Is it what you expected? - Page 2

Abz1982 · Jul 1st, 2009, 21:30 PM

NO.

I had no expectations to be fair. Didnt think of it as scary or exciting. I just waited to see what it would be like.

and I wont lie. If I could do it again..........im not sure I would. Dont get me wrong, I love LO. I wouldnt want anything to happen to her. But I am not bonding with her. I keep thinking that if a rich educated couple who could give her absolutely everything she desires, and fulfill any ambitions she has and who would lover her with all their heart came along then I would easily hand her over and go back to my old life.

I liked being pregnant tho.....................which is why I had considered being a surrogate before.

xJG30 · Jul 1st, 2009, 21:31 PM

I struggled quite alot in the first few weeks, felt really shit before my dad could settle him and i couldn't

It didn't help that I didn't really have much time to bond with him after the birth for a week as I was ill

tasha41 · Jul 1st, 2009, 22:35 PM

It's been easier than I expected it to be, but the first couple of weeks were definitely tough. Hang in there hun.. it will improve!

brownhairedmom · Jul 1st, 2009, 22:37 PM

at almost 8 months, things are a BREEZE. The first 3 months, not so much

**angel** · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:13 AM

wish i had a placid baby lol im sat here rockin him 2 sleep now as he is such a fighter

xx

BeckaJayne · Jul 3rd, 2009, 04:04 AM

I thought i'd be completely clueless once LO arrived but somehow i just knew what i was doing. I knew it would take up all my time but i don't mind coz i've never been happier then i am now.

I did struggle with LO for a few days after OH went back to work but only coz of the colic.

Charlie5 · Jul 3rd, 2009, 06:51 AM

The tiredness and sleepless nights have gotten me - apart from that pretty much as I thought it would be.

hexyewdancer · Jul 3rd, 2009, 08:43 AM

I find im struggling. He hardly ever sleeps and is so unsettled so im so tired. I roughly have about 4 hours sleep a night and that is so disturbed because im so paranoid with every noise he makes.
I thought i would be able to sleep when he sleeps but that is never and when he does it isnt even a full hour. Think its mostly to do with this heat.

Finding it much harder since my hubby has gone back to work.

babymama · Jul 3rd, 2009, 18:56 PM

The first 2 weeks I cried everyday. I felt like I wasn't living my life anymore. I had no sleep, hardly found time to eat during the day, breastfeeding was a nightmare! But then 6 weeks came around and what a difference!!!! It DOES get better

It's hard at the beginning dealing with everything and learning about your baby but soon enough you get it all and it's amazing! Hang in there!!!

Blah11 · Jul 4th, 2009, 06:16 AM

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Originally Posted by snettyb

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Originally Posted by Mum2b_Claire

Looking after Ruby has generally been easier than I thought, but with the odd very hard day! However I was expecting to be blissfully breastfeeding with no problem at all, but I found it impossible and had to give up after 2 weeks. I've found it really hard coming up against all the bullying attitudes of various medical professionals about breastfeeding. That was unexpected and not nice!

I had this problem too. I had to give up breast feeding after 10 days as Jake would suck in his top lip and wasn't feeding very well at all. I sometimes think i would have got less crap ofr the MW, HV and breast feeding support officer (yes, my area employs someone spesifically to push breast feeding) if i hadn't have bothered at all!! I got no praise for trying, just shit for 'giving up'! Made me feel like a right failure!

I also struggled with how tired i was after the birth. It took it out of me for about 2 weeks. Wasn't so bad after DS1 but i think that as you get older it gets worse. Stoopid me is gonna try for another one soon ha ha, must be mad!! xx

I don't think thats their intention. Lots of women struggle with breastfeeding and have very little support to get the issues sorted. I think its a great idea to have specific people you can turn to for help (if you want it).

Jul 1st, 2009, 21:30 PM	#11
Abz1982 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Aberdeen Posts: 3,950	NO. I had no expectations to be fair. Didnt think of it as scary or exciting. I just waited to see what it would be like. and I wont lie. If I could do it again..........im not sure I would. Dont get me wrong, I love LO. I wouldnt want anything to happen to her. But I am not bonding with her. I keep thinking that if a rich educated couple who could give her absolutely everything she desires, and fulfill any ambitions she has and who would lover her with all their heart came along then I would easily hand her over and go back to my old life. I liked being pregnant tho.....................which is why I had considered being a surrogate before.

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Jul 1st, 2009, 21:31 PM	#12
xJG30 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Nottingham Posts: 18,403	I struggled quite alot in the first few weeks, felt really shit before my dad could settle him and i couldn't It didn't help that I didn't really have much time to bond with him after the birth for a week as I was ill

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Jul 1st, 2009, 22:35 PM	#13
tasha41 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Hamilton, Canada Posts: 23,921	It's been easier than I expected it to be, but the first couple of weeks were definitely tough. Hang in there hun.. it will improve!

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Jul 1st, 2009, 22:37 PM	#14
brownhairedmom Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 6,444	at almost 8 months, things are a BREEZE. The first 3 months, not so much

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:13 AM	#15
angel Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cornwall Posts: 1,744	wish i had a placid baby lol im sat here rockin him 2 sleep now as he is such a fighter xx

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 04:04 AM	#16
BeckaJayne Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 431	I thought i'd be completely clueless once LO arrived but somehow i just knew what i was doing. I knew it would take up all my time but i don't mind coz i've never been happier then i am now. I did struggle with LO for a few days after OH went back to work but only coz of the colic.

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 06:51 AM	#17
Charlie5 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 321	The tiredness and sleepless nights have gotten me - apart from that pretty much as I thought it would be.

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 08:43 AM	#18
hexyewdancer Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Cheshire, UK Posts: 1,719	I find im struggling. He hardly ever sleeps and is so unsettled so im so tired. I roughly have about 4 hours sleep a night and that is so disturbed because im so paranoid with every noise he makes. I thought i would be able to sleep when he sleeps but that is never and when he does it isnt even a full hour. Think its mostly to do with this heat. Finding it much harder since my hubby has gone back to work.

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Jul 3rd, 2009, 18:56 PM	#19
babymama Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 855	The first 2 weeks I cried everyday. I felt like I wasn't living my life anymore. I had no sleep, hardly found time to eat during the day, breastfeeding was a nightmare! But then 6 weeks came around and what a difference!!!! It DOES get better It's hard at the beginning dealing with everything and learning about your baby but soon enough you get it all and it's amazing! Hang in there!!!

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