Sexy time.... Q&A'S!!

Amy-Lea · May 27th, 2008, 20:39 PM

let it all out. all ur sex worries...

for me i tryed to have sex last week when i was 3wks6days post partum, i thought a month was a reasonable waiting time. but as he entered it hurt, so i got on top n thurt it wud be easier to lower myself on!! wrong. its stung like hell just being a little bit in. and i dunno why because i have no tears.

jess said she wa suncomfortable at first, do u think if i try again i shud put up with discomfort and it will ease off.

im scared il break my mini haha

when did u wait til?

AquaDementia · May 27th, 2008, 21:10 PM

still waiting....*sigh*

goldlion · May 27th, 2008, 21:20 PM

I had sex for the first time around 4 weeks too.. it wasn't too bad, it was a bit uncomfortable at first and took a bit to ease into it but otherwise it was fine. The next time we had sex I tried to go on top but found that it hurt my tear much much worse and I had to stop altogether. Now sex is much much much better! Horrayyyy!!

Did you two try lots and lots of lube?

P.S: AQUA! What are you waiting for?! I had sex before my 6 week and my doctor didn't frown upon it.. all she asked was "have you had sex yet?" I said yes and then she just asked what try of contraception I'm using and will continue to use. Good on you for having such amazing will power!

AquaDementia · May 27th, 2008, 21:22 PM

i still have discharge and i don't feel very attractive at all, so that could be it

luckyme225 · May 27th, 2008, 21:24 PM

I'm to scared I'll aggravate my tear which sucks because I want lots of sex. I better go stock up on lube first!!

missjess · May 27th, 2008, 23:21 PM

Amy, use a LOT of lube, it really helps. + try to relax, your muscles down there will relax and it will fell better. Ask your OH to go really slowly and gently the first few times.

It takes time and patience, but in the end it is really worth it. It'll go back to normal don't worry about it!!

anita665 · May 28th, 2008, 03:58 AM

My tear has all healed up now and I'm not in any real pain down there but when I was in hospital having lots of examinations last week it was agony. For one I actually had to have gas and air to get through it.

The day that happened though it was only 2 weeks since I'd given birth so I guess I was expecting too much to think it would be pain free.

It seems wierd it would hurt though when you think you'd be all stretched so it wouldn't.

I'm going to be nervous when I try again for the first time. Especially since I'll feel bad for OH if it hurts too much since it's been 2 or 3 months since we last had sex as it is!

Amy-Lea · May 28th, 2008, 04:33 AM

Me and my OH havent had sex since my due date, i feel bad or that reason too.
Thing is I was scared to use lube coz i heard that some lubes can make a condom split.
Im not really well educated on condoms, never used them before. And i havent gone back on the pill yet. I need a new one coz the last one i was allergic too hence the baby haha

foxyroxie · May 28th, 2008, 05:04 AM

i hd sex as soon as i stopped bleeding so about 3-4 weeks the first time it didnt hurt cause i think he was being so careful lol but the second time was a bit painfull but i agree lotsa lube

xxleannexx · May 28th, 2008, 05:36 AM

i had sex for the first time a couple of nights ago and it didnt hurt, i was scared it would though as i tore inside and out, it was a little uncomfortable on the odd occasion but nothing major. i would maybe try again, just be really gentle.

May 27th, 2008, 20:39 PM	#1
Amy-Lea Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 8,626	Sexy time.... Q&A'S!! let it all out. all ur sex worries... for me i tryed to have sex last week when i was 3wks6days post partum, i thought a month was a reasonable waiting time. but as he entered it hurt, so i got on top n thurt it wud be easier to lower myself on!! wrong. its stung like hell just being a little bit in. and i dunno why because i have no tears. jess said she wa suncomfortable at first, do u think if i try again i shud put up with discomfort and it will ease off. im scared il break my mini haha when did u wait til?

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May 27th, 2008, 21:10 PM	#2
AquaDementia Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,793	still waiting....sigh

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May 27th, 2008, 21:20 PM	#3
goldlion Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 1,316	I had sex for the first time around 4 weeks too.. it wasn't too bad, it was a bit uncomfortable at first and took a bit to ease into it but otherwise it was fine. The next time we had sex I tried to go on top but found that it hurt my tear much much worse and I had to stop altogether. Now sex is much much much better! Horrayyyy!! Did you two try lots and lots of lube? P.S: AQUA! What are you waiting for?! I had sex before my 6 week and my doctor didn't frown upon it.. all she asked was "have you had sex yet?" I said yes and then she just asked what try of contraception I'm using and will continue to use. Good on you for having such amazing will power!

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May 27th, 2008, 21:22 PM	#4
AquaDementia Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,793	i still have discharge and i don't feel very attractive at all, so that could be it

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May 27th, 2008, 21:24 PM	#5
luckyme225 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Washington Posts: 6,111	I'm to scared I'll aggravate my tear which sucks because I want lots of sex. I better go stock up on lube first!!

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May 27th, 2008, 23:21 PM	#6
missjess Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Montreal Posts: 4,794	Amy, use a LOT of lube, it really helps. + try to relax, your muscles down there will relax and it will fell better. Ask your OH to go really slowly and gently the first few times. It takes time and patience, but in the end it is really worth it. It'll go back to normal don't worry about it!!

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May 28th, 2008, 03:58 AM	#7
anita665 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Norfolk, UK Posts: 2,689	My tear has all healed up now and I'm not in any real pain down there but when I was in hospital having lots of examinations last week it was agony. For one I actually had to have gas and air to get through it. The day that happened though it was only 2 weeks since I'd given birth so I guess I was expecting too much to think it would be pain free. It seems wierd it would hurt though when you think you'd be all stretched so it wouldn't. I'm going to be nervous when I try again for the first time. Especially since I'll feel bad for OH if it hurts too much since it's been 2 or 3 months since we last had sex as it is!

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May 28th, 2008, 04:33 AM	#8
Amy-Lea Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 8,626	Me and my OH havent had sex since my due date, i feel bad or that reason too. Thing is I was scared to use lube coz i heard that some lubes can make a condom split. Im not really well educated on condoms, never used them before. And i havent gone back on the pill yet. I need a new one coz the last one i was allergic too hence the baby haha

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May 28th, 2008, 05:04 AM	#9
foxyroxie Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Loughborough Leicestershire Posts: 2,413	i hd sex as soon as i stopped bleeding so about 3-4 weeks the first time it didnt hurt cause i think he was being so careful lol but the second time was a bit painfull but i agree lotsa lube

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May 28th, 2008, 05:36 AM	#10
xxleannexx Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Lichfield, UK Posts: 1,277	i had sex for the first time a couple of nights ago and it didnt hurt, i was scared it would though as i tore inside and out, it was a little uncomfortable on the odd occasion but nothing major. i would maybe try again, just be really gentle.

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