Ilana is a big girl and well established on solids. She is still breastfed and I pump during the day (I work full time) so she has a bottle during the day (only a small one as she hates drinking milk from a bottle/beaker). Her morning porridge is made with EBM and she has yoghurt in the day, plus a big feed in the morning and two big evening feeds. This should be enough milk according to the HVs etc, but she wakes a lot during the night to feed still.

She can self settle to go to sleep in the evening and if you catch her stirring you can usually settle her quickly - but in the night obviously it takes me a while to hear her, by which point she's wide awake. The only way to get her back to sleep is to feed her (and I'm grateful this even works really as all last week nothing did and one night she was awake from 2-5.30am!)

We kind of co-sleep (her cot is next to the bed with the side off, and she starts in that but ends up with me after the first night feed at 1ish) and from that point on once she wakes she roots for the boob and needs it to settle. If I try putting her in her cot after it though, she just wakes up and cries.

CIO/CC is not an option - should I just live with it for now and hope it gets better in the end?

Sounds like she is Reverse Cycling. Have a read of this:
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/normal/reverse-cycling.html

Personally, I just let LO feed as often as he wants at night, even though it can be hard sometimes. I worry about premature weaning, so I don't want to discourage him feeding.

I hope you find a solution that suits you.

Thank you! How did I forget good old KellyMom?

That website is like my bible!

Hope you can find a solution, I find it hard to still feed at night. Hope you can solve it soon!

The Night Weaning page might also be helpful:
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/weaning-night.html

How old is your LO?

Ezio is 10.5 months old

I also just let Hayden feed whenever during the night. He didn't stop feeding through the night until 15mo when I had to get him to stop because we both had horrible thrush and I was hurting sooo bad when he nursed I had to ahve the nighttime to heal up so I had Mark start getting up with him and rocking him and offering him a sippy of water (he wouldn't take any other milks) and it worked well for him then, but he was older and could understand a bit more.

Thanks. See, Ilana doesn't like to nurse during the day (hasn't since she was about 4.5 months, just before I went back to work) and the HVs say it is because she 'eats all night'. But even when she woke less she still didn't take much from the boob or bottle (EBM) in the day, and she will always eat solids during the day no matter how much milk she took in the night. She is too interested in the rest of the world in the day and can't be bothered with me or milk! Solids, she'll eat anytime, anywhere, but milk - no. That's a good point, therefore, what you said about not wanting her to prematurely self-wean.

I think I have kind of decided to keep at it for now and reassess closer to a year (if all continues as it is now, and she actually goes back to sleep after the feeds). I just keep wildly veering from feeling okay with it and thinking it's normal, to feeling panicked and believing what my mum, the world and his dog tell me and that she'll never sleep alone, she'll never leave our bed, yada yada yada... How do I stop myself doing this?!!

I don't think you can stop lol, we always worry, it's a mom thing. I think you just have to make your decision and know in your heart you are doing what is best for your family in that moment, you can deal with things as it comes, don't worry about where she'll be sleeping in a year or 2 years or 5 years, it won't last forever. 2 of my 3 boys coslept and both moved easily to their own beds right around a year. Hayden is 2 1/2 and does come in halfway through the night to sleep with us but we love that, we could make him stop but don't want to

Hayden was the same way with nursing though except at her age he didn't eat solids, he refused until 9mo to eat anything. But he wouldn't nurse as much during the day, when he did eat it was just small amounts then he was too busy and had to do something else. But then he'd nurse more at night, I didn't mind so much since he did cosleep I didn't even have to fully wake up at that age anymore he could pretty much do it all on his own lol

Thank you! I think I am a natural worrier and I overthink HUGELY. When anyone on here who used to have the same troubles as me manages to get long stretches out of their LO I start to think ';maybe I should try that?' but deep down i think I am realising slowly that she will do things at her own pace.