hi my wife gave birth on nov 26th and she had a c-section and she says she is still sore down there when were together and i would like to know is this normal after this long and is there anything i can do to help or should i be worried like the i have a headache excuse kinda thing can someone help thanks

Hi and welcome. I had a c section too, but still sore down there when me and my OH rarely get together. Its strange because u wouldnt have thought so as it was not a vaginal delivery. I would recommend KY jelly and be very gentle

i had a normal delivery on nov 25th and me and hubby havent been "together" as such. im waiting for a few more weeks yet!
x

DH and I did it about a week after my C-section. It was good. A bit drier than usual with all the hormones going on but baby oil did the trick. Just give her time. A C-section is major surgery and she just might not feel ready.

I had my section almost 9 months ago and it still feels funny sometimes.

It was a good long while before I felt able to have any sort of pressure on it and the thought of "being together" really worried me.

Not sure about being able to do anything to help but I would certainly talk to her and be sympathetic rather than assuming she is using it as an excuse.

well its not that i think she is making an excuse i just wanted to know if something was seriously wrong i love my wife with all my heart and i just wanna be informed with whats happening to her physically

thanks scally ive tried that and she says each time were together the soreness gets better im very happy with hows she is doing

Well, it was major abdominal surgery. What makes it feel much worse is that the inside needs to heal as much as the outside. Beyond that the muscles need to repair themselves.

After 2 months I still couldn't even bear the area around my tummy to be touched, even my jeans were uncomfortable. I was just about getting to the point where I could walk easily but if I overdid it in the slightest, I could really feel it. The advice I was given was not to do anything strenous (e.g housework, gardening etc) for 12 weeks.

I would also add that there are all sorts of emotional, hormonal things happening to a new mum too, and combine that with tiredness and (for me as a breastfeeder) the fact my chest was off limits too, really didn't put me in any sort of mood for any shenannigans.

So it likely isn't only the c-section but a combination of things. If you are really keen to get things going again, have a chat with her about it. If you are happy to hold off for a while, then let her come to the decision of when that will happen.

Was the section elective or was it an emergency?

I had an emergency section 3 weeks ago and I'm only just feeling physically like I might be able to be intimate if we took things slowly and gently (we haven't tried yet) but emotionally I'm still all over the place because of the experience we had in hospital so I'm not really up for it yet.

Not to mention the whole having a baby now and being super tired and worried about them all the time and them being in the room - weird.

Give it time, I know I'm worried about doing the deed again - its been ages, I feel for my hubby I really do as went didnt get up to much for the last couple months of my pregnancy as I was too uncomfy and he felt weird about it but I just cant bring myself to do it yet!

I had an emergency c section and my husband is the same he knows i wont be able to have sex but wants the intimate side and basically for me to relieve him so to speak but i just dont feel up to it. I just feel like it would be all one sided and just for him which doesnt feel right as sex should be about the two of you!

Its not that i dont want to have sex with my hubby its just i am still in lots of pain 3 weeks later and also sooooooooooooooooo scared of falling pregnant again lol.