thanks for all ur comments.
i have tried talking to him till i'm blue in the face. my daughter is nearly 13 weeks old and every week we've had the 'talk' but nothing seems to change and i'm at the point of packing up and leaving!
as for going out and doing my own thing, i cant get peace from txts constantly saying 'when will u be home' 'u on ur way home' u would think that would have made him realise how stressfull it is! i just feel like am constantly nagging. its making me miserable never mind him!
the other night there we were at my mums for tea and after we had eaten my hubby then says...'will i bring the bath down FOR U'!!!!! i just gave him a dirty look. he brought it down then said, 'im goin to play the ps3, is that ok?!' WTF!!! so i was AGAIN left to get on with it. my mum kindly offered to bath her to give me a break and he thought no more abt it! i could count on 1 hand how many times he has bathed her! i'm ready to pull my hair out!
and what makes it worse is that i feel guilty for doing my own thing like having a relaxing bath (cant enjoy it coz i no i'll be darting abt like a blue arsed fly as soon as i come out) shopping or getting my hair done!
in our many arguements what i try to get across is that he has his own time alot more than me, when he's at work he's got his break...i dnt get that! xx

whens hes out hide his gamestation and conmputer what ever he goes on and dont let him have them back till u get to do something nice for urself.

if my oh said shall i bring the bath down for u i really would of smacked him across the face.

i no how frustrating it is to be doing everything urself and then lookin on the sofa n theres someone there who cud help but just wont.

before i walked out on my oh when things had all got on top of me i asked will u help with zane tonight and he said "i dont no" i really wanted to just beat the hell out of him, hes lucky he actualy changed his ways or he wudnt of seen us again the way i was feeling.

make the right choices for u x

Hide all of his 'toys' and say he can have them back when he helps around the house a bit more. If he is going to act like a child, treat him like one.

Ha ha just read this! Great minds think alike!

ive just realised i cant spell in that sentence lol.

but yeah men can get very selfish after we have their children, like we dont have enough to deal with.

yeah i no tell me abt it. didnt realise having a baby meant i'd have to deal with two lol! x

when zane was first porn my oh wud leave me and go for a cuppa round his mates! i be like ok u tw*t i cant even walk trying to bf and u think u can just wonder off! it drove me insane. and he even made comments about how he didnt get any hugs anymore and that i was always holding zane! i cudnt believe he was actualy jealous.

i had tried talking to him before zane was born about this and he just said it was stupid.

the only thing at the end of the day that made my oh stand up and help me was when i walked out and took zane with me, altho he took zane away for afew days to scotland came back and said oh i see how hard it is and he even had help he was with his mother!

hand lo over to ur oh and say ur going shoppin to buy urself a nice dress and that u will be goin on a night out and turn ur phone off or just ignore his texts and see how he likes it.