I don't hear my LO wake up during the night...I feel like a bad mum.

my1stbump · Oct 15th, 2009, 17:01 PM

Im either a really deep sleeper or I have no maternal instinct.

During the night when my LO wakes up I don't hear her crying and she is next to the bed in her moses basket, Its OH that wakes me up to let me know...

If Im on my own I wake up automatically so I dont know what is wrong with me, is it because I know that he is there and I go into a deeper sleep. Its making us ratty with each other coz he can't understand why, plus its breaking his sleep pattern which makes it worse coz we are both knakered all the time,

It was the same with Deacon.

Anyone else like this? Or is it just me... its makes me feel so bad

Kitten · Oct 15th, 2009, 17:42 PM

I think I slept through him crying and had to be woken by hubby once but LO was jaundiced when he was born and I had to set an alarm for every 4 hours in the night to feed him and then after that I just woke automatically at those times and now I sleep so lightly that even the smallest stirring wakes me up. I guess your body knows your OH is there seeing as you wake when he's not there which to me says you do have the maternal instinct, lol.

Foogirl · Oct 15th, 2009, 17:53 PM

I was worried about this and I'm not entirely sure I wake every time she cries. I know I would easily fall back to sleep whilst she was crying.

I don't think it is anything to do with a lack of maternal instinct, just that you are so damned tired you need the sleep. I would say having your husband there will make a difference, as you say. Luckily mine rarely woke up when she cried when she was in our room.

Does your alarm clock wake you up? Mine never does so I just put it down to being a really deep sleeper.

my1stbump · Oct 15th, 2009, 18:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Foogirl

I was worried about this and I'm not entirely sure I wake every time she cries. I know I would easily fall back to sleep whilst she was crying.

I don't think it is anything to do with a lack of maternal instinct, just that you are so damned tired you need the sleep. I would say having your husband there will make a difference, as you say. Luckily mine rarely woke up when she cried when she was in our room.

Does your alarm clock wake you up? Mine never does so I just put it down to being a really deep sleeper.

Haven't had an alarm clock for ages but it was like an air raid sireon had just gone off so that woke me, I can sleep through more or less anything so must just be a deep sleeper.

Sometimes I'm convinced that I woke up for her, but now I have to question myself as OH might have woke me up with out my realising, I dread going to bed coz I feel so guilty and feel sorry for him having to wake up 2.

Foogirl · Oct 15th, 2009, 18:12 PM

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Originally Posted by my1stbump

Sometimes I'm convinced that I woke up for her, but now I have to question myself as OH might have woke me up with out my realising, I dread going to bed coz I feel so guilty and feel sorry for him having to wake up 2.

Why should you feel sorry for him waking in the night? Surely he can turn over and go back to sleep? Does he feel sorry that you then have to get up and see to her?

Or if he is that bothered, there is always the sofa.

Kimboowee · Oct 15th, 2009, 18:31 PM

Theres the odd night where it takes me ages to get to him. Its like I can hear him but im asleep...

Foogirl · Oct 15th, 2009, 18:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Kimboowee

Theres the odd night where it takes me ages to get to him. Its like I can hear him but im asleep...

I would often have a dream where she was crying, and I'd eventually wake up to her!

Logan's Mum · Oct 16th, 2009, 00:28 AM

I'm the same, I sometimes have to be woken up by my fiance if Logan is crying as I just don't hear him. Sometimes I also dream that I have already got up to feed him, or that I dream that hes not due a feed (I actually picture my mobile with the time on being only half hour since being put into bed) so I lay in bed waiting for OH to go into his room (we have a deal that if he needs settling only, which he rarely does, he will do it). I then wake up as OH prods me, check my phone and its definitely a feed time!

Its nothing to do with maternal instinct, just lack of sleep (better than being such a light sleeper you wake at your baby's every little movement, plus at least your OH is a light sleeper so he can wake you).

augustbaby09 · Oct 18th, 2009, 16:53 PM

Im the same!!! I used to wake up so easily but for some reason i dont always hear my little one - even though she may be next to me in her basket crying!!! If my OH isnt there my mum will sometimes come too and she stays in room to make sure i wake up...

Its not ALL the time but a lot of the time i dont hear a thing.id dint used to be such a deep sleeper!The first night i brought her home she was crying on and off for 2 hours and my Oh was up with her - he even put her next to me as he couldnt believe i didnt hear her and wake up (he actually had to shake me to ge tme up!!).I put it down to the fact id had a long labour and hadnt slept for 3 day sprior to giving birth...but 8 weeks on i still struggle to wake. xx

nikkiangel83 · Oct 24th, 2009, 10:09 AM

I wish that I was a heavier sleeper lol! I wake up at the slightest snuffle and end up disturbing her more!! When your baby needs you, you WILL be there so don't worry

Oct 15th, 2009, 17:01 PM	#1
my1stbump Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Blackburn Lancashire Posts: 442	I don't hear my LO wake up during the night...I feel like a bad mum. Im either a really deep sleeper or I have no maternal instinct. During the night when my LO wakes up I don't hear her crying and she is next to the bed in her moses basket, Its OH that wakes me up to let me know... If Im on my own I wake up automatically so I dont know what is wrong with me, is it because I know that he is there and I go into a deeper sleep. Its making us ratty with each other coz he can't understand why, plus its breaking his sleep pattern which makes it worse coz we are both knakered all the time, It was the same with Deacon. Anyone else like this? Or is it just me... its makes me feel so bad

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Kitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Crawley, England Posts: 6,343	I think I slept through him crying and had to be woken by hubby once but LO was jaundiced when he was born and I had to set an alarm for every 4 hours in the night to feed him and then after that I just woke automatically at those times and now I sleep so lightly that even the smallest stirring wakes me up. I guess your body knows your OH is there seeing as you wake when he's not there which to me says you do have the maternal instinct, lol.

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Foogirl Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Falkirk, Scotland Posts: 4,612	I was worried about this and I'm not entirely sure I wake every time she cries. I know I would easily fall back to sleep whilst she was crying. I don't think it is anything to do with a lack of maternal instinct, just that you are so damned tired you need the sleep. I would say having your husband there will make a difference, as you say. Luckily mine rarely woke up when she cried when she was in our room. Does your alarm clock wake you up? Mine never does so I just put it down to being a really deep sleeper.

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Oct 15th, 2009, 18:31 PM	#6
Kimboowee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 9,448	Theres the odd night where it takes me ages to get to him. Its like I can hear him but im asleep...

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Oct 16th, 2009, 00:28 AM	#8
Logan's Mum Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: North East Posts: 1,379	I'm the same, I sometimes have to be woken up by my fiance if Logan is crying as I just don't hear him. Sometimes I also dream that I have already got up to feed him, or that I dream that hes not due a feed (I actually picture my mobile with the time on being only half hour since being put into bed) so I lay in bed waiting for OH to go into his room (we have a deal that if he needs settling only, which he rarely does, he will do it). I then wake up as OH prods me, check my phone and its definitely a feed time! Its nothing to do with maternal instinct, just lack of sleep (better than being such a light sleeper you wake at your baby's every little movement, plus at least your OH is a light sleeper so he can wake you).

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Oct 18th, 2009, 16:53 PM	#9
augustbaby09 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 846	Im the same!!! I used to wake up so easily but for some reason i dont always hear my little one - even though she may be next to me in her basket crying!!! If my OH isnt there my mum will sometimes come too and she stays in room to make sure i wake up... Its not ALL the time but a lot of the time i dont hear a thing.id dint used to be such a deep sleeper!The first night i brought her home she was crying on and off for 2 hours and my Oh was up with her - he even put her next to me as he couldnt believe i didnt hear her and wake up (he actually had to shake me to ge tme up!!).I put it down to the fact id had a long labour and hadnt slept for 3 day sprior to giving birth...but 8 weeks on i still struggle to wake. xx

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Oct 24th, 2009, 10:09 AM	#10
nikkiangel83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 479	I wish that I was a heavier sleeper lol! I wake up at the slightest snuffle and end up disturbing her more!! When your baby needs you, you WILL be there so don't worry

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