..but bugger me, they didn't say it would push you to the limits in every conceivable way.

Alfie's now 2 weeks 6 days and I'm shattered, shagged, knackered but very well supported by my lovely husband (he told me to write that bit!).

I'm b feeding which hasn't allowed me to really get over c-section or 31 hr labour in addition to this I'm very hard on any sort of illness and treat it as though it's attacking me. I find it hard to rest and think f. it! I'm going to go shopping/do my hair/see visitors and I try to ignore the tiredness. I hate it restricting me. My husband thinks I'm mad. He doesn't get it at all. It's just a family trait on my side. 2 days after leaving hosp after c section, I took Alfie to Drayton Manor zoo. We'd got free tickets. What was I thinking?? I want to be 'normal'.

Now alfie won't settle unless he's cuddled to sleep but even worse, he now wakes up as soon as you put him down and wants to be cuddled alllllll the time. I need a break to get stuff done. He's driving me wappy. Any tips? Is this learned behaviour or is it too soon for this? Should I let him cry if I'm sure he's been fed etc...

He's woken up now so will have to cut this short

x x x

oh honey the first few weeks are really tough for us, i would say, take it as easy as you can, rest lots, and imo he's a little young to be crying it out, i would say just go with the flow of your LO and also take us much help and support as you can xx

aw hun, it is a tough time the 1st few weeks....years! But it will get easier. Try not to cuddle him to sleep everytime, i know easier said than done. You could try swaddling him tightly so it feels like he's still being held. xxx

It is soo hard and your lil man is still weeney. It does get a easier as they grow and you get to know them more etc.

TBH i wouldn't worry too much at this stage about cuddling him to sleep he is only 2wks old it really won't make much difference at all, if he was 6mnths+ then i would say you might have a problem on your hands. Amelia was cuddled to sleep until around 4/5mnths and she sleeps just fine on her own now.

Its hard to do but you have to just take each day at a time and not try and do chores etc, you just literally got to concentrate on yourself and your baby, especially after a c-section and defo if you are b/fing (make sure you eat and drink enough).

It DOES get easier, if it didn't i don't think many people would have more than 1 child!

x

I had a c section and it really hurt for at least 4 weeks after... you need to be resting. Dont stress about getting out and about. I know its boring but in a few weeks you'll find it much easier honestly. Just take it easy, dont burn yourself out.

If hes crying when hes being put down try putting a hot water bottle in his bed so he doesnt notice being put down so much. Obviously take the hot water bottle out before you put him, leaving his bed nice and cosy.

Also when I was having this problem in the day I would put Meadow in her vibrating bouncer chair, the vibrating helped her settle lots.

x

i would suggest the swaddling hun, it is exhausting, i felt the same about not having time to recover because i had 2 family members come and stay with us, it was such a pain.

big hugs and i hope you feel more yourself soon

Lou
xxx

You could also try a snuggli, or sling. That way he still has the closeness, but you have free hands to get some things done!

I know it's hard, but you really have to take it easy or you just won't recover! You don't have an illness that needs fighting, you had major surgery and now have a baby! So you have to rest and just do little bits and pieces as and when you can.

Wow, props to you for going to the zoo two days after!! LOL. We went to the zoo on our honeymoon when I was around 22 weeks pregnant and that almost killed me...I can only imagine after a c section. You're a tough girl. Take it easy...I hope you feel better love.

oh man I was an absolute wreck in the first few weeks... you are doing fab sweetie...

and I do promise it gets easier