I honestly do not think that the Doctors and Health Visitors know what they are doing!!!

I was told (When I left the hospital after Mollys birth AND when I had my last home visit by the health visitor) that I would need to book mine and Mollys 6 week check at my docs (Unless I got a letter)

I waited, didn't get a letter so I rang my doctors asking for an appointment, but they said they don't do 6 weeks checks, they do 8 weeks check and I would have to go through the Health Centre (AKA Health Visitor) for mine and bubs 6 weeks check.

So today I went along to the Health Centre, they did Mollys Check (and they annoyyed me, I will explain afterwards) and when I asked them about me they said that they don't do the 6 weeks one, I have to go to my docs!

Rang my doctors again, Nope they don't do 6 weeks checks AT ALL! I have to wait till the 24th July to get checked!!!

ANd now for the explaination,

Ok at the moment I haven't really bonded with my daughter, I can take care of her sure but when it comes to having that mum love and feeling like a mum I don't!!
Basicaly I look at my daughter and I don't feel any different if I was looking at someone elses baby.
On top of all that Im trying to get active again (10 months on my butt doing nothing lol) its hard, espically when I am on my own (when my partner is at work and my mum is busy) I do like change her and feed her and everything but at the back of my mind im always thinking "I really wish Phil/Mum was here so I could hand her over" I can't believe I even thought of that.

Anyway, had molly wieghed, she hasnt put on that much and so i have to go back on thur to get her seen by the Health Visitor and then proceeds to tell me (Well after 'reading between the lines') that She should be consitant (Feeding every 3 hours etc) cos at the moment she is sort of all over the place, and the lady is telling me that I should wake her if she is asleep and due for a feed ( I have tried and sometimes she might wake up but a few times she doesn't ) and that she should be having more then 1, 1 1/2, 2 onces ( Again sometimes she doesnt want anymore, she either plays with the teet until I take it out or she is asleep!!)
Then she starts saying how I need to get that 'control' back, I should be telling baby, not the other way around.

I got home and cried, that woman has basically made me feel that im a failure, im doing it alll wrong!! (And on top of the whole not bonding with my baby thats a great(!) thing to do)

*Sighs* any advice?

i'm sorry sorry to hear this i cant offer nay advise on the not bonding part sorry but i know the feeling of beening basically told your a faliure i had this from my midwife when my LO was a newborn they told me that i was not feeding her right and told me to do exactually the same as what they told you.

i did this then i was told that she was putting to much weight on and to drop a bottle!!!!!!!

i also know the feeling of the whole 6 week check up roundabout i was told the same then when i phoned doctors they told me that they dont do it either and i would just have to make an appointment at docts to discuss any issues and contraception i had this 11 after LO was born.

If i was you just make an app and see the doc to tell him how you feel its best sorted now than leaving it and making yourself worse by thinking your being a bad mum.x.x.x

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you can always PM me if you need to talk ok chick and phone the docs now to make an app for yourself.x.x.x.

Thanks, I have an appointment with the docs today because my feet are swelling up again, so I'll probaly talk to him them, and even if I forget my mum will probaly come with me and tell him anyway lol