People can be so thoughtless sometimes with words sometimes they don't realise it though when they really don't know what to say esspecially when they can't relate to that awful heartache.
5 weeks or more he/she was still your little bean. I think time gets better but it never goes away. I'm still so shocked my lil girl has stuck with us and I am so happy but I realised my past won't go away it still HURTS.
Its not too late to talk to your OH I think by the sounds of it it could do you good
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