Fear of going to the bathroom (tmi)

missjess · Apr 23rd, 2008, 13:55 PM

I haven't gone to the bathroom for a stool since saturday... I'm just so scared to go because I have a tear. I'm scared it'll hurt or break or something! I know I should go (got a bit of a tummy ache now...) but I just can't overcome the fear. I'm so sore down there and just the thought of going makes me freak out.

Anyone?

stephlw25 · Apr 23rd, 2008, 14:01 PM

I was terrified of doing a poo after birth....i never even thought about it until my friend said to me...."whats worse than childbirth?....the first poo afterwards" oh my god i was so scared !
I also tore slightly and had some stitches, it was about 4/5 days after the birth when i finially went and to be honest it wasnt half as bad as i thought! a little uncomfortable but not really painful. I would really reccommend drinking loads of water and eating a good fibre diet...weetabix, lots of fruit etc.
Just wait until you need to go...and some people have said that holding a clean satinary pad against the stitches while they go helped to make them feel a bit more 'secure'.

Just think though..... youve just pushed a baby out.... whats a little poop?!

lol

ColtonsMom · Apr 23rd, 2008, 14:04 PM

I was scared and I had a c-section! lol.
However, since they cut through all your muscles it was kinda hard to push (sorry tmi)! lol.. like I couldn't burp or anything without having to push like three times harder! It sucked!

bigbelly2 · Apr 23rd, 2008, 14:56 PM

i know exactly how u feel.....

i have 2 things that make me poop within minutes, fish and chips from the chippy and a milkshake from macdonalds, i had both and it happened...it honestly wasnt as bad as i thought it would be....
if you have any food that makes you do the same id advise it!

i tore quite badly and used lavender oil in the bath and managed not to get any infections in my stitches...*a very old midwife advised me when ever i had a bath or shower to use a hairdryer down there making sure i was totally dry* at first i thought she was bonkers but she was right, the dryer its kept the cleaner it is...

hope this helps and its not tmi...

bless i cant wait for my first few days..treasure every second and take as many photos as you can jess..it goes so quickly!!

h x

elles28 · Apr 23rd, 2008, 15:02 PM

What worked for me was pouring a jug of warm water over my bits everytime I went to the loo (I also added a bit of salt as it helps healing faster). It relaxed me & I had went before I knew it. Tbh the thought of it was worse then actually going!! Good luck

Newt · Apr 23rd, 2008, 16:27 PM

Yeah, my MW told me about the hair dryer too.
I was exactly the same as you, I was terrified. Holding a pad there does help, but in the end I had to have lactolose to help

magicvw · Apr 23rd, 2008, 16:33 PM

I was in an old-fashioned hospital after my C-section and they gave me an enema - my god! never again! Still it was terrifying doing the first solo poo, if you get my drift. You've just got to grab the bull by its horns though and tell yourself that no poo will be so stressful, so the sooner it's done and dusted the better! I actually felt fine after my first solo poo and ready to tackle the world. Good luck!!!!

AquaDementia · Apr 27th, 2008, 00:06 AM

Oh my Jess, I am struggling with the exact same thing right now.
Since I have a lot of damage and soreness I am dreading the moment.
The hospital gave me stool softeners and I took milk of magnesia, so I am hoping I get some relief in the morning.

BurtonBaby · Apr 27th, 2008, 01:40 AM

It took me probably a week after my section to go. I was on stool softeners since the day I had Erica, and honestly, it still hurt like hell. Its a natural instinct to push, and you cant really stop it! Having my tummy muscles cut, I thought my tummy was going to tear open again. OUCH!

But honestly, it gets easier and easier. Its still a little painful.

**Wobbles** · Apr 27th, 2008, 06:28 AM

This was awful and my pads really made the soreness worse

then I discover vaseline around teh areas that appears sore/rubbed and around the tear gentely - then in the morning when I'd have a shower nice warm water from the shower really helped a clean soothing feeling x

Apr 23rd, 2008, 13:55 PM	#1
missjess Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Montreal Posts: 4,794	Fear of going to the bathroom (tmi) I haven't gone to the bathroom for a stool since saturday... I'm just so scared to go because I have a tear. I'm scared it'll hurt or break or something! I know I should go (got a bit of a tummy ache now...) but I just can't overcome the fear. I'm so sore down there and just the thought of going makes me freak out. Anyone?

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 14:01 PM	#2
stephlw25 Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Cornwall Posts: 2,155	I was terrified of doing a poo after birth....i never even thought about it until my friend said to me...."whats worse than childbirth?....the first poo afterwards" oh my god i was so scared ! I also tore slightly and had some stitches, it was about 4/5 days after the birth when i finially went and to be honest it wasnt half as bad as i thought! a little uncomfortable but not really painful. I would really reccommend drinking loads of water and eating a good fibre diet...weetabix, lots of fruit etc. Just wait until you need to go...and some people have said that holding a clean satinary pad against the stitches while they go helped to make them feel a bit more 'secure'. Just think though..... youve just pushed a baby out.... whats a little poop?! lol

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ColtonsMom Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Tennessee, USA Posts: 2,651	I was scared and I had a c-section! lol. However, since they cut through all your muscles it was kinda hard to push (sorry tmi)! lol.. like I couldn't burp or anything without having to push like three times harder! It sucked!

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 14:56 PM	#4
bigbelly2 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: birmingham uk Posts: 2,378	i know exactly how u feel..... i have 2 things that make me poop within minutes, fish and chips from the chippy and a milkshake from macdonalds, i had both and it happened...it honestly wasnt as bad as i thought it would be.... if you have any food that makes you do the same id advise it! i tore quite badly and used lavender oil in the bath and managed not to get any infections in my stitches...a very old midwife advised me when ever i had a bath or shower to use a hairdryer down there making sure i was totally dry at first i thought she was bonkers but she was right, the dryer its kept the cleaner it is... hope this helps and its not tmi... bless i cant wait for my first few days..treasure every second and take as many photos as you can jess..it goes so quickly!! h x

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 15:02 PM	#5
elles28 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 2,401	What worked for me was pouring a jug of warm water over my bits everytime I went to the loo (I also added a bit of salt as it helps healing faster). It relaxed me & I had went before I knew it. Tbh the thought of it was worse then actually going!! Good luck

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Newt Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: wales Posts: 3,710	Yeah, my MW told me about the hair dryer too. I was exactly the same as you, I was terrified. Holding a pad there does help, but in the end I had to have lactolose to help

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magicvw Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: the Dark Ages Posts: 15,348	I was in an old-fashioned hospital after my C-section and they gave me an enema - my god! never again! Still it was terrifying doing the first solo poo, if you get my drift. You've just got to grab the bull by its horns though and tell yourself that no poo will be so stressful, so the sooner it's done and dusted the better! I actually felt fine after my first solo poo and ready to tackle the world. Good luck!!!!

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Apr 27th, 2008, 00:06 AM	#8
AquaDementia Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,793	Oh my Jess, I am struggling with the exact same thing right now. Since I have a lot of damage and soreness I am dreading the moment. The hospital gave me stool softeners and I took milk of magnesia, so I am hoping I get some relief in the morning.

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Apr 27th, 2008, 01:40 AM	#9
BurtonBaby Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: California Posts: 2,405	It took me probably a week after my section to go. I was on stool softeners since the day I had Erica, and honestly, it still hurt like hell. Its a natural instinct to push, and you cant really stop it! Having my tummy muscles cut, I thought my tummy was going to tear open again. OUCH! But honestly, it gets easier and easier. Its still a little painful.

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Wobbles Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Chester Gal By Heart Posts: 50,081	This was awful and my pads really made the soreness worse then I discover vaseline around teh areas that appears sore/rubbed and around the tear gentely - then in the morning when I'd have a shower nice warm water from the shower really helped a clean soothing feeling x
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