If you could give a new mum one piece of advice - Page 11

RAFMrs · Jul 30th, 2009, 14:46 PM

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Originally Posted by cupcake

MOST IMPORTANTLY:
Remember from day 1 you are your babies tour guide to the world, make it warm and loving and interesting for him. Smile, sing, talk to him and hold him close.

I LOVED this point. So easy to forget. Tour guide to the world. Aaahh maybe its my hormones but I've gone all mushy xxx

AboutWee · Jul 31st, 2009, 00:46 AM

My advice would be: go with your gut.
You know your child better than anyone. If someone tells you something, professional, friend or mean-weller & it doesn't feel or seem right to you, don't do it. You've probably heard this a million times by now, but a mothers instinct is truly amazing.
Cheers,
AboutWee

Babydance · Aug 3rd, 2009, 15:17 PM

Take it all very slowly and enjoy the experience!

You might not feel amazingly in love with your LO straight away but its perfectly normal dont let it get you down!

Dont try and be a saint take help as and when you can, i didnt want help looking after my LO but my Mum came round did my dishes and put my bins out etc and it was such a help!

xx

Armywife · Nov 14th, 2009, 16:46 PM

Mine would be NEVER BE FOBBED OFF BY MEDICAL STAFF! I know for a fact mother's instinct is the best thing. Poppy was very poorly from birth, bringing up every feed, we took her to health visitor who said i was being dramatic, A&E where a doctor actually laughed at us and said we were over feeding her. Turns out she had Pyloric Stenosis. It was only because she choked on her sick and i insisted they keep her in that we found out when we did. They had told us to give her another week then take her back- by which point according to the surgeon who operated she'd have been critically ill if not worse.

If you think something is wrong, don't give in untill you're satisfied with what you've been told, baby's health is much more important than not wanting to be a pain xx

Lisa1302 · Jan 14th, 2010, 16:39 PM

Mine would be - don't worry about what other people might be thinking!

I remember taking Izzy to a coffee shop with my friend, it was so hot in there and she wanted to sleep - she was crying - a middle aged woman (with terrible hair lol ) kept glaring over us at us..although I said to my friend that I didn't care and that I just ignore people like that, it did still upset me inside and I didn't feel comfy so we drank up and left, Izzy fell asleep within a minute in the cool air.

I learnt that babies DO cry in public and its nothing to be ashamed of, just get on with it and try not to worry - if other people are that bothered then let them get up and leave - its not like your baby is doing anything un natural!

Pearl_vincent · Apr 6th, 2010, 08:10 AM

I followed the Chinese way of postnatal recovery. I didn't go out, didn't have shower, didn't drink any cold water and beverages, for a month. Taiwanese In-law came over, basically took over, from concocting chinese herb drinks to cooking marketing, house cleaning, showering baby, pacifying baby etch, all i have to do is feed baby. Lucky or sounds weird but i greatly appreciate it, only I gained more weight than I was pregnant.LOL! But one month is over and I am on my own now.
so my advice, if its possible, try the Chinese "WELAI". So good!

gills8752 · Apr 27th, 2010, 10:10 AM

Its okay not to like your baby sometimes. You will always love her/him but that doesn't mean you always like her/him when they are crying and screaming and annoying you.

Kayleigh09 · Apr 28th, 2010, 09:19 AM

The only advice i can think of that applies to all is do not get obsessed with getting them to sleep through the night! They'll do it when they're ready and not before! As long as your baby has a good bedtime routine, enough food during the day, nice dark room etc there is nothing more you can do. My daughter slept through at 6 weeks then started waking once for a bottle for a month, slept through for a couple months, then started waking again, its happened 3 times now, we're currently on waking once!! I've given up getting upset and stressed about it, i just get up, feed her and go back to bed, works for us now i'm chilled about it :-)

Nic1107 · May 3rd, 2010, 18:59 PM

My best advice is: do NOT feel bad if sometimes you need to put your screaming baby in his cot, leave the room and splash some cold water on your face. Baby will be fine, and it'll do you a world of good.

Also, if you bottle-feed, buy the type where the measurements are molded into the plastic/glass. If you get the ones with the measurements printed on, it'll rub off when you wash them!

karenmark01 · May 16th, 2010, 16:46 PM

Be yourself. Remember you arent super woman and you are still the woman you were before being a mum so spoil yourself x

Jul 31st, 2009, 00:46 AM	#102
AboutWee Mum (Mom) New BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 9	My advice would be: go with your gut. You know your child better than anyone. If someone tells you something, professional, friend or mean-weller & it doesn't feel or seem right to you, don't do it. You've probably heard this a million times by now, but a mothers instinct is truly amazing. Cheers, AboutWee

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Aug 3rd, 2009, 15:17 PM	#103
Babydance Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 3,953	Take it all very slowly and enjoy the experience! You might not feel amazingly in love with your LO straight away but its perfectly normal dont let it get you down! Dont try and be a saint take help as and when you can, i didnt want help looking after my LO but my Mum came round did my dishes and put my bins out etc and it was such a help! xx

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Nov 14th, 2009, 16:46 PM	#104
Armywife Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: UK Posts: 4,213	Mine would be NEVER BE FOBBED OFF BY MEDICAL STAFF! I know for a fact mother's instinct is the best thing. Poppy was very poorly from birth, bringing up every feed, we took her to health visitor who said i was being dramatic, A&E where a doctor actually laughed at us and said we were over feeding her. Turns out she had Pyloric Stenosis. It was only because she choked on her sick and i insisted they keep her in that we found out when we did. They had told us to give her another week then take her back- by which point according to the surgeon who operated she'd have been critically ill if not worse. If you think something is wrong, don't give in untill you're satisfied with what you've been told, baby's health is much more important than not wanting to be a pain xx

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Jan 14th, 2010, 16:39 PM	#105
Lisa1302 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Shropshire, UK Posts: 2,384	Mine would be - don't worry about what other people might be thinking! I remember taking Izzy to a coffee shop with my friend, it was so hot in there and she wanted to sleep - she was crying - a middle aged woman (with terrible hair lol ) kept glaring over us at us..although I said to my friend that I didn't care and that I just ignore people like that, it did still upset me inside and I didn't feel comfy so we drank up and left, Izzy fell asleep within a minute in the cool air. I learnt that babies DO cry in public and its nothing to be ashamed of, just get on with it and try not to worry - if other people are that bothered then let them get up and leave - its not like your baby is doing anything un natural!

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Apr 6th, 2010, 08:10 AM	#106
Pearl_vincent Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Taipei Posts: 335	I followed the Chinese way of postnatal recovery. I didn't go out, didn't have shower, didn't drink any cold water and beverages, for a month. Taiwanese In-law came over, basically took over, from concocting chinese herb drinks to cooking marketing, house cleaning, showering baby, pacifying baby etch, all i have to do is feed baby. Lucky or sounds weird but i greatly appreciate it, only I gained more weight than I was pregnant.LOL! But one month is over and I am on my own now. so my advice, if its possible, try the Chinese "WELAI". So good!

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Apr 27th, 2010, 10:10 AM	#107
gills8752 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Aberdeenshire Posts: 3,693	Its okay not to like your baby sometimes. You will always love her/him but that doesn't mean you always like her/him when they are crying and screaming and annoying you.

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Apr 28th, 2010, 09:19 AM	#108
Kayleigh09 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Somerset, UK Posts: 866	The only advice i can think of that applies to all is do not get obsessed with getting them to sleep through the night! They'll do it when they're ready and not before! As long as your baby has a good bedtime routine, enough food during the day, nice dark room etc there is nothing more you can do. My daughter slept through at 6 weeks then started waking once for a bottle for a month, slept through for a couple months, then started waking again, its happened 3 times now, we're currently on waking once!! I've given up getting upset and stressed about it, i just get up, feed her and go back to bed, works for us now i'm chilled about it :-)

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May 3rd, 2010, 18:59 PM	#109
Nic1107 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: USA Posts: 4,301	My best advice is: do NOT feel bad if sometimes you need to put your screaming baby in his cot, leave the room and splash some cold water on your face. Baby will be fine, and it'll do you a world of good. Also, if you bottle-feed, buy the type where the measurements are molded into the plastic/glass. If you get the ones with the measurements printed on, it'll rub off when you wash them!

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May 16th, 2010, 16:46 PM	#110
karenmark01 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 12	Be yourself. Remember you arent super woman and you are still the woman you were before being a mum so spoil yourself x

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