Does the pain ever go away?

haaza123 · Nov 8th, 2008, 17:33 PM

Just wanted to know does the emotional pain ever go away? The 22nd of this month would have been my due date of my first mmc. Also this month would have been my 20 week scan of my second mc and my 12 week scan of my third mc. As each month goes by i cant stop thinking about what would have been happening to me if i was pregnant. Been feeling really sad and tearful but finding it hard to explain.

xxx

Drazic<3 · Nov 8th, 2008, 19:17 PM

Im so sorry for your loss.
I know its clique, but it does get easier with time, i promise.
If you need a friend, please PM me

Alexas Mommy · Nov 8th, 2008, 19:41 PM

xclairex · Nov 8th, 2008, 20:01 PM

oh darlin it does get easier but will always be in the back of our minds hope u feel better soon if u need a chat pm me to x

earthmother05 · Nov 8th, 2008, 20:04 PM

I am so sorry for your losses -we have suffered three miscarriages this year -last one being at 11 weeks pregnant. I hope the pain goes away at one point for all of us who have suffered miscarriages. xx

haaza123 · Nov 9th, 2008, 17:25 PM

Thank you, i really hope it does get better. Feel really low when i see friends and family who are pregnant and are talking about their scans and things.

honeybunch2k7 · Nov 9th, 2008, 19:18 PM

It becomes more manageable with time.

Wishfull · Nov 11th, 2008, 14:52 PM

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Originally Posted by haaza123

Thank you, i really hope it does get better. Feel really low when i see friends and family who are pregnant and are talking about their scans and things.

How are you feeling today?
Those times are hard when everyone else seems to be moving on. Having babies an trying not to be bitter or feel up set. I think its always going to be like that but just gets a little easier an those feelings of bitterness and the tears that always are just under the suface seem to ease with time.
Hope your doing ok let us know.
PM me if you ever want to vent.
xxxxxx

JASMAK · Nov 11th, 2008, 18:29 PM

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Originally Posted by haaza123

Just wanted to know does the emotional pain ever go away? The 22nd of this month would have been my due date of my first mmc. Also this month would have been my 20 week scan of my second mc and my 12 week scan of my third mc. As each month goes by i cant stop thinking about what would have been happening to me if i was pregnant. Been feeling really sad and tearful but finding it hard to explain.

xxx

I find myself on a bit of a rollercoaster. I am fine for awhile, sometimes a long while, sometimes just part of a day...and then I need to grieve. I usually just need to let it out. It sounds like you and I may have something in common. I also have had three m/c. I think the pain would be less if I was pregnant again, but, I keep m/c. Now it's not just the loss of the pregnancy, the due dates, scans etc...but, also, I am still with empty arms.

Rumpskin · Nov 12th, 2008, 06:57 AM

Sending you lots of hugs to help. With my first mc, every milestone was significant and hurt. When my due date came, I felt a sense of relief if that makes any sense. With my second mc, I found out LO had died a week ago today. Have not grieved yet as I have not been home. This one has hit me harder as I experienced intense physical pain.

Look after yourself and know that we are all thinking of you xxx

Nov 8th, 2008, 17:33 PM	#1
haaza123 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Surrey Posts: 437	Does the pain ever go away? Just wanted to know does the emotional pain ever go away? The 22nd of this month would have been my due date of my first mmc. Also this month would have been my 20 week scan of my second mc and my 12 week scan of my third mc. As each month goes by i cant stop thinking about what would have been happening to me if i was pregnant. Been feeling really sad and tearful but finding it hard to explain. xxx

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Nov 8th, 2008, 19:17 PM	#2
Drazic<3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Norfolk, England. Posts: 9,295	Im so sorry for your loss. I know its clique, but it does get easier with time, i promise. If you need a friend, please PM me

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xclairex Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 687	oh darlin it does get easier but will always be in the back of our minds hope u feel better soon if u need a chat pm me to x

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earthmother05 On a break (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Wiltshire Posts: 31	I am so sorry for your losses -we have suffered three miscarriages this year -last one being at 11 weeks pregnant. I hope the pain goes away at one point for all of us who have suffered miscarriages. xx

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Nov 9th, 2008, 17:25 PM	#6
haaza123 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Surrey Posts: 437	Thank you, i really hope it does get better. Feel really low when i see friends and family who are pregnant and are talking about their scans and things.

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honeybunch2k7 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 883	It becomes more manageable with time.

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Nov 12th, 2008, 06:57 AM	#10
Rumpskin Other BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 7,261	Sending you lots of hugs to help. With my first mc, every milestone was significant and hurt. When my due date came, I felt a sense of relief if that makes any sense. With my second mc, I found out LO had died a week ago today. Have not grieved yet as I have not been home. This one has hit me harder as I experienced intense physical pain. Look after yourself and know that we are all thinking of you xxx

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