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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 19:29 PM   #1
OmarsMum
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Until when?? HELP!


I had a traumatic CS 2 months back. I went through depression for 2 weeks after my delivery, but with the support of my wonderful family & OH, I am doing much better now.

I have a wonderful baby who's doing great.

But still, I feel I am not doing well. I am always bored, tired, can't sleep.. etc. I hate my body, I feel fat & ugly.

I thought this is what I wanted: to stay at home & take care of my small family. Although I dont do much, I still feel soo stressed out.

I had a v. active & busy life before I got married. Working, studying, going out, exercising, etc.

After I got married, everything became very slow, then we decided to have a baby. It was a dream for me, and I thought this is all what I wanted, to stay at home & have a baby.

Now I have the baby I always dreamt of, I adore the little one & he's the only thing that keeps me going, but I was hit by the fact, it's not enough.

I dont know what to do, is it only a phase, or do I have to do sth? am I going through depression?

Nothing makes me happy except my LO despite the support & caring I receive from my OH.


 
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Old Jan 16th, 2010, 06:17 AM   #2
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I would say that its probably a phase hun. Not to be underestimated mind. I felt like this in the first few months. Prob up to 5 months to be honest. I had a busy lifestyle too and suddenly it all came to a hault. I'd see all my friends and family going out - even just to work - and wish that i was back in that environment. I even tried to convince my husband that i should go back to work after 6 weeks!!

But then things became just so much easier and i ended up EXTENDING my leave for a further 3 months!!!

All i would say is dont make any rash decisions at the moment. Things wont always stay like this and gradually you'll start getting your old life back only better!!!

Also i think it may be worth chatting to your HV or GP. Just in case there is a touch of PND there. Get it sorted before it gets too much.

Hope your ok xxx


 
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Old Jan 16th, 2010, 07:22 AM   #3
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Poor you x x I'm going through the same feelings almost exactly, but I'm a few weeks behind. It has to be the life change. It's so sudden, plus a whole whack of hormones flying around. I'm not able to give advice as I'm looking for the magic answer too, but many on here suggested getting out, time to myself with say a nice bath, and walking. All have helped. Mainly though I just want you to know you're not alone at all, and unless everyone here is lying - it will get much much better! x


 
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