Logiebear

Hi linzi hun,

I had my second miscarriage this year in May and I understand about loss. I am a very positive sort of person and it has taken a lot of strength to carry on for my other children but it is worht the effort for them. I so desperately want to be pregnant for one final time. I am 32 and I have 3 children which I had at 21, 29 and 31 so there is a difference and I can tell you that having a baby when you are younger is so much easier physically. Not mentally or emotionally but on the physical side it really does make a different. One of closest friends had her first and only baby at 42 and she was permanatly exhausted and unable to carry on. I will not be having kids past 35 but I can say that as I have them already. I wouldn't do it but like I said I can say that. I can understand the rush to have kids when you are over 35 but that is helped by the loss of a baby, you feel the urgency to be pregnant again straight away, or atleast most ladies do anyway.

I am happy for you that have come to terms with your loss and hope you get your bfp soon massive to you

linzi74

Hi Logibear

Thanks for your comment and I am sorry about your m/c, it is a very difficult thing to deal with.
I can't agree with you about the age thing, I don't think the physical aspect of it would make much difference to me as I have lots of energy and don't feel any different to how I was in my twenties. All I know is that when I was younger, kids were the furthest thing from my mind, in fact, I had no interest in them at all. But suddenly it was so strange when I got to about 31 a little switch clicked and all I wanted was a child. So I think it's not the same for everyone, the only person who can decide the right time is yourself and that's what makes us all different. I can't wait to be a mum though.
Linzi
xxx

Logiebear

I bet you can't wait hun and I'm sure your time will come and hopefully it will be soon

I just wanted to say that I totally understand how wanting kids for more and more women doesn't kick in til their late 30's but it is unfortunately a fact for these women that your body past 35 is not at it's peak any more for baby making and no matter how great you feel it simply doesn't change your biology. I know it sounds harsh but it is true. For example, one of the reasons for the increase in multiple pregnancies these days is due to the older mothers. Past the age of 35 your eggs become less stable, they aren't as tough as they used to be, baring in mind they are aged 35+ too. So the eggs split easier. I like to think I feel as though I have more energy now than I did when I was 21 but it is a whole new ball game when pregnant. Your body simply can't cope the same. I think any woman who wants babies sahould have them no matter what their age, within reason, but biology is different after a certain age.

cerilou

Hi ladies

I think the whole age issue will rumble on for years to come. Ultimately a lot of women feel they aren't ready to have children in their 20's and put it off until their 30's. I was 34 when I had my daughter and suffered a mc last week with my 2nd pregnancy. I will be 37 on Monday and appreciate that time may not be on my side but feel I am at the right age to emotionally and physically deal with a young family.

I agree that it's better to be aware of the possible pitfalls of having children a little later than is considered ideal, but once you have that urge, it's fair to say that nothing will stop you.

My OH and I are keen to try again once the shock and hurt of losing our LO has become easier to bear.

xx

todteach

nice to meet you Linzi. I'm 28 yrs old, had a miscarriage in May.

Omi

Hiya, sorry to hear about your loss.

I justed wanted to say i really appreciate hearing from 'older' ladies on here in the same boat as me, im 38 and had a mc in feb. (can i also say i understand the biological age is different that how you look and feel- i was refused buying a bottle of wine in Asda a few months back cause forgot id- didnt think i needed one, lol!!! ) But fact is this is where i am through no fault of my own may i add..i didnt put it off..its just how my life panned out. But i have noticed many women having healthy, easy pregnancies past 35 and healthy babies- so in the end i think its just a luck of the draw really..and some tenacity helps as well, lol!!

Im going to the doctors with my other half on the 14th, just to get the ball rolling cause i want to be proactive and not lose out on any chance i can have (although am prefectly healthy- just old eggs, lol). Point is- I will have a baby one day!!!

Good luck to all!!

, Omi xxx

linzi74

Hi Omi

Sorry about your mc. I guess on here we are in the same boat with that one so we all understand the pain and loss. This age debate will rage on and on but like you said, sometimes this is just how life works out. I am sure you and your partner will have beautiful LO very soon the best of luck to you both.

xxxx