jadesh101

It has been 10 weeks today that I had my baby and my family has noticed I am showing signs of PND, I hadn't noticed I just thought it was the baby blues, I feel fine then all of a sudden I get really depressed and down and start crying with no reason to cry my motivation has completely gone and all I do is sit and comfort eat and sometimes I can't even leave the house not even to go for a little walk with baby, I feel fat useless worthless and tired, I feel no one understands, I get upset that I didn't give birth to her naturally and had an emergency c-section due to her being in distress because I had severe pre-eclampsia and all I want to do is stay in bed just me and my baby in our own little world and let no one in I can no longer keep up with the house work. My family have asked me to seek help but I am sooo scared they will think I am not able to care for my baby and take her from me or get the social involved shes my baby and they ain't taking her from me. The doctor is already on my case because she has a little fall at 5 weeks but was completely fine not even a scratch and that had nothing to do with me it was my sister that had her, also on her leg in a tiny tiny scratch the size of a grain of rice where the baby bath bottle slipped off the side of the bath and hit her leg and the stupid doctor at her 6 weeks check (which she had at 8 and a half weeks) write in her red book for the HV to keep an eye on us and I am really caught up about what to do how did you ladies cope with this what helped would really appreciate some advice

amylk87

Firstly, I'm sorry you're going through this I myself have not suffered from PND, but i have worked with women who have, and it is completely normal to feel this way. And i am sure that there are many women on BnB who have or are going throug the same thing who will be here to support you. Also, social services will not take your baby away from you, if anything, they will help you get some support. Hope you feel better

jadesh101

thank you I have not as yet been diagnosed with it yet as have not been to the doctors but my family say I am showing classic signs but I don't really know ... Am I ?

asacia

There is a good secton called 'What PND feels like' here:
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealt...epression.aspx
Have a read through and see if it sounds like you.

Don't put off asking for help, it is very, very, very unlikely you'd lose your LO. I have quite severe mental health problems and have had no social services involvement.

amylk87

For each woman its different but heres a list of some symptoms:
http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Postnat.../Symptoms.aspx

From what you have said, it seems you may have

jadesh101

cheers ladies I have looked at both sites I tbh I think I am suffering from it and feel a little relieved that I have got PND and not just a bad mother, next step is to talk to the doctor and am finding that part very hard

rach321

Hugs, I've got no experience but I know a lot of people who have had PND and come through the other side. I think you've just done the hard part by mentioning it on here. There's loads of good advice on here ( I'm pretty sure there's a PND support thread somewhere - I'm sure they would have lots of advice). If you are not comfortable talking to your GP maybe speak to your HV (if you get on well), do you have a good friend or OH that could go with you to the docs to give you some moral support? xx

jadesh101

My HV is new but she seems nice so I will speak to her about it, My OH is always working and doesn't get home till late and the friend that I have got is going through a very traumatic time right now so I feel very alone but I will speak to someone when I feel ready xx

rach321

Definitely speak to your HV. Take care of yourself xx

petal040

You are not a bad mother.

I think you are right to talk to your HV, she should be able to help, and will also be able to tell you more about PND if you'd like more info.