marley2580

Haven't told her because she hasn't asked lol. My sister told hers and she said that she was creating a rod for her own back as she'll never get her son into his own bed. TBH, I couldn't care less what she thinks, almost every parent I know co-sleeps to some degree and I don't know anyone who's lost a baby to SIDS so far (touch wood). Having done it for weeks now, I find that I am very aware of Kaya in bed and can wake up before she does and sooth/feed her before she needs it.

Oh an we bought a babydan sleep and safe bed rail for our bed so she can't roll off once she starts rolling.

Wobbles

So bubs is on end of bed protected by bed rail? What about blankets? as normal as you would in their moses/crib? What about you (blankets/duvet)?

marley2580

I have a light duvet which she shares, though it's better if they have their own blanket, because she tends to sleep really close to me. She sleeps with her head about breast level (for obvious reasons) and the duvet as high as her belly. In our bed it goes OH - me - Kaya - bedrail.

Wobbles

Oooo I'd have cold toes - I love wrapping myself in the duvet so that would scare me and selfishly I love my baby but I love my duvet Not off the idea now although she seems ok at the moment poss something to consider look more into nearer the time I guess its one of those Mummy knows best moments - Thanks

mummyoffive

Hi Marley,

Try not to worry, every baby grows at its own pace and it is completely normal for babies to lose weight in the first weeks after birth. The charts are certaintly not set in stone they are an average and as long as baby looks happy and healthy and u have no concerns then its just likely baby will catch up. Baby will get into more of pattern with sleep with time- try to keep day times for play and light etc and low light or dark for night- some may find it harsh but i didnt put any toys or music things on of a night and all mine (apart from prem) slept through the night at 2 months- they still all go to bed at 6 pm and rise at 6-7 am. There is a lot of conflicting evidence with regards to co-sleeping but in general it is not advised in the uk and it is as u say advisable not to smoke and drink or take drugs- health visitors and midwifes are health professionals there to advise you however it is your decision what you follow . good luck x

Jamie

Wobbles- the drs over here freak out like that as well if they know you co-sleep! Personally - i think its a personal choice/preference. I've never co-slept, just something i wasnt comfy with (i worried enough about him breathing and being too cold/too hot LOL) and didnt want to take my chances of him relying on it ya know?- not something i wanted to have to wean him off later on down the road ya know? My friend co-slept with her son from day 1 and loved it!

Margerle

I co-slept with DD, and as a single mom at the time it was wonderful.

I'm probably going to have a place for LO to go to sleep (didn't even have a crib for first baby) but will probably try to co-sleep a lot with this one too. Its just easier for me to BF that way, and take care of night time changings etc.

But...

DH snores really bad. I'm not sure that's condusive to co-sleeping or not. I'm sure it will entirely depend on the temperament and personality of the baby growing inside me LOL.

So right now, I'm open to either option.

Tam

We co-sleep with Alfie.....

It was not intentional, but we had my Dad come to stay and he was having the nursery, which was no problem until Alfie got too big for his crib and we had no where else for him to go.

I was obviously scared as there was no way we wanted to squash him and blankets was another worry, so we decided to get a double duvet and fold it in half, then in half again. That is laid in between me & Paul and we have his blankets and towels around the undersides to sort of prop the sides up to stop him rolling out and he is too high for us to flatten.

We have been like it for months now, we are sorting his nursery in the new year, and to be honest he is such a laid back baby, that moving him to his own room I don't think will be an issue. But if it is, then we will deal with it when it happens...

Just an idea of our set up.......




Alfie sitting next to his bed on the left......That blanket, he can't sleep without it to suck.




Alfie having a snooze whilst I get his night clothes ready.....(you can see Paul's face in the beackground, which gives you an idea of how high Alfie is)




Now Alfie can roll, the duvet is just folded in half now and is more packed around the sides so it cocoons him and he stays in his bed, as when he first started rolling about, he ended up on top of Paul

As for blankets, the only one he has in bed is that one he sucks, we do cover his feet with the duvet, but he kicks it off as soon as it touches, so I am forever trying to get his blanket off him when he is asleep to cover him up.

And now I have done this co-sleeping, I love it and wouldn't have it any other way with Alfie. I am a nightmare tho and do get in trouble for playing with him, as he is so accessible, so I wind him up when he should be going to sleep But on the other hand, when he wakes he is happy just being patted or he just lays their sucking his blanket or humming, it's ace & I feel safe with him right next to me.