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KatM83 · Jan 21st, 2012, 06:52 AM

Hi, first, im so sorry for everyone here going through the same thing

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well i had an emergency scan on thurs which they found no fetal heartbeat,my baby had died at 8weeks,i was ment to be 9+1. this is my 3rd loss, my first after having my son 9 years ago and my partners first...i feel like such a let down to him...whats wrong with me

im just waiting now for it to be over so i can try to move on,they havnt given me anything and i have a follow up scan on tues, its not showing any signs of happening anytime soon, im really fed up, trying to keep busy...how is everyone else dealing with this?
Thanks for reading, love to to all xxx

Sunflower1 · Jan 21st, 2012, 07:17 AM

Hi kat

Firstly big

and I'm sorry you are going through this.

I'm trying to keep busy although sometimes I don't have the motivation and tbh sometimes I do just want to sit and think about the baby I'll never get to meet.

I've got lots of supportive people around me but only one of them has been through a miscarriage. Everybody else means well but they don't know what it's like so don't know what to say. It's hardest with my fiancé, I do understand what you're saying you feel like you've let him down but you really haven't. You can take all the advice in the world on what you should and shouldn't be doing but it still cannot prevent this from happening if it happens. I'm really sorry. I have done everything by the book this time except occasionally when me and my fiancé had a row I wondered if I should be bringing a baby into our lives-now I've lost it I feel like I'm to blame. Just gotta keep busy and give it time xx

KatM83 · Jan 21st, 2012, 12:07 PM

Hiya, big

to you too..you are definitely not to blame hun, you really must not think that,i think most people have little feelings like that when you row etc so please dont blame yourself ! like you said theres nothing you can do unfortunatly,that doesnt make it any easier though. i know what you mean about motivation,i have to get out for the dogs or i dont think id get out of bed, its hard im still waiting for things to get going..just want to try to move on

Hope you start to feel better soon, am here if you want to chat anytime xxxx

daydreaming22 · Jan 21st, 2012, 20:44 PM

Awe Kat im so sorry you are going through this again

Are they going to do any testing?

KatM83 · Jan 22nd, 2012, 12:58 PM

Hello,im not sure im at hosp on Tue for follow up scan but nothings come away yet so i dont know what theyl do

x

Jan 21st, 2012, 06:52 AM	#1
KatM83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Kendal,Cumbria,UK Posts: 74	feel numb Hi, first, im so sorry for everyone here going through the same thing . well i had an emergency scan on thurs which they found no fetal heartbeat,my baby had died at 8weeks,i was ment to be 9+1. this is my 3rd loss, my first after having my son 9 years ago and my partners first...i feel like such a let down to him...whats wrong with me im just waiting now for it to be over so i can try to move on,they havnt given me anything and i have a follow up scan on tues, its not showing any signs of happening anytime soon, im really fed up, trying to keep busy...how is everyone else dealing with this? Thanks for reading, love to to all xxx

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Jan 21st, 2012, 07:17 AM	#2
Sunflower1 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 20	Hi kat Firstly big and I'm sorry you are going through this. I'm trying to keep busy although sometimes I don't have the motivation and tbh sometimes I do just want to sit and think about the baby I'll never get to meet. I've got lots of supportive people around me but only one of them has been through a miscarriage. Everybody else means well but they don't know what it's like so don't know what to say. It's hardest with my fiancé, I do understand what you're saying you feel like you've let him down but you really haven't. You can take all the advice in the world on what you should and shouldn't be doing but it still cannot prevent this from happening if it happens. I'm really sorry. I have done everything by the book this time except occasionally when me and my fiancé had a row I wondered if I should be bringing a baby into our lives-now I've lost it I feel like I'm to blame. Just gotta keep busy and give it time xx

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Jan 21st, 2012, 12:07 PM	#3
KatM83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Kendal,Cumbria,UK Posts: 74	Hiya, big to you too..you are definitely not to blame hun, you really must not think that,i think most people have little feelings like that when you row etc so please dont blame yourself ! like you said theres nothing you can do unfortunatly,that doesnt make it any easier though. i know what you mean about motivation,i have to get out for the dogs or i dont think id get out of bed, its hard im still waiting for things to get going..just want to try to move on Hope you start to feel better soon, am here if you want to chat anytime xxxx

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Jan 21st, 2012, 20:44 PM	#4
daydreaming22 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Tampa, Fl Posts: 915	Awe Kat im so sorry you are going through this again Are they going to do any testing?

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Jan 22nd, 2012, 12:58 PM	#5
KatM83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Kendal,Cumbria,UK Posts: 74	Hello,im not sure im at hosp on Tue for follow up scan but nothings come away yet so i dont know what theyl do x

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