Is it what you expected?

Blondie2008 · Jul 1st, 2009, 07:15 AM

I was just wondering if motherhood is what you expected?

I am struggling to be honest. Didnt realise just how much time taking care of a newborn takes up. I am lucky too as have had my husband off for the last 3 weeks (he goes back on Monday) and plenty of family who help out.

I hope it gets better as time goes on and i get more sleep.

How about everyone else? Please tell me that i am not the only one struggling!

xx

**angel** · Jul 1st, 2009, 08:30 AM

hey hun...it defo was not what i expected but believe me it does get easier!! i found the sleep part quite annoying lol but after a while u jus learn to work on with having no sleep!! the worst day i had was when hubby went bk to work but love it being jus me and Kaleb now!!!

He is quite an unsettled baby tho so some days i dont get nothing done!! But i would not change it for the world....

HUge hugs Dont be afraid to ask for help xxxxxx

PeanutBean · Jul 1st, 2009, 09:18 AM

I found some things were as I expected and some not so. Some things were much harder than I'd thought they'd be even though I'd expected them, iykwim, and some things easier. I can tell you that 7 months on things are a lot easier! It gets easier every day as you and your baby learn about yourselves and each other. It gets easier when feeding settles, when they smile, when they sit, with every new thing it all gets a bit easier until it's loads more fun than it is difficult. You'll get there, don't worry, there's so much to learn!

Laura--x · Jul 1st, 2009, 10:44 AM

Tbh, ive found it alot easier than i thought it would be, but Maisie is a REALLY good baby!

The hardest part of course is the lack of sleep, but even when she was a newborn she only woke up maximum 3 times a night between 10pm and 7am.. usally 12am..2am and 5am..

She only cries when she wants feeding, and occupies herself most of the time, she prefers to be left alone in her swing or bouncer or laying under her playgym!

lesleyann · Jul 1st, 2009, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Laura--x

Tbh, ive found it alot easier than i thought it would be, but Maisie is a REALLY good baby!

The hardest part of course is the lack of sleep, but even when she was a newborn she only woke up maximum 3 times a night between 10pm and 7am.. usally 12am..2am and 5am..

She only cries when she wants feeding, and occupies herself most of the time, she prefers to be left alone in her swing or bouncer or laying under her playgym!

mines pretty much the same as above.

Looks like kyle and Maisie are alike lol Laura

Blah11 · Jul 1st, 2009, 11:49 AM

Breastfeeding wasnt harder but more time consuming in the early days than I expected it to be. Also didnt expect to be so knackered after birth!

Mum2b_Claire · Jul 1st, 2009, 13:01 PM

Looking after Ruby has generally been easier than I thought, but with the odd very hard day! However I was expecting to be blissfully breastfeeding with no problem at all, but I found it impossible and had to give up after 2 weeks. I've found it really hard coming up against all the bullying attitudes of various medical professionals about breastfeeding. That was unexpected and not nice!

snettyb · Jul 1st, 2009, 13:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Mum2b_Claire

Looking after Ruby has generally been easier than I thought, but with the odd very hard day! However I was expecting to be blissfully breastfeeding with no problem at all, but I found it impossible and had to give up after 2 weeks. I've found it really hard coming up against all the bullying attitudes of various medical professionals about breastfeeding. That was unexpected and not nice!

I had this problem too. I had to give up breast feeding after 10 days as Jake would suck in his top lip and wasn't feeding very well at all. I sometimes think i would have got less crap ofr the MW, HV and breast feeding support officer (yes, my area employs someone spesifically to push breast feeding) if i hadn't have bothered at all!! I got no praise for trying, just shit for 'giving up'! Made me feel like a right failure!

I also struggled with how tired i was after the birth. It took it out of me for about 2 weeks. Wasn't so bad after DS1 but i think that as you get older it gets worse. Stoopid me is gonna try for another one soon ha ha, must be mad!! xx

2nd time mum · Jul 1st, 2009, 14:54 PM

HI with my first I have to admit that I find it really really hard! My son just screamed the whole time and wanted fed as much as possible and it was extremely draining. It does get easier but is really hard work.

My 2nd has been great thank god!xx

JennTheMomma · Jul 1st, 2009, 21:22 PM

Yeah its what I expected. I've been around kids literally my whole life, so I haven't seen anything yet that I haven't already been around.

Jul 1st, 2009, 07:15 AM	#1
Blondie2008 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Wales Posts: 460	Is it what you expected? I was just wondering if motherhood is what you expected? I am struggling to be honest. Didnt realise just how much time taking care of a newborn takes up. I am lucky too as have had my husband off for the last 3 weeks (he goes back on Monday) and plenty of family who help out. I hope it gets better as time goes on and i get more sleep. How about everyone else? Please tell me that i am not the only one struggling! xx

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angel Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cornwall Posts: 1,744	hey hun...it defo was not what i expected but believe me it does get easier!! i found the sleep part quite annoying lol but after a while u jus learn to work on with having no sleep!! the worst day i had was when hubby went bk to work but love it being jus me and Kaleb now!!! He is quite an unsettled baby tho so some days i dont get nothing done!! But i would not change it for the world.... HUge hugs Dont be afraid to ask for help xxxxxx

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PeanutBean Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: Greater Manchester Posts: 18,226	I found some things were as I expected and some not so. Some things were much harder than I'd thought they'd be even though I'd expected them, iykwim, and some things easier. I can tell you that 7 months on things are a lot easier! It gets easier every day as you and your baby learn about yourselves and each other. It gets easier when feeding settles, when they smile, when they sit, with every new thing it all gets a bit easier until it's loads more fun than it is difficult. You'll get there, don't worry, there's so much to learn!

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Laura--x Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Posts: 8,790	Tbh, ive found it alot easier than i thought it would be, but Maisie is a REALLY good baby! The hardest part of course is the lack of sleep, but even when she was a newborn she only woke up maximum 3 times a night between 10pm and 7am.. usally 12am..2am and 5am.. She only cries when she wants feeding, and occupies herself most of the time, she prefers to be left alone in her swing or bouncer or laying under her playgym!

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Jul 1st, 2009, 11:49 AM	#6
Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 32,854	Breastfeeding wasnt harder but more time consuming in the early days than I expected it to be. Also didnt expect to be so knackered after birth!

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Mum2b_Claire Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 13,905	Looking after Ruby has generally been easier than I thought, but with the odd very hard day! However I was expecting to be blissfully breastfeeding with no problem at all, but I found it impossible and had to give up after 2 weeks. I've found it really hard coming up against all the bullying attitudes of various medical professionals about breastfeeding. That was unexpected and not nice!

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2nd time mum Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Dundee Posts: 1,368	HI with my first I have to admit that I find it really really hard! My son just screamed the whole time and wanted fed as much as possible and it was extremely draining. It does get easier but is really hard work. My 2nd has been great thank god!xx

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JennTheMomma Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,333	Yeah its what I expected. I've been around kids literally my whole life, so I haven't seen anything yet that I haven't already been around.

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