Abbys_Mummy

I think i have PND i did mention this in another thread but things have got worse.
I am a wreak and i have completly taken it out on my OH. well last night we had the biggest fight i told him i couldn`t do this anymore and he told me he can only help so much and i was to negitive, so i told him i was leaving and moving back to my mums.
Well we end up going to bed together but when he was cuddling me i could just sense things weren`t the same and this morning when he left for work he usually wakes me up and attacks me with kisses well he didn`t he just kissed me once on the cheak ( i was awake ). So i text him when i get up this morning and told him how i was feeling he told me he was hurt and doesn`t know how he feels anymore.
I`m just sitting here so heartbroken so i asked him if he wants me to leave and he just told me it was up to me he wouldn`t even tell me what he thinks i should do WTF is that meant to mean. Will he not answer me because he doesn`t want to be the bad guy i`m so tempted to just pack up and leave but i`m so heart broken i just want things to be ok i cant even stop crying/

mommytashaX2

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this right now. I know how it feels when things get to be too much and you feel like you can't handle it all. I know that its hard, but you need to try to take that time to yourself and try to cool down and explain this to him when you're calm to avoid what happened last night.

I don't think you should go to your moms because things like this are bound to happen especially when there's extra stress and in my opinion, he loves you very much if you were cuddling last night and he kissed you goodbye this morning even if the issue has not yet been resolved. Most men would probably sleep on the couch and levae in the morning without saying a thing

I feel that you and him should sit down and talk it over later and just try to explain how you are feeling to him and about your fear of PND and I'm sure he'll be able to understand where you were coming from and that you were just angry. I suggest speaking to someone about the way you are feeling, perhaps a councelor or someone that you know is usually unbiased, just so that you can get everything off of your chest and not feel so alone and misunderstood.

I had the same issue, feeling like things were too much to handle and last night I broke down for the first time as well. I waited until I was calm and I had a chat with OH and he was so understanding. He just suggested that I give suggestions on how he could help more because he wasn't sure how. This may be the issue with your OH as well. Talk it over. I hope you are feeling better though, and if not, and you would like to talk to someone about it, you can always PM me.

PitBullMommy

I'm so sorry things are awful right now. I have PND as well and things between DH and I got just as bad...I had a bag packed for me and baby to go live back with my mother. I finally told him I thought I had PND (before the diagnosis) and he got me to a doctor asap, now I'm in therapy and on meds and it's really helping a ton. Maybe you could try talking to him and letting him know that you might need professional help. I hope things work out for y'all.

luckyme225

I just wanted to send hugs your way

Abbys_Mummy

we have discussed that maybe this is the case but he just seems to have no time or patients for me he just expects me to wake up to my self and be happy or it`ll pass he is so selfish he doesn`t even seem to care if i`m going to leave.

mommytashaX2

Sometimes men don't understand things that women have to go through no matter how serious they might be. And sometimes, when you've been with someone for a long time, and if you have broken up before and gotten back together, they don't actually think that you would ever leave or that if you leave you'll come back. I just think that its because he was hurt from what happened that he is acting the way that he is. But then again, you know him better than us, so you are the only one that can make that call.

Abbys_Mummy

i`m starting to think that maybe i should go and visit with my mum for a while i have no family where we live really i just feel that maybe we need sometime to sort ourselves out and think about what we really want and i`ll have my mum to talk to he clearly doesn`t want to help or listen to what i have to say.
Sorry for the rant

tinytoes

it's not necessarily PND. You're tired, he's tired - your baby is still so young and this is sucha stressful time. You need to talk and not take things too personally I'd say. He's prob confused. And scared. AS are you. Men dont handle pressure that well - least mine doesnt - and I bet yours feels a bit of a failure as he cant make everything all right. Take a step back and take a deep breath. Then give eachother a big hug adn really talk.

You'll get through this, it is just a tough time for all of you. Give baby a big hug and you'll get through it xx

amy-lea..x

I have PND and I constantly used to give my boyfriend the option to leave me. I know i would be devostated if he left but i would always say 'We shouldn't be together why don't you leave now before it gets to far in' etc but he was always positive even when I was crying hysterical and didn't want him near me. At one point I was lashing out at him crying and he just grabbed me so tight and just held me til I cryed my self to sleep in his arms I stopped it was like a 4 year old having a tantrum. It was when I went on the laptop and in my google cookies it had 'I think my partner may have PND' it was at that point I realised, I should go to the doctor and that he really does love me. When I told him I found the web page, he just smiled and said he was proud I went to the doctors. I am going to the see the councilor however I have opted out of meds. Since that day I have my ups and downs, but I am so more positive about it.

I know I always take things to far and get to upset and hysterical and I find that writing helps me. Whenever I have a problem I write a letter. When the baby has their nap make a cup of tea and sit and think. Write down exactly how you feel. Then leave it by the kettle so when your partner gets up to go to work he will get it. That way you arn't around when he reads it, you can totally have your say with no interuptions and he has the whole day in work to think about what you said. I hope this helps.

toriaaaaTRASH

I had so many moments where I cried and said I couldn't do it, I don't think I had PND, just the baby blues!