Argh! Men are such selfish twats sometimes! I think when baby 1st comes some of them revert back to being a wee boy who's mummy does everything for them and they get all jealous about us spending more time with the baby (yes the baby cant actually fed himself but husband can!!). I think as well some men arent good with small babies and dont really get them like we do. I dont think they have the same bond when they are very small. (My husband would never just pick our babies up for a cuddle like i wud he would only do it if they needed feeding or changing) but when they got to about 3 months old and were smiling and interacting he started becoming more interested and was great from then on (we have 3 kids). If i ever felt he was being jealous or selfish and throwing a strop i would just have a right go at him and tell him to grow up! I think they also find it hard how things change when you have a baby (sex, going out when u want, everything not revolving round a timetable for babyetc) but it does all get better. Is there anyone you could speak to that could maybe speak to him and tell him what you are needing him to do / be? he should be suppporting you if u only had a section 2 weeks ago. Good luck.

Ohh for fucks sake! Why do men have to be such tossers and get all jealous! To be honest my OH has been an absolute gem and I'm eternally greatful to have him - but I read so much about other peoples OH's it makes me sick to hear how mardy they are ! Especially when you've just had a major op! what the hell does he expect!? I'm sorry hun but it sounds like he need to take a deep breath and step back and take a look at his attitude! I think you should probably point out that this baby is going to be around for the rest of his life and he can think twice if things are going to carry on like this! Maybe you should have someone take your LO for a few hours one day/night and do something like go for a meal and chat things over and get your feelings on the table, cause if he knew how you felt he might feel guilty about they way he's acted - which he bloody well should lady! that way you can clear the air and also have some together time ! Its mine and OH's anniversary next week and my mum's taking bubba for the night so we can go for a meal you'll feel so much better chick you can do yourself up and put on a nice dress and go get some yummy food and not have to worry about the little one hope you sort stuff out soon hunni - for your sake and babys ! You should be enjoying your first few weeks together - not feeling sad that your hubbys gonna leave you! xxxxxxxx

hi guys.
He seems to have gotten better but every now and then i am tredding on egg shells. I toldhim how i felt when we were in bed (my sister is staying with us to help me out as i am still in a lot of pain and cant deal whilst he is at work) and he just rolled over and went to sleep!
Last night he was in a really good mood and randomly logged onto my facebook and then chaNGED my status to say i was having a poo? and then changed his password so i wouldnt go in and do the same?
I asked him why he did that and he said well your password is easy? I said well i have nothing to hide, so then we ended up in a row as he thought i was accusing him of cheating? I wasnt, but just didnt get he whole childishness and randomness of it!
We are 28 years old not 18 do you know what i mean?

But like yesterday i went to the btreastfeeding clinic then had my aunt and unlce over to see the baby and then when he got home he went round the whole house stressing going.... whats this doing here Lorraine and why is this ghere lorraine and in teh end i was in tehe middle of changing the baby and he was saying whats this shit doing here (it was the sun that i had been collecting but hadnt had a chance to cut the tokens) and i ended up leaving the baby on the sofa naked cos i just couldnt deal with him nagging at me.
its getting to the point where i dread him comin home now and i dont want this as we were SO SO happy before we had the baby! I just dunno whats gone wrnog.

Even my sister is getting annoyed at him and she loves him to bits but has seen the way he is with me and said to me today she keeps having to bite her tongue!
x

bloody hell! hes being a total twat to u.

i couldnt put up with that id of kicked him out by now!

i have no advice for u, u have to do what makes u happy and right now i doubt thats him

I can in a way relate with you, DH and I had a SERIOUS talk last night, he says taht I dont pay any attention to him now that I have the baby, he said that I dont talk to him, and I dont act like I want him around. I sat down with him, and told him that I have been anxious since having the baby and that I just dont quite feel like being the bubbly me, I just am concentrating on making sure my DD gets the best care. He then procedded to tell me that he doesnt think i trust him with the baby because I dont ever want to leave the apartment and go to the market, I told him its not that, i just feel weird without my daughter, I carried her in my belly for 9 months, and I feel bare and naked without her. I trust him 100%.

Anyways, just sit down and talk to your husband, let him know how your feeling. Maybe thats all you need. Good Luck, I hope everything works out well for you.