Hey ladies
I had my lil boy nearly 2 weeks ago via c-section and if im honest i didnt think it would be like this! i feel all over the place, i cry alot, feel worried quite alot of the time, dred night time as lil man has colic and can scream for 3 hours non-stop! i cant put my finger on what is wrong its a mixture of everything! i thought being a mum would be amazing and that i would be able to cope no problem but this is not the case! i never wanna be on my own with Kye and i have no idea why! i have such a supportive other half and family which without them id be lost! is anyone else feeling like this? my mum says is 100% natural and that hormones are playing a big part at the mo! its my sisters bday on friday and she has asked me to go out clubbing with her on the saturday, my OH says i should go and let my hair down and have some me time but i dunno if it is too soon yet even tho i feel well and healing well from the section with no problems. do you think i should go out for a bit or do i look like a neglectful mother?

2 weeks isnt very long, having a baby is intense, give yourself some time to adjust. it's not neglectful to go out for one night with your sister, but don't over do it in case you havent fully recovered.

Hi hun

Sounds like the baby blues to me. It is totally normal, just a mixture of hormones and the massive shock to your body.. I went through it, I dreaded the night feeds and had to go to my parents' house during the day when OH went back to work because I couldn't face the idea of being on my own with LO. I cried lots, especially in the evenings. BUT, within three weeks I felt completely normal again, and completely fell in love with my LO

I promise you it will get better. I can't explain what happened to make me feel different, I think a mixture of hormones calming down, feeling more confident with LO, recovering after the birth etc and catching up on some sleep helped.

If you feel it carries on and doesn't seem to be getting any better however, I would speak to your HV as it could be indicative of PND. I am sure it is just the baby blues though, it all sounds completely normal to me. x

You sound just like me. I had my postpartum check up today and my doctor determined that I'm in the early stages of postpartum depression. It's nothing to be a shamed of if you are, it's really all horomones. It's best to get checked, just in case too. And it could end up being just the blues. Either way, there is some sort of support and help out there, don't be afraid to ask for it.

I was like that, it took me a few weeks before i thought "i can do this", u have the extra pressure of colic as well, i remember the dread of that hanging over my head all day.
I think goin out might be exactly what u need, let your hair down and pamper yourself a bit x

You're not alone hun, I had exactly the same with Joe. OH was off work for a week and works part time, but I had to ask my mum to come over when he was out to help me at first. Over time though, it's got so much better and my confidence grew, I got to know what Joe needed and wanted and really enjoy being his mummy.
I still do cry over things, but I think our hormones are racing so much, they do take a while to return to normal. Make sure you get some time to yourself, even half an hour to take a bath or read a book, whatever relaxes you.
Take care x