean you are carrying the burdon of parenthood alone. get out and about.. dont lock yourself indoors, get out of your jammies, put on some makeup and head out the door and most importantly... EAT... even if its just a choccy biscuit with a nice cup of tea

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hsollis Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 390	Trust your instincts....even as a first time mum....

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Tegans Mama Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Sunny Derbyshire Posts: 12,027	Live for today, because you really don't know what tomorrow will bring. Sounds morbid, but tomorrow you could be hit by a bus. Make the most of every moment with your baby, because no matter what your baby does, how much they cry and spit up at you, how much they keep you awake all night, you love them, and they love you. Make the most of your baby Also, trust your instincts.. Tegan's still in the hospital, and we said before the doctors did that she was getting ill again. If the doctors say your wrong, get a second opinion.

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mrsdcooper Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: dartford Posts: 632	There is one night in the first week that is horrific and baby wont settle, be ready for it... its not you and there is nothing wrong with them its just part of the settling routine and getting used to not being in your tummy. no one warned me and it was the worst night of my life i became so distressed and upset - wish someone had told me it would happen. midwife said the next day it was completely normal

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Sarah88 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 3,573	I agree with that, I ended up sleeping in the lounge room just so everyone could get some sleep.

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LaDY Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: UK Posts: 4,522	Cherish every moment...they grow so fast that you don't even know where the time has gone... also... Being a mummy is not about being perfect its about doing your best...unconditionl love is the best thing you could ever provide your baby with xxx

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Oct 17th, 2008, 07:08 AM	#49
Kracker Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 274	Mine would be to keep an open mind and try not to plan too much. It only leaves you dissapointed if it doesn't work out. Have some ideas of what routines etc you would like but don't worry if this is not what happens. For example, I badly wanted to breastfeed but it didn't work out and I found this very hard to accept. I also have made plans to meet people, and panicked if I am running late. I don't worry about things so much now, I make 'it depends on baby' arrangements. Also ask people to phone before they visit. Otherwise you could end up being over-run and very tired. We did this and it was great, my OH said no to people if I didn't feel I could and it is easier to say no over the phone than if they turn up unannounced.

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Oct 18th, 2008, 13:10 PM	#50
XKatX Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Surrey Posts: 5,897	Brilliant thread Toria. I'm reading this as my due date looms and it has put my mind at rest a lot. Thankyou x x P.S. Do you think it is worth posting in the 3rd tri aswell? I only found it by accident.

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