sex after 2nd degree tear

~daisychain~ · Dec 28th, 2009, 13:48 PM

anyone got any advice?
what not to do?
how long it took you to have sex for 1st time?
was it sore/uncomfy?
xx

Armywife · Dec 28th, 2009, 14:00 PM

I had a 3rd degree but thought i'd pass my experience on. I'd say don't rush it, use lots of lube and be gentle! I had Poppy in august and still find it a little uncomfortable now. The main thing is, if you start to feel sore, stop, you don't want to make matters worse. Good luck!xx

Rachel_C · Dec 31st, 2009, 04:34 AM

I had a second degree tear and an episiotomy. We tried sex at about 4 weeks but it hurt too much so we stopped. We managed at about 6 weeks and it was nice. It depends where you tore as to what will be best I think - for me, it's a lot better with him on top because when I'm on top, where I had stitches gets poked more. It is still a little sore now but only if I get poked at the wrong angle! I say just take it slowly and make sure your OH understands that you might not manage much at first.

Kimboowee · Dec 31st, 2009, 06:50 AM

We tried after 3/4 weeks when I had a break from the bleeding and it did feel quite uncomfortable. We tried again at 6 weeks and it was alot better

history_girls · Dec 31st, 2009, 16:53 PM

We first had sex at about 6 weeks - it was a little uncomfortable but managable. At 9 weeks it was totally fine and just like before. I think it was a bit uncomfortable at first as usually I'm on the pill and at 6 weeks OH had to use a condom so took a bit longer!!!

purpledaisy2 · Jan 1st, 2010, 10:24 AM

I had 3 2nd degree tears and we waited just over 6 weeks.

It was abit uncomfy to start with but I think thats just because I was nervous and really tense.

All in all it was fine, just relax and take it steady, as above use abit of lube x

flower01 · Jan 1st, 2010, 14:14 PM

i had a 2nd degree tear and still havent got the guts to do anything yet! lol!!

lalaland09 · Jan 3rd, 2010, 09:16 AM

I had a 2nd degree tear and didn't have sex until 4 months pp. It hurt too much. I ended up going to a physical therapist to help massage my scar to ease the pain. Use lots of lube, go slow and relax. My therapist gave me a small vibrator to help transition up to DH's penis size.

letia659 · Jan 3rd, 2010, 15:36 PM

I had 2nd degree tear and we had sex at 7weeks and it was slightly uncomfortable but didnt hurt

I wanted to get the first time over with and was worried but it was quite enjoyable!

bailey4eva · Jan 5th, 2010, 17:19 PM

We tried at around 3/4 weeks and it was more psychological than anythin, I was too scared and tensed rite up, so didnt want to push it. Tried again after a few days, just had to really relax and take lots of time and care. Turned out well, still nervous but its pretty much bk to normal now, jus occasionally have the odd pain.

Cant get into all the positions I used to now tho, all i will say is AIR!!! sorry, had to share hahahaha xxx

Dec 28th, 2009, 13:48 PM	#1
~daisychain~ Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 3,704	sex after 2nd degree tear anyone got any advice? what not to do? how long it took you to have sex for 1st time? was it sore/uncomfy? xx

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Dec 28th, 2009, 14:00 PM	#2
Armywife Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: UK Posts: 4,213	I had a 3rd degree but thought i'd pass my experience on. I'd say don't rush it, use lots of lube and be gentle! I had Poppy in august and still find it a little uncomfortable now. The main thing is, if you start to feel sore, stop, you don't want to make matters worse. Good luck!xx

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Dec 31st, 2009, 04:34 AM	#3
Rachel_C Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 6,839	I had a second degree tear and an episiotomy. We tried sex at about 4 weeks but it hurt too much so we stopped. We managed at about 6 weeks and it was nice. It depends where you tore as to what will be best I think - for me, it's a lot better with him on top because when I'm on top, where I had stitches gets poked more. It is still a little sore now but only if I get poked at the wrong angle! I say just take it slowly and make sure your OH understands that you might not manage much at first.

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Dec 31st, 2009, 06:50 AM	#4
Kimboowee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 9,445	We tried after 3/4 weeks when I had a break from the bleeding and it did feel quite uncomfortable. We tried again at 6 weeks and it was alot better

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Dec 31st, 2009, 16:53 PM	#5
history_girls Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: East Sussex Posts: 887	We first had sex at about 6 weeks - it was a little uncomfortable but managable. At 9 weeks it was totally fine and just like before. I think it was a bit uncomfortable at first as usually I'm on the pill and at 6 weeks OH had to use a condom so took a bit longer!!!

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Jan 1st, 2010, 10:24 AM	#6
purpledaisy2 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Up North, UK Posts: 3,654	I had 3 2nd degree tears and we waited just over 6 weeks. It was abit uncomfy to start with but I think thats just because I was nervous and really tense. All in all it was fine, just relax and take it steady, as above use abit of lube x

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Jan 1st, 2010, 14:14 PM	#7
flower01 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Fleet, Hampshire Posts: 2,935	i had a 2nd degree tear and still havent got the guts to do anything yet! lol!!

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Jan 3rd, 2010, 09:16 AM	#8
lalaland09 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 382	I had a 2nd degree tear and didn't have sex until 4 months pp. It hurt too much. I ended up going to a physical therapist to help massage my scar to ease the pain. Use lots of lube, go slow and relax. My therapist gave me a small vibrator to help transition up to DH's penis size.

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Jan 3rd, 2010, 15:36 PM	#9
letia659 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Tennessee Posts: 2,766	I had 2nd degree tear and we had sex at 7weeks and it was slightly uncomfortable but didnt hurt I wanted to get the first time over with and was worried but it was quite enjoyable!

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Jan 5th, 2010, 17:19 PM	#10
bailey4eva Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Gorton, Manchester Posts: 870	We tried at around 3/4 weeks and it was more psychological than anythin, I was too scared and tensed rite up, so didnt want to push it. Tried again after a few days, just had to really relax and take lots of time and care. Turned out well, still nervous but its pretty much bk to normal now, jus occasionally have the odd pain. Cant get into all the positions I used to now tho, all i will say is AIR!!! sorry, had to share hahahaha xxx

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