I said I couldn't make it in today and of he was going to do ultrasound. She answered well you were pregnant so he is going o want to see you and make sure you are okay do yes he will do u/s and talk to you.

I understand she is doing her job by did she have to tell me well you were pregnant. I am not an idiot I know I was pregnant!!!!! I am so upset and emotionally worn out I couldn't even talk after that... I just let her finish and I sort of made a sound to let her know I heard every thing and she said have a good day and hung up..

Have a good day are you kidding me…

She said as you pass tissue you will have lower levels and until her I am not passing anything and she also told me the worse things ever

She told me I can't get pregnant for three months are you fucking serious?????????

I need to start immediately ttc. Otherwise I will be trapped in this mindset with nothing to Change it for three months what te fuck!!

I am so upset I'm furious! I hate my doctor and the nurse and everyone there.!

This is not fair why do I have To go through this?

Fml......

Hi, I know you have replied to a couple of my things, so thought I should now reply back.
When I had my first miscarriage in July 2009, we decided not to wait around (i was nearly 38 at time) so we allowed 1 period and then tried again and became pregnant and healthy baby born in May 2010.
I had MMC last week and `gave birth` last thurs. As far as i am concerned i want to do same again, leave 1 month and then try(now 40) I don`t think hubby wants to and that is breaking my heart.
I don`t know of any medical do`s or don`ts as to when to try again, but for me, getting pregnant again straight away helped the healing process, you never forget, but it helps.
Just wishing for same this time.
Love and hugs xx

Thanks I feel the same way to. Getting pregnant right away. I haven't gone in yet I see him. I think I am putting it off to avoid the reality of it all. Ya know....

I don't understand why this time I have to wait he didn't tell me tis last time not even after my surgery. I am devastated and mad at the same time.

I want my babie back and I want my nightmares over... I feel stupid for even thinking I could have a baby.. I knew web I found out that it wouldn't last and I was worried te entire time until I was told no going to make it.

Normally I try right away and that always helps but if I can't get of right away this time I have no idea how to deal with this....

I think I am just going to talk it out by writing a journal...

First, I am so sorry.

I know the feeling of wanting to avoid the Dr., but I think you need to see him and talk to him. I found that my actual Dr. was way more understanding and sympathetic than the nurse I spoke to on the phone.

Make a list of everything you want to know before you go to your appointment. When you see your Dr. you may be emotional and not be thinking clearly, but if you have it written down then you won't forget anything. Flat out ask your Dr. why you have to wait three months. I saw the Nurse Practitioner after my D&C and she told me to wait 3 months and just track my cycles, but my actual Dr. had told me it was fine to start TTC again after one cycle. Even health care professionals in the same practice can give conflicting advice.

Your Dr. is there to provide medical advice and help you through this. If he isn't doing that then it is within your right to find a new Dr. And remember ultimately, it is your body and your decision on when you TTC, so make sure you get all the facts from your Dr, but he can't really tell you what to do, he is just giving you his medical opinion.

Thank you. That's what I needed to hear

Just remember you are not alone. Most of us have felt what you are feeling and I can tell you it is completely normal.

u are all very strong women...keep goin and keep your heads up x

Thank you. And I am sorry you girls had to go through that too... It's a terrible feeling..

I wish this would just go away. Crying...

I've just said this to you in another thread, but I really do think it might be worth getting a second opinion - I think your doctor might be giving you some rather outdated/over-cautious advice there. Mostly because I've just been through my second miscarriage and I've literally today been told by three different people that I can start ttc even before my next period if I feel ready, plus I have several NHS leaflets saying the same thing!

Of course, I'm not a doctor, I'm not qualified to give medical advice, and for all I know, there might be something specific about your situation that makes it more advisable to wait - but I think I'd definitely a) ask your doctor exactly why they've given you this advice, and b) try to speak to someone else about it.

I know exactly what you mean about feeling "trapped in this mindset" as well - I very much want to be pregnant again or at least start trying. I really hope you're able to get some better news/advice about this. *hugs*