partner!!!! HELP

julzzz · Jun 13th, 2009, 11:26 AM

i had my girl Alessia last friday. and me and my boyfriend kind of just stopped spending time with eachother and arguing alot more... yesterday he just closed in other room from me and the baby until we fell asleep and then he came back. this morning Alessia was tired and was gettin grumpy he picked her up and was nearly shaking her to calm her down and i told him that its not a doll stop shaking her, just walk about with her and she will calm down and fall asleep and then he got pissed gave her to me got dressed and went out... and still is out.. i called him and he said he is in the pub with his friend..

do u think he is like that just cos of the baby??? he is nervous? or not enought attention anymore??

i dont know how to act beside him anymore.. if im nice its not good, if i dont talk to him its not good, if im gettin upset about him being like that he says that im being selfish and just want his attention...

angelstardust · Jun 13th, 2009, 11:32 AM

I'd tell him he needs to grow up.

Babies cry and mummy can't give daddy all her attention anymore.

Do not make excuses for him, he is an adult and he has to learn that life has changed. It takes men longer than women, we know what life with a baby will be like, men don't think about it.

However, if you feel he may hurt her (even if he doesn't mean it) you NEED to deal with it now.

Best of luck hun, most of us have been there. It wasn't untill DS2 came along that my DH realised how much of a git he had been with DS1.

Jkelmum · Jun 13th, 2009, 11:56 AM

He needs to get a grip this baby is here now and running off to pub and treating you like crap when u need is support is out of order ! ...Is there anybody who can talk to him ? If i was you I wouldnt be putting up with his behaviour i would tell him to buck up and step up and be a man or to get gone ! sorry if i sound harsh but ive been in simalar situation a few yrs ago and hate to see men taking the pee x

Jun 13th, 2009, 11:26 AM	#1
julzzz Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 166	partner!!!! HELP i had my girl Alessia last friday. and me and my boyfriend kind of just stopped spending time with eachother and arguing alot more... yesterday he just closed in other room from me and the baby until we fell asleep and then he came back. this morning Alessia was tired and was gettin grumpy he picked her up and was nearly shaking her to calm her down and i told him that its not a doll stop shaking her, just walk about with her and she will calm down and fall asleep and then he got pissed gave her to me got dressed and went out... and still is out.. i called him and he said he is in the pub with his friend.. do u think he is like that just cos of the baby??? he is nervous? or not enought attention anymore?? i dont know how to act beside him anymore.. if im nice its not good, if i dont talk to him its not good, if im gettin upset about him being like that he says that im being selfish and just want his attention...

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Jun 13th, 2009, 11:32 AM	#2
angelstardust Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland Posts: 2,317	I'd tell him he needs to grow up. Babies cry and mummy can't give daddy all her attention anymore. Do not make excuses for him, he is an adult and he has to learn that life has changed. It takes men longer than women, we know what life with a baby will be like, men don't think about it. However, if you feel he may hurt her (even if he doesn't mean it) you NEED to deal with it now. Best of luck hun, most of us have been there. It wasn't untill DS2 came along that my DH realised how much of a git he had been with DS1.

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Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	He needs to get a grip this baby is here now and running off to pub and treating you like crap when u need is support is out of order ! ...Is there anybody who can talk to him ? If i was you I wouldnt be putting up with his behaviour i would tell him to buck up and step up and be a man or to get gone ! sorry if i sound harsh but ive been in simalar situation a few yrs ago and hate to see men taking the pee x

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