Simon'sMum

I feel like I've been carrying a ton of bricks on my heart and hope that if you've been through this you'll be able to share your advice...

I became pregnant quickly after my loved one and I decided that we were ready start a family. From day 1, things went amazingly well. There was never a nauseous moment, never a complication, never a scare of any sort, not a stretch mark, not a varicose vein, no swellling. All those pregnant weeks went by like a breeze.

I felt so good (like never before actually!) that my labor began without me noticing much. I thought it was only Braxton-Hicks but turned out to be nearly 5 cm dilated at 36 weeks sharp. Within a few hours it was nearly 7 cm and baby Simon was born without an epidural or any medication, and as we wished, daddy was the one to welcome him into the world.

I should be grateful, right???

I am, but I've also been missing being pregnant since the birth of my first little one, now 3 months old. I miss my big belly, I miss the kicks, I miss looking so cute in all my materinty outfits, I miss the anticipation of the birth. It all went too fast and though our home was perfectly ready, my mind wasn't. I feel like after being pregnant for 36 weeks, it became my identity. Now I feel regrets for what I didn't get to do, guilt for giving birth early and like I wish my sweet little boy could be back in my belly again.

Has this happened to you? What could I do to overcome this? I am sooo grateful for having a healthy child, I am generally very happy but can't get over this one issue. It's embarassing to talk about since I fear people will think I don't appreciate what I had and most especially have.

Can you help???

Thank you for your help...

Simon's Mum

Suz

Awe......I have not been pregnant yet but I have heard this same thing with alot of the girls here. I think it is perfectly normal to feel the way you are feeling.

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Tam

welcome to baby & bump!

I know where you are coming from, especially after my first baby I really missed being pregnant, I hated it and as you said it became your identity, but it does get better! I think it is because it is your first time and it is all so scary that once we have actually got our baby, it really wasn't as scary as we thought and we feel we missed out enjoying it all.

After having my 2nd this year, I still miss being pregnant, but nothing like the first time around, and I must say, I enjoyed the 2nd pregnancy much more.

I also felt weird whenever I went out without my pram, I know that sounds strange, but that ended up like my security blanket as I had piled lots of weight on.......but again, this time round, it is not a big deal!

Just give yourself time hun, it is all new and one hell of a thing for us to go thru. x